Advice from Everyone please..

[flameout]

I feel you bro. Me an my ex went thru the same thing. I don't know if it helps, but i'll relate my experience anyway.
We did everything on bed, except having sex for around 4 or 5 years.

First few years, she was afraid of my lil bro going anywhere near her meimei.
After a while, it just proceed to grinding our groins. Then occasionally i will use my lil bro head to rub against her meimei, initially she was scared, of cause, then i will stop rubbing. This goes on for a long time, till she is used to it, and trust that i won't just slide my lil bro in conveniently, So lil bro rubbing meimei becomes a norm on bed. After some times, it just proceed to putting lil bro head peeping a tiny bit into her meimei while rubbing, like doing a fj. Same thing, this goes on for quite awhile until one day while doing the lil bro peeping thing, she just grab my ass and push it in inches by inches.

I guess the only way to overcome the barrier, in my case was trust, making her comfortable and not rush things.

[XiaoChang]

Unbelievable .. for 4 years do all kinds of things on bed except penetration

[Rattler]

Wow bro making her comfortable really take very long for you. Especially you 2 into heavy petting for 4 years .... didnt she get very high and want it instead of you want it ....

[tigerprawn]

Originally Posted by flameout

I feel you bro. Me an my ex went thru the same thing. I don't know if it helps, but i'll relate my experience anyway.
We did everything on bed, except having sex for around 4 or 5 years.

First few years, she was afraid of my lil bro going anywhere near her meimei.
After a while, it just proceed to grinding our groins. Then occasionally i will use my lil bro head to rub against her meimei, initially she was scared, of cause, then i will stop rubbing. This goes on for a long time, till she is used to it, and trust that i won't just slide my lil bro in conveniently, So lil bro rubbing meimei becomes a norm on bed. After some times, it just proceed to putting lil bro head peeping a tiny bit into her meimei while rubbing, like doing a fj. Same thing, this goes on for quite awhile until one day while doing the lil bro peeping thing, she just grab my ass and push it in inches by inches.

I guess the only way to overcome the barrier, in my case was trust, making her comfortable and not rush things.

Bro, I really admire you. 4 to 5 years without sex and you still persist. You must really loved her a lot if during this period of 4 to 5 years you never had sex with any other girls. SALUTE YOU MAN!!

[flameout]

Originally Posted by tigerprawn

Bro, I really admire you. 4 to 5 years without sex and you still persist. You must really loved her a lot if during this period of 4 to 5 years you never had sex with any other girls. SALUTE YOU MAN!!

Not true lah, i did stray, once. I felt so bad, so guilty about it everytime i see her or talk to her. She didn't suspect a thing though.

The burden was so much that i couldn't take it any longer, i just blurted out to her one day. Call me stupid, but it was a sigh of relief for me, and what comes next was of cause, hell. This happened a few years before we had sex.
And no, this is not the reason why we broke up eventually.

Come to think of it, we were together for more than 5 years. Pity it didn't last a lifetime.

[The MilkMan]

thanks everyone for sharing their experience here.
all of you are really very nice guys

[tigerprawn]

Originally Posted by flameout

Not true lah, i did stray, once. I felt so bad, so guilty about it everytime i see her or talk to her. She didn't suspect a thing though.

The burden was so much that i couldn't take it any longer, i just blurted out to her one day. Call me stupid, but it was a sigh of relief for me, and what comes next was of cause, hell. This happened a few years before we had sex.
And no, this is not the reason why we broke up eventually.

Come to think of it, we were together for more than 5 years. Pity it didn't last a lifetime.

Bro, 5 years and you only strayed once = you had full sex only 1 time during the 5 years. That still deserves a SALUTE!

Well, after going through so many heartaches, pains, betrayals, partings etc etc..... One thing i have learnt is that life has a lot to do with fate and what is yours will be yours and what will not be will not be. If it is meant to last, it will. But if it doesnt last, that also does not negate the love and feelings during those time together (unless there is gross cheating and betrayals involved). Take care Bro. Hope you will (or have you already) find the eternal true love of your life and live happily ever after.

[Sboobs_lover]

I got a friend who has been is a relationship for 7 yrs w/o sex, both male n female n kuai kuai one. Guy also ask our advise, so we told him to learn how to foreplay by passing him some education sex video n some AVs. Also watch the video together. And tell her sooner or later she still will need sex, so mus start trying.....

We told him to lick first instead of fingering. And when fingering, remember to cut ur fingernail and keep it clean.

His gf also scared of pain, so what he did also step by step. Foreplay long long n no full peneration. A bit by bit, even for fingering, no full insertion. If ur gf dun mind the lubrication, then use it.....Eventually after a few attempts they become true couple.....

[Xiao Zhu Zhu]

I think if both guai guai, he should let it flow naturally. I believe if they slowly like when alone, engage heavy petting, slowly they will buay tahan wanna explore IT . I think that is fun. The process I mean .. just like watching porn show, real hardcore, start only bang bang bang such a turn off

[Lumix]

Originally Posted by comm

i will deflower her for you

comm;2699338 let me deflower u.

[Lumix]

Btw TS if she's not ready dun force her, if she's willing for game, learn the rope of foreplay, u dun need ur dick to do all the job, the tongue can do a wonderful job if u know how to get her to the mood with ur tongue , and run ur fingers at the right places to get the mood going. I list some actions for u ba.

1. Run ur fingers at the inner thigh but dun go to the pussy

2. Lick the area around her nipple not the nipple

3. Lick her neck at the throat portion " Not a uber wet type, dry lick"

4. Gently nibble at the ears and whisper to her how much u love her

5. Open ur mouth for frenching, but when she come close ur mouth then follow by mouth contact but keep ur tongue, the finally full tongue probing

6. Lick the inner thigh up to the pussy as well but stop just before u lick the pussy

7. Finally lick the clitoris



By now she shd be wet enough alr , just go slow with her and let her know that it would not be a painful experience and if u ever penetrate her, go slow and dun be like a machine, let her overcome her phobia of u entering her first slow action and make sure even though she's wet, get lubricant to ensure that the action will be a smooth process

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by tigerprawn

Bro, let me tell you a true story. I have a good friend who is married for about 3 years now. And his wife is still a virgin! Same case as yours only difference is he is married already and stuck! He doesnt want to divorce so end up he sleep around outside etc etc... The entire marriage on the outside looks good but actually is nothing but a sham. And cos she is married, with the security of marriage she feels less motivation to right the problem and just happy with how things are. Heading for a big explosion someday but you get what i mean, if you dont do anything you will get yourself deeper into the quicksand.

Non-consumation of marriage is a valid ground for annulment, not even divorce. If your friend wants to part with her, dun have to worry abt women's charter i think. Annullment means go back to singlehood, not even divorcee... So if your friend is scared of divorce and its implications on men, tell him to seek a lawyer's help. If can annul, then lesser fear for your friend.

[friends123]

Bro you the man ,.... slowly entice the chabor until she cannot tahan and ask for IT herself

Originally Posted by Lumix

By now she shd be wet enough alr , just go slow with her and let her know that it would not be a painful experience and if u ever penetrate her, go slow and dun be like a machine, let her overcome her phobia of u entering her first slow action and make sure even though she's wet, get lubricant to ensure that the action will be a smooth process

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by Sam_Pro

She then told me that she would prefer me to deflower her when she's unconscious; perhaps via liqour or drugs. I feel like of odd if I really do it coz it feels like 'rape-ing' someone. I don't think bringing her to a psychatrist would do any help. I have tried a thousand and one ways to improve her self-confidence but no avail.

Why dun u do it her way and deflower her when she's unconscious? It's not sick if that's what she wants u to do right? Sometimes for ladies, once they think of losing her virginity that way, convincing her otherwise will lead to more anxiety for her. I know it's not the normal way to have sex but hey, it's only for the 1st time right? Once she's deflowered, she may want to be awake in future.

I know you may feel u are raping her but u know that's not the truth. Both of you got psychological barriers. The girl dun want to be awake (that can't be changed or helped) and the guy dun want to make love to an unconscious partner( i think u do this by changing how u look at the situation).

If you really cannot make it, i give u an idea. once she is unconscious, u insert a dildo into her and push in and out 40 times. Expand her vagina and make it sore. Then when she wakes up, u tell her u had deflowered her! She wun suspect a thing because her pussy will be sore. Then next time when you have real sex with her for the first time, 1. she will be awake and 2. u wun be fucking a sleeping lady.

How? my idea can work or not?

[Lumix]

Hmmm Bro Xgenre have some valid points but remember if she've not been deflowerd before she's likely to be a virgin, for some ladies to lose it is something that would be on the memory, it kinda sucks to sy i lost my virgin to a dildo sia haha.

But honestly i dun support the way of fucking while unconscious, Sex is meant to be enjoyed by 2 way not just 1 way channel