How should I take things to the next level?

[arsenal168]

Originally Posted by fringe929

or you can chut the pattern my first gf chut on me...

we were just like going out all the time together... but i never asked her to be my gf...

Then one day she turn and looked at me saying" my neighbors saw me and you together, asked me if i was her bf".... Then she looked into my eyes and said... "so ... are you my bf?".... stuck in such a sudden situation .. i blurted out..." ya...

Can try this if you want

In this mondern days, if the girl is interested in u, she will tell u or hint u.

Even the most shy girl will hint u subtly.

If u dun get any, means she is just comfortable as a friend with u at this stage n has no wish to take it further.

[sgxxr]

Originally Posted by avantas

Hi TS

Please don't have a "loser" mentality as " staying as a Friend if things don't work out ". I am in my forties now and seldom see any man and woman stay as friends with regular meet ups and conversations, especially if they are married.

I can understand that your affection for her may warrant a desire of a "no fish prawn is good" outcome. But it will just lead to disappointments and may impact your opportunities with other women.

Organise something special with her and pop the question. Typical sg women are very procedural, as Long as you do something unique to signify her value and you fit the profile of what she is looking for, she would accept it.

Do note that some woman love the spare tyre effect where you don't fit what they want but they keep you around for the attention and benefits.

Most of the time, my experiences taught me to move on to others if she rejects me on the first try regardless of her explanation or excuses. Things like "she needs more time", "she needs to know you better" are all stalling tactics by woman who have options other than you.

If the feeling is good and there are no other commitments, any sensible woman will give the relationship a try unless she prefers you to stay in the Friend zone.

This advice is gold.

It's pointless to "stay as friend" after initial rejection. It hinders you from moving on to a better girl

[25minutes]

TS -just say want to up her. What is the worst can happen?

[6livings]

Originally Posted by 25minutes

TS -just say want to up her. What is the worst can happen?

Same thoughts here.