what would u do if u found out that ur gf has been cheating on you? - Page 3

zlon · #31 10-09-2013, 07:57 PM

my exp was my EX became a les thanks to a butch came into my relationship n destroy everything i have build for 3 yrs it was pain for me but i just had to stand up n carry on walking. nothing is forever.

yy0202 · #32 11-09-2013, 02:48 AM

When im in a r/s, i will nv cheat or even visit pros, so i expect the same comitment, if she cheats, then i will cheat too, at the same time use her as much as possible till the final breakup.

Communication is impt, if ur partner is lacking of something, discuss n find solution. Cheating will not end good.

doubletap · #33 11-09-2013, 09:44 AM

hi all,

I m not trying to hijack TS in tis thread. but instead, I ve got comforting words from ppl from all walks of life. I APPRECIATE YR WORDS, GUYS.

it has been 7 pure mths. it's really controlling myself not to write more here. I dunno how to input ficticious words, but really wish to write... in order for my heart to rest better. but I know if I write more, I will be recognized further.

how I wish there s anything online or other means, for me to write abt it. in my heart, I always wanna pen down a lot of things tats in my heart. not hoping tat she read abt it, which she dun read anything off or online at all....... but to write down is to bring relief to my heart.

my frds have been good to be tat they ve been listenting to me. I dun wanna keep bothering them abt e same fact over n over again. I aso dun wish to meet someone here nice enuf to offer time to me, then repeat all over n over again....

tks all for yr kind words. appreciated!

DemonicSS · #34 11-09-2013, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by zlon

my exp was my EX became a les thanks to a butch came into my relationship n destroy everything i have build for 3 yrs it was pain for me but i just had to stand up n carry on walking. nothing is forever.

Personally, this is one of the worst scenarios that could ever happen to a relationship. I mean, if your partner went with another guy, you could concede and claim that he might be a more suitable match for her, he's a better guy than me etc... but to the same sex as her? It's like in a soccer match, where your opponent unveils a cannon, loads up a ball and takes aim at your goal.

obeyyodude · #35 11-09-2013, 07:54 PM

you can change your relationship, ask her to be your fb instead if she likes sex that much? like this you will be free, but retain benefits

Alf1977 · #36 12-09-2013, 11:57 PM

Cheat 2x back behind her back ... An eye for an eye .. At least you won't look like a loser

scottshin · #37 13-09-2013, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Smaashfoo

As per the title.. what would u do if u found out that ur gf has been sleeping with another guy? If both of you have been together for v long? Would you forgive her?

This has been discussed to death. There's no way you can forgive her because it's how men are designed. We are territorial creatures and women are part of our "properties". When a woman cheats, she has thought about this for many many times before she does it. Therefore, it serves you no purpose in keeping her as she already made up her mind that you're worth losing over the other guy. No amount of remorse can make up to that. Thus I would say it is a futile attempt to keep a woman who subconsciously no longer wants you, or rather who pines over another guy more than you. Even if she tracks back and says how sorry she is, the line has been crossed and as a man you will need to take tough decision. This is where your mettle is proven. If you accept her back, you will be seen as weak in her eyes (consciously or subconsciously). There's no way of getting around it. If you don't accept her back, cut all contacts, and move on, you will be seen as A MAN. I believe you know what to do and you just need validation from other forum members. All the best and take care.

freefuck · #38 13-09-2013, 07:14 PM

If ur gf cheat u, u cheat back. In this society , it common that couple cheat one another, it just a matter of who cheat first.

scottshin · #39 13-09-2013, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by freefuck

If ur gf cheat u, u cheat back. In this society , it common that couple cheat one another, it just a matter of who cheat first.

Like kids, yo. You scratch my back, I scratch yours. Quid pro quo, motherfxxker.

HappyOwl · #40 14-09-2013, 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Smaashfoo

As per the title.. what would u do if u found out that ur gf has been sleeping with another guy? If both of you have been together for v long? Would you forgive her?

Bro. Smaashfoo, I will forgive her.

Based on my personal experiences, it is very important to find out exactly why it happened this way. What is the root cause that resulted in such a state before calling the relationship off. So I can be a better man whom my next girlfriend would be very very proud of.

1) A high number of guys turned violent ended up facing the walls in cell because you can't escape from the law. They then regretted their actions being too silly but it was also too late.

2) A high number of guys turned emotional ended up drunken on the streets, pubs, clubs, etc... but it will not change the facts that a fact is still a fact.

3) I choose to respect the decision made by a lady. I would really hope they could be more courageous to come up to me to express themselves clearly so we can still be friends/ friends with no benefits.

Smaashfoo · #41 14-09-2013, 01:32 PM

Thanks to everyone here that have replyed to my question. There is a number of touching responses which i could relate to. My situation is a slightly different one though. I am e guy which e ger cheated with. The ger joined the company which I was at about a year ago. She is attached to her bf for about 7 years. The ger and I hit it off very well from the on set.. and it wasnt long before we became physically intimate. She is not able to reject e advances, but after each session of physical intimacy, she would be v unhappy and sad. We continued this for several months till after one night of vigourous activity, she felt so guilty that she decided not to talk to me anymore. We still see each other everyday at work though we hardly acknowledge each other. Recently, she started being very close to a married colleague, like how we used to be. I guess I am quite sore and jealous that I have lost her as a close friend and now that soreness has turned to anger. What should I do? Suck it up like a man or tell her bf about her infidelity? Sorry if I come across like I am a real jerk.. but I guess im just after all a human with weaknesses..

DemonicSS · #42 14-09-2013, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Smaashfoo

Thanks to everyone here that have replyed to my question. There is a number of touching responses which i could relate to. My situation is a slightly different one though. I am e guy which e ger cheated with. The ger joined the company which I was at about a year ago. She is attached to her bf for about 7 years. The ger and I hit it off very well from the on set.. and it wasnt long before we became physically intimate. She is not able to reject e advances, but after each session of physical intimacy, she would be v unhappy and sad. We continued this for several months till after one night of vigourous activity, she felt so guilty that she decided not to talk to me anymore. We still see each other everyday at work though we hardly acknowledge each other. Recently, she started being very close to a married colleague, like how we used to be. I guess I am quite sore and jealous that I have lost her as a close friend and now that soreness has turned to anger. What should I do? Suck it up like a man or tell her bf about her infidelity? Sorry if I come across like I am a real jerk.. but I guess im just after all a human with weaknesses..

Oh, move on already dude, while I pity her, she kinda is the type that will always stay in her own cycle of death - Always unhappy and sad. If you like, you can wait for her when she's single again, though it would be advisable to know "how" she became single before doing anything else.

DemonicSS · #43 14-09-2013, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by freefuck

If ur gf cheat u, u cheat back. In this society , it common that couple cheat one another, it just a matter of who cheat first.

Society is based on how everyone works and treats each other and ultimately, it is up to you the individual that decides if you want the world to be a better place or worse.

Smaashfoo · #44 14-09-2013, 10:00 PM

Thanks. I am really quite heartened to know that there is so much wisdom in what is essentially a sex forum. Thanks to all for ur comments.mayb.. I shld start narrating my story one day.. haha

HappyOwl · #45 15-09-2013, 05:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Smaashfoo

Thanks to everyone here that have replyed to my question. There is a number of touching responses which i could relate to. My situation is a slightly different one though. I am e guy which e ger cheated with. The ger joined the company which I was at about a year ago. She is attached to her bf for about 7 years. The ger and I hit it off very well from the on set.. and it wasnt long before we became physically intimate. She is not able to reject e advances, but after each session of physical intimacy, she would be v unhappy and sad. We continued this for several months till after one night of vigourous activity, she felt so guilty that she decided not to talk to me anymore. We still see each other everyday at work though we hardly acknowledge each other. Recently, she started being very close to a married colleague, like how we used to be. I guess I am quite sore and jealous that I have lost her as a close friend and now that soreness has turned to anger. What should I do? Suck it up like a man or tell her bf about her infidelity? Sorry if I come across like I am a real jerk.. but I guess im just after all a human with weaknesses..

We seems to have a similar but different episode in our love tales.

I used to fall head over heels over a lady who is a true beauty. There were so many guys mesmerized by her beauty. There were Mercs, BMW, Lexus queuing to drive her home, to work, to shop but she was dating me. ME?

As our relationship got deeper, she asked me to take leave so we could go oversea for a 'us' time. My mind said please book the air tickets fast but my heart said please think again. To cut the story short, I was secretly told that she was already married with children but her intention was not to reveal anything about it and her hubby was hidden in the dark as well. Imagine if her hubby found out about us, is it going to be me? ME AGAIN

My heart sank of course. Am I feeling sore? Yes, of course. Am I angry? Yes, of course again. Did she felt guilty? Definitely not. She still dates my colleague. So, should I do anything? Definitely not again. I should Thank her for the valuable lesson crafted in my life instead. At least, I learned to be smarter and stronger when it comes to 'Matters Of The Heart.'