Intimacy issues with BF

[consultant]

Originally Posted by Likeucare

haha tell me if u solve the problem a not ok, TS. I also having same problem. cannot sleep always .. want to do it but cant do it with him. dunno what to do already. once u had great sex before. masturbation is like shit. sorry to say that haha

anytime u need protected intimacy pm me.

[Javanoob]

Originally Posted by Sensual8725

Same as u, BF still holds my hands, touch me, hug, kiss etc and tells me he loves me very much everyday. There was once we argued and he did admitted that the lack of initiation of intimacy is due to addiction to gaming, which is a killer to me. After improving for awhile, now he rather play games than let me touch him. Well, I don't initiate very often but just those times I initiated, he rejects me which angers me. Am I less attractive than a video game? So now i decided not to initiate anything anymore. He is so selfish. For the times he wanted sex, sometimes I just finish doing heavy household chores, he want it means he want it no matter how tired I tell him I am and I will give to him.

Xgenre, I go out with other guys not to boost my confidence. I am a confident woman but i do it because i need to keep myself occupied. i feel lonely in this relationship although on the surface, there is nothing wrong at all. At the same time, the way BF is behaving is putting me off.

It is his idea to have the designated days or rather, he didn't voice it out but he will only do it on those 2 days and it cannot be too late. i just don't think a sex life should be so designated as sometimes i want it to be passionate and let things fall into place and not just a schedule. i usually initiated in bed so definitely its private enough and its around 9pm obviously he is not going to sleep yet. then he tells me he is tired. if i don't initiate, he will be at his computer playing games and sleeping much later. he is only 3 years older than me, so i don't see how his energy for sex will be nil. at the same time, pls note that he watches porn when i'm not around. so he does feel horny but rather watch porn to release.

Thanks for replies.

chicken rice very delicious, give u eat everyday how ? u want ?

[Javanoob]

Originally Posted by Likeucare

even when its a pretty babe?

i also feel my bf dun want to do it anymore... dont think theres fl or prostitution too.. =( he treats me very well in all areas except this.. he still holds my hand n try to touch me at times.. but thats all.. he can go on few months w/o sex is that normal..and no i am not bad in bed cos i used to have an ex who cant have it enough with me.. we could do many times each time and still find it kinky

gaming is his life

all gamers dun like sex that much ha? or really bored le?

-___- like that very soon all the gers will start a sammygirl forum le HAHAHAHA

1) i am a gamer. i game since i am 15, now i am 29. i dont know how many gf break wif me becos i choose game over her.

2) be it a gamer, plumber, gambler, whatever, give me fiona xie anytime, i choose to fuck her 1st then play game

3) singapore and the whole world not only you 36C and not only you pretty, so why ur bf must so sian gian to fuck you.

why you all know the answer you all keep asking questions to make urself feel better when in the end, it felt much worst. ??

[burningicez]

Get him a new gf!

Originally Posted by Sensual8725

BF and i have a normal sex life. I enjoy the sex and intimacy very much and sex with him is one of the best sex i ever had. Usually we have sex twice a week, which i think can be further improved but he is always tired. I also spice up our sex life by wearing sexy lingerie everyday and costumes to arouse him. I bother to give blowjobs and different positions and have suggested outdoor sex. But our sex is still limited to a fixed schedule, I know when it will happen on the very 2 days every week. Sometimes, I try to arouse him by touching him and stripping into my sexy lingerie, but he gets irritated instead because it is simply not the day for sex, says he is tired, not in the mood and gets irritated. He therefore forbids me from touching his vital parts during the “non-sex days” which angers me.

Don’t ask me why. But I am very sure there is no third parties or affairs or FL activities. Let’s just factor this out. BF does watch porn and DIY, I know it because he doesn’t bother to delete the history. He is also into lan games and spend hours after work on them. There was a few months straight I didn’t have sex with him and he did not initiate either. He told me the lack of sex is due to wearing condom, so now we don’t wear a condom and sex frequency is normal.

I really don’t understand why. I am a 25yo attractive woman with good figure (I am a C cup with slim waist) and features and many men will be dying to have me touch them like that or being naughty. Why does he gets irritated instead? I always feel sexy but after my advances were rejected, I felt he is bringing my confidence down. He only likes me to arouse him when he wants sex, and I think it is damn selfish because I don’t even have the rights to touch him? This fills me up with much anger and resentment and now when guys ask me out, I go ahead because I felt pissed (no betrayal involved though and not interested in other guys.) Why does BF have an intimacy issue during “non-sex” days? This is really frustrating and getting to me. We do not have other relationship problems other than this lack of intimacy .

Thanks bros in advance for sharing your opinions. Sorry for the long message.

[shctaw]

Maybe you are not the only GF.

和尚多粥一点点

Only reason maybe he is feeding a few girls instead of you. Just maybe....

PS: Some men are good at hiding other girl from your sight and radar.

[RUNWEST]

Sista, he might have empty his round on the 'non-sex'days.

Nevertheless, you can always start off with a BJ, no guy will reject it.

[Xgenre]

I think he has a gaming addiction. That's the issue.

Please don't think that just because he doesn't want sex from you, he's getting sex elsewhere. There is no evidence and no links to suggest he's unfaithful. Be clear about that. Hope you aren't thinking of finding a substitute partner for sex.

[bmw7050black]

Originally Posted by Sensual8725

Sis, He's 28. I am 25. So pretty young?

Gaofar,
that's funny!
anyway he is not the first man in my life lar.. just didn't want him to get addicted to those fantasy games. i keep emphasizing to him that i am a real person, not his lan games. hope things will improve. games are a real relationship destroyer.

Hey gal

Y not u post ur pic, then let bros assess whether u attractive onot?

Either his didi cant make it, or sick & tired of you liao

[lamhai]

ts, do you show that you love him; do you cook his favorite food for him, ask his good frens to your place for dinner, rub his shoulder when he is tired, listen to him when he talks with full focus, greet him when he is back from work, care about his family and members, buy him dress, offer you help in your daily life with him, go some where for holidays with him, pay attention what game he is playing and what level he is at...do you?

[hotstuffm8]

trolololol

[Gambit7]

I had a very similar situation to TS at 1 stage of my life except I'm the guy part and TS is my gf. Therefore, i think i know what ur bf exactly feel. 1 main reason why he lacks the intimacy that u have been looking for is very very obvious to see. He simply disinterested in u already. Sorry guys, but guys' a bitch. U can't open ur card plainly for guys to see Or else he will feel very sian wan. Guys need that distance, time and space too in order for the love to stay fresh in the relationship. Also girls need to keep lots of things with her to keep the suspense up. To this ex-gf of mine did exactly like what u did. At first, i would feel wow this girl loves it!! Im so lucky!! This and that. But after awhile, when there's too much of sex without any real suspense, i got tired!! I dont want it anymore. It's so boring... Then along come games like CS or WOW, which i treat as a form of escape from all these boring stuffs... And when guys got to this point, sorry TS, u might have to do something very radical if u wanna recover from this like breaking up with her or something, to let her realise what he's missing, that way u might be able to return the fire back to this relationship. Mind u, I love sex, i would have sex with my ex-gf every day but the trick is to keep the suspense up. I proved this on my next gal. I treated her very delicately in term of this and we really had the time of our lives together...

[wittyman]

TS find some interesting spicy thing elsewheres, must understand everyday eat same dish the most painful thing to man.

if really nothing to do and depressed by bf remember lot of bros including me here willing to help

[Sensual8725]

Thanks Xgenre brother. I too thinks that it is due to the gaming addiction and he has no interest in sex and he is distracted all the time. He kinds of tells me his reason for gaming addiction is due to me being away and he does this to keep himself occupied.

I read through all the comments, some are invalid, while others are empathetic and thoughtful. Thank u nevertheless to those who bother to reply. I can only say, I have my reasons for being upset. We USED TO have sex twice a week. He has confined sex to 2 days of the week and I may not see him for those 2 days because I fly around. Tat is the reason y I said we did not do it for few months for one period of time. Most of the time when I return from overseas, he did not initiate sex as well after not seeing me for days at a time. THIS YEAR, I can also count the number of times we have sex with both hands, and I am not happy. I don't feel good because I don't feel the closeness. Its not like I need sex, guys. FYI, girls don't really need it or rather can don't have it. The urge is not really strong till we have to find someone to substitute. But I want to do it for the passion, the closeness and the intimacy and I puts in effort like dolling myself up every single day even when I am shagged out from flights, I buy sexy french lingeries and hunt for pretty lingeries during overseas trips ALL THE TIME. I don't mind sex toys even and am open to try as long if he OPENS UP TO ME! Am still pretty sure there is no infidelity, I have my own reasons for saying this but lazy to explain in details. Needless to say, I end up disappointed and disgruntled at the fact that I dress up beautifully in and out and got craps from him being tired ALL THE TIME. He's a white collar working in an office environment, i don't think he should get that tired! Look who's more tired? NOOO! I will be a laughing stock if I tell my real life friends about this because no one can believe it. Sex is nothing special without the passion and hence I told him I am switching it off for him if it doesn't work for us.

To be fair, lastly I want to state this . . . I think guys or girls likewise, if u fail your duty as a husband/bf/wife/gf to fulfill the intimacy and the vows of love or marriage, please don't blame people for being unfaithful! Lousy excuse!

[bmw7050black]

Originally Posted by Sensual8725

Thanks Xgenre brother. I too thinks that it is due to the gaming addiction and he has no interest in sex and he is distracted all the time. He kinds of tells me his reason for gaming addiction is due to me being away and he does this to keep himself occupied.

I read through all the comments, some are invalid, while others are empathetic and thoughtful. Thank u nevertheless to those who bother to reply. I can only say, I have my reasons for being upset. We USED TO have sex twice a week. He has confined sex to 2 days of the week and I may not see him for those 2 days because I fly around. Tat is the reason y I said we did not do it for few months for one period of time. Most of the time when I return from overseas, he did not initiate sex as well after not seeing me for days at a time. THIS YEAR, I can also count the number of times we have sex with both hands, and I am not happy. I don't feel good because I don't feel the closeness. Its not like I need sex, guys. FYI, girls don't really need it or rather can don't have it. The urge is not really strong till we have to find someone to substitute. But I want to do it for the passion, the closeness and the intimacy and I puts in effort like dolling myself up every single day even when I am shagged out from flights, I buy sexy french lingeries and hunt for pretty lingeries during overseas trips ALL THE TIME. I don't mind sex toys even and am open to try as long if he OPENS UP TO ME! Am still pretty sure there is no infidelity, I have my own reasons for saying this but lazy to explain in details. Needless to say, I end up disappointed and disgruntled at the fact that I dress up beautifully in and out and got craps from him being tired ALL THE TIME. He's a white collar working in an office environment, i don't think he should get that tired! Look who's more tired? NOOO! I will be a laughing stock if I tell my real life friends about this because no one can believe it. Sex is nothing special without the passion and hence I told him I am switching it off for him if it doesn't work for us.

To be fair, lastly I want to state this . . . I think guys or girls likewise, if u fail your duty as a husband/bf/wife/gf to fulfill the intimacy and the vows of love or marriage, please don't blame people for being unfaithful! Lousy excuse!

You r bluffing yourselg and dont have courage to face the fact. High possibility he going GL and found their skills much hgoher than your lah.

Wan our bros take turn train you onot?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Actually， sexual intimacy is a very sensitive taboo subject to discuss about.
Men women the same, in a sense that, once they've experienced a higher form of sexual pleasure other than the usual BJ or tonguing then penetration, all else prior to that is plain boring n non appealing anymore.
Personal point of view, been there, done that & experienced all that.
The only way I feel is, my dear, dun suggest or dress sexily to him, you wan, just RAPE him but fuck him in a way u never did like a wild hungry full of libido woman till his knees goes weak n doesn't stop moaning.
As u hv already explained clearly, the usual stroking n sexy dressing doesn't work anymore so it's plain silly to still apply the same techniques to try to seduce him.
But pls explore more ways n new techniques to keep his dick hard!
Trust me, if you can keep his dick hard for u, u hv ur man.
If he can't keep it HARD for u, ur in deep deep trouble!