Extramarital Affair: Truly in love with each other

[between2heart]

Tks bro

I feel marriage is so haggard,sine it will end with lot of trouble why tied the knot at the at the first place?

[see see only]

Truly in love with each other ??


Most extramarital affairs are sweet and loving ... after been divorced twice i experienecd the same as well.

A very simple reason - relationship like this has very low expectation toward each other ...

Be it:-

• Financial disagreement

• in-law’s different opinion

• untold agenda before marriage

• broken promises

• friends’ comments on ideal partners

• etc etc

Nevertheless enjoy each other to the max, such r/s is one of the best way to destress. And just remember or take note, things may not be the same if two of you are married. It may be really Déjà vu, when the situation is the other way round (when your wife is your extramarital affair partner instead)

[OceanMaster]

Originally Posted by see see only

It may be really Déjà vu, when the situation is the other way round (when your wife is your extramarital affair partner instead)

ha! you are spot on Bro!

Thats utterly what I meant.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by see see only

... after been divorced twice i experienecd the same as well.

Woah! Bro, will you consider marrying again?

[2centsworth]

Originally Posted by between2heart

Tks bro

I feel marriage is so haggard,sine it will end with lot of trouble why tied the knot at the at the first place?

To have children. Most jump into marriage without any inkling of what being married is. People change after marriage too. So the person you propose to may not be the person you marry... Character wise I mean. Actually cohabiting first before marriage is quite a good idea.

[see see only]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

Woah! Bro, will you consider marrying again?

Of cos i will ... me now already married to MONEY

[chinacuntlover]

Think consequence can take?
Divorce, kid...alimony...

If ok, can try ktv, bt timah forest, changi coastline,
Oversea anywhere also can la....

[Reoxy]

Every couples, every families will have their own unique set of problems which others will not be fully comprehensive to give advice.

The only qualified judge will be yourself because ultimately, you will be the one to bear the full brunt of the consequences.

When a couple breaks up or a family falls apart, there are no winners. One party may emerge as more victorious but ultimately, everyone involved are losers.

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by fourhorseman

Seriously, you have 2 kids, she have 3. Thats 5 children that are going to be messed up, just because you can't make that effort to love your wife, inspite of your issues with her. If that is the case, then you should not have rushed into the marriage with her. Then you can eat out all you want, and leave her if you really find her incompatible with you. Now not only are you justifying for yourself, you seem to be justifying for her as well. She will have a story that is convenient to her, and instead of taking everything with a pinch of salt, you buy into the fact that she neglected.

agreed.
many ppl who get into emotional affairs with other ppl wife/husband often do not think about the aftershock effects they create in both families.
if TS doesn't bother to work things out with his wife, at least pay more attention to his kids.

my mum did get into such a rs with another man and the outcome did have an effect on me after seeing how my father confront another guy right in the face.
perhaps that's why till date, i'm still single and sometimes i find it particularly hard to trust local ladies...
this emotional scar does get pass onto your kids when the confrontation happens right in front of them.

[huanggua]

Originally Posted by arsenal_84

agreed.
many ppl who get into emotional affairs with other ppl wife/husband often do not think about the aftershock effects they create in both families.
if TS doesn't bother to work things out with his wife, at least pay more attention to his kids.

my mum did get into such a rs with another man and the outcome did have an effect on me after seeing how my father confront another guy right in the face.
perhaps that's why till date, i'm still single and sometimes i find it particularly hard to trust local ladies...
this emotional scar does get pass onto your kids when the confrontation happens right in front of them.

You shouldn't blame your mum for it and let this incident imprison you. Much marriage difficulty and unhappiness are due to the failure of the partners to accept the fact of their finiteness. So do not be terrified. Be strong and courageous.

[Dickens1111]

Dear TS, Just want to share some experiences, some personal ones and some from close friends. I will not mince my words so people, please dun flame or zap me, anyway, nothing to zap liao la.

First, here is my analysis of your intent behind this post:-

1. I agree with 4horseman in many areas. You are not seeking advise but affirmation and you are likely going to see what you want to see from the varied responses. You want to prove to yourself that whatever you have dcided (which is to continue) is not wrong. The fact that at the end you are asking ppl where to have discreet meetings is proof of the intent.

2. We heard your side of the story but not your wife's. You cited rather nasty things about her like about ur mother. Just like above, this is the affirmation from the -ve aspects of your wife, to proof you deserve better and that 'She made me do it, it wasn't my fault'.

You situation:-

1. if you eat abalone and sharkfins for every meal for a year, you'll love to eat salted fish and eggs once in a while. Welcome to the 90th percentile of all marriages, YES IT GETS MIGHTY BORING (especially licking, fucking the same pussy! - sorry for being crude but I need you to ask yourself this question, there is a strong element of a new pussy isn't there?).

2. It is not uncommon that if a courtship is too long, over 6 yrs, they tend to break up because, IT GOT BORING. Like the routine of calling each other everyday but run out of topics to chat about for the next hr, and end up quarreling (sounds familiar?). To survive that r/s, u need to start a new project that involves both of you.... a good one is planning for your wedding. Walah, bonding is reignited. Then there will be building your new home, wham! Further bonding through shopping together, decorating etc. Then kids come and the bonding even stronger. But then, most couples will get so sucked up in family building they forgot about each other, attention all on kids, schools, exams. That is when there is no new projects to ignite the bonding. And that is when it drifts. Sounds familiar? if it does, then YOU ARE NORMAL. Why i say this is, stop making excuses to bang your colleague.

3. Your timing is also very zhun. 40+, mid life crisis, are you still attractive, can you still pump and pump and make the woman scream (dun bluff that nv crossed ur mind). So when a lady shows she is 'available' it reignited the hunting instinct in you, and perhaps her trapping instinct as well.

4. At last, you and ur colleague are in this state, playing with fire.

Warning!
1. All relationships are lovy dovy from the beginning. Each will be at their best behaviours. Caring, loving, sweet nothings all the time... till the novelty wears off.

2. You 2 are just enjoying the moment. There are lots of cases where ppl initiate a divorce to see their other 'significant other' run away. Man you may be willing to sacrifice ur 2 kids and wife but she may not. Then you will be left with mouth wide open, looking like an idiot i tell you. Or vice versa with her divorcing.

3. What makes you think that ur colleague won't hv other issues. I have a friend who is in his 4th marriage.

4. What about all the kids. Even what you say is 100% true, YOU ARE THEIR FATHER & SHE MOTHER TO HERS. the kids are innocent, dun deprive them of a complete family. When you are 80, it won't be ur wife or ur lover, but ur kids who have to nurse you and bury you.

Conclusion
If you like to relive your younger days with ur colleague, by all means but make it absolutely clear to yourselves about dumping 2 families for 1 new one. There is no guarantee and as they say, a bird in hand is worth 2 in the bush. So long as both are clear where the parameters of your playground is, then by all means but dun get her preggie. When at home, leave everything behind and focus on ur wife and kids, it only makes ur escapedes less stressful with a less suspicious wife (I am not advocating this but telling you not to rock the peace at home). Be a responsible man, husband and father like the 90th percentil of men.

A notti closing statement
Rekindle the marriage, bring your wife to swing! LOLs. or a 3some with ur colleague

But seriously, you want to fuck around, it is only human for males (pro-creation ma) but dun fuck your family around along. If you truly believe ur marriage has a problem, then dump ur colleague, solve it face on without the complication and insurance of a 3rd Party and hv a clean conscience. Then u can truly believe what you are doing (divorce nia hor, not hv an affair) is correct. Or, just make sure it is pure sex and fun and companion and not beyond.

[tomdh]

there's a funny thought though that's been currently swirling in my mind:
i love my family, i don't want to hurt my wife + kids, but our relationship does need a lot of repair.
i have a lovely girl outside, who is sweet, single & most charming.

WHAT IF i come out clean and confess this affair to my wife AND try to convince her that we can work out a 'concubine policy'? (all with the assumption that i am financially able)

wouldn't that be a great fantasy coming true!? actually concubinage goes back well into history, maybe we should bring it back. that'll stop all the 偷偷摸摸, and bring everything to light. if a guy has the ability to support and take care of 2 families, why not? you just need to know how to play fair, and take equally good care for all the parties involved, wife, concubine, kids.

i'd love to hear what some of you guys or even gals may say about this.

[korg2020]

Thanks for all your feedback....just wondering in this small island of Singapore, is there really someone out there who is fulfilling his duties as a father yet having a true extra marital relationship with another married person whom he or she can confide in?

[Reoxy]

Originally Posted by korg2020

Thanks for all your feedback....just wondering in this small island of Singapore, is there really someone out there who is fulfilling his duties as a father yet having a true extra marital relationship with another married person whom he or she can confide in?

I am sure there are many.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by tomdh

i'd love to hear what some of you guys or even gals may say about this.

Can! Go back to the old age....
Cum cum... contribute here:
http://sbfsg.agency/showthread.php?t=254582