Life Story to Share - Difficult Times

[sg_boytoy]

Dear TS, stop wallowing in self-pity and self-righteousness. There is no good reason for whatever you're doing as married man and a father.

If it was right, you should be able to tell your wife and kids about it, but it's not so my advice is to stop destroying your family.

You have a job that pays decently, focus on your job instead.

[Dylkait]

nice story please carry on , thks

[MoralEpitome]

Originally Posted by sg_boytoy

Dear TS, stop wallowing in self-pity and self-righteousness. There is no good reason for whatever you're doing as married man and a father.

If it was right, you should be able to tell your wife and kids about it, but it's not so my advice is to stop destroying your family.

You have a job that pays decently, focus on your job instead.

I kinda agree, if you are married, better to go for transactional and not feelings

[kue19xx]

Hi TS..

From a family point of view...stop! before your love one get hurts..it is a terrible feeling..not any amount of money would buy back the trust...

I know it is easier said then done..I do eat out but never bring it home..I experienced a hell break loose once..I cant afford to break again..

Like one of the bro mentioned..we are emotional creatures...sometimes it is realy hard....

Thanks for sharing yr real life story..

[DarthRevan]

Interesting..keen to know the aftermath

[1nottiboy]

TS, i understand the situation that you are in and I wanna tell you that to eat outside is normal. having a FB is also normal. But when emotions are involved with the food outside, thats a BIG no-no!!!

I hang out with a bunch of frens and relatives about the same age group and social status (as you) and I can tell you that none of us bring emotional baggage home. WE HAVE TOO MUCH TO LOSE!!! The 2 main reasons why we don't have mistresses is because of our fear of losing our kids and losing half our assets (that's a lot of money and no woman is worth that type of money even if you have too much to burn). We focus our energies on making money, partying hard outside of sg, and maybe the occassional ONS/FB (based on the stories we share, I estimate that each guy gets about 1 new ONS/FB a year). So before you ruin your life and your children's lifes, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get your priorities right!!!

I know the pain is going to be hard to bear but there are always painkillers. When I went thru the very same episode in my life, I used alcohol and fucked my balls dry with FLs to stop the pain. It worked for me and it should work for you too. 1 of the reason you are finding it hard to let go is cos you are thinking with your dick and when your testis are full of sperm. Once you have released all your sperm, your thinking ability will return.

I don't know your wife, but I can tell you that my wife's devotion to me is only second to my mum's. I give my wife so much nonsense that I am amazed that she loves me more than ever. I give her so little (love and money) but yet she gives me her everything. I can safely tell you from what I see around me, most wives' devotion to their husband is total. I am sure yours is too. So please treasure that. I know all the guys around me do.

And 1 last thing, you are fucking way too close to home. Go ahead and get a FB but not from the work place.

Hope this helps.

[blohsg]

Originally Posted by 1nottiboy

But when emotions are involved with the food outside, thats a BIG no-no!!!

I can tell you that none of us bring emotional baggage home. WE HAVE TOO MUCH TO LOSE!!!

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get your priorities right!!!

Once you have released all your sperm, your thinking ability will return.

I don't know your wife, but I can tell you that my wife's devotion to me is only second to my mum's. I give my wife so much nonsense that I am amazed that she loves me more than ever. I give her so little (love and money) but yet she gives me her everything. I can safely tell you from what I see around me, most wives' devotion to their husband is total. I am sure yours is too. So please treasure that. I know all the guys around me do.

Pearls of Wisdom

[Cunt-Sucker]

TS, first of all, thanks for sharing this experience (I'm assuming it's real & not fictitious huh?).

I think most of the bro here would have come across something similar in their lives. For me, I used to be in your same situation too; however, my GF was not as accommodating when it concerned my family. She didn't try to create havoc for me by threatening to spill out the beans or informing my wife, but she was really hoping that I could make the split with my then-wife. Back then, I lacked the courage though I was already having different set of problems with my then-wife. I rejected my GF, and she cried so hard in front of me that I almost relented. But then, I thought, since I was the ass-hole who started this problem, then I have not right to hurt my then-wife like that; I'd rather suffer in silent with my GF than to hurt another innocent party. And so, we truly broke off ... Of course, it helped that my GF was from Japan and thus couldn't really stay here for long to drag things on ...

Fast forward now, I finally pluck up the courage to severe the ties with my ex-wife, and after some times, I'm now happily married to a local girl now. Although at times, I'm having problems with my current wife in terms of the amount of sex that we're having, and that I am still exposed to ample of opportunities to jump into the bandwagon of FB with KC (I have to admit, it's a totally different experience making love to someone with KC vs. fucking a whore, and the difference can be very addictive & tempting) I'm restricting myself to only the professionals for the following reasons:

1. I made a promise to never let another girl cry so heartbrokenly;
2. I truly love my wife, & I've kept a copy of the vow that I took when I married her in my phone, so that it can act as my "Bible" in times of emergency ;
3. I'm trying to atone my mistakes for as much as I can, since I'm now a proud Dad of a real beautiful and heartwarming princess, and I certainly pray hard that my princess will NEVER have to go through any of such sufferings in her path of relationship (No choice lah! As we age everyday, can't help but to become more & more superstitious on things like Karma & retributions ... )

Just my 2-cents worth ... Hope you don't mind my nagging! All the best & take care!

[Bangster]

If phone no battery, how?

[AudiKoupA5]

Originally Posted by DarthRevan

Interesting..keen to know the aftermath

Life goes on....(continued)

We are back together again. Looking back, we have been discreetly together for 2 years n 2 mths. We been through plenty of happy n rough times. I believe, this is the main reason why we are holding on - cherish our love n effort we had invested, we are do used to each other at certain day of the time. We still make love, but not as frequent as before. 1 or twice a mth. Due to the fact, she has no mood for it. Becos of the certain issue, things started to change, she start to hint me - giving her $$$. She started to talk abt $$$ with me but did not demand. I dun blame her, being s single mother is difficult, her son will be going to school soon. She had her own set of problems to resolve. The thoughtfulness n sweet moment we used to have started to go missing. There was not much effort. I was unhappy.
I start to wonder.... should I offer her $ on a regular basis, to help her take care of her present problem? So tat she will be happy again? I ask myself, what will I get at the end of the days? Shld I give in to her other request.... I start to feel very unhappy.... I feel like giving up, giving up everything as the love is fading.... my energy is depleting n mind always so heavy, I only feeling like having sex with her without obligation, but as a matter of principle, I decided I should not treat her this way.Why not just let our love slowly died off....


P.s. wonder was I being zapped? I rem Bro chichiahoe n boinking did fill up my Audi A5 coupe. Fuel tank leak. Haha...

[chinchiahoe]

Yes Bro TS, someone zapped you. Maybe he's not happy with the way you handle this extramarital affair.

But anyway, since you mentioned that the love is dying off and things are alot different from before, I truly think that it's time to move on. You mentioned that you were thinking what will you get in the end, I think you may end up getting a broken family. Make a wise choice bro. What can you expect to get out of a underground relationship?

[naturegreen]

Wanna makan outside, make sure at the end of the day, know how to go back home. That's rule number 1 for married men/women.

[chinchiahoe]

What happened Bro TS? Don't tell me the worst happened? That's why you never update for so long.

[axxo]

coz ppl zap him

[penisman]

Bro TS,
I was in your shoes and situations last year. trust me it was a tragic end for me. I had a great career path ahead of me, a trusting and loving wife. i got involved with a lady and my wife came to know about it end of last year.
now my wife and i was separated (preparing for a divorce) and my career went down the drain as i could not concentrate on work.

so Bro TS, cherish your family and have a clean breakup with the lady before something bad really happens.