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#31
16-11-2009, 03:43 PM
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Re: Is this a social problem here?
Seems like this is a globally problem as well;
Quote from one of the net article: My wife's sex drive is nearly extinct and I don't know what to do anymore! A male age 30-35, *ukas writes: Question - (16 August 2009) My wifes sex drive is nearly extinct, I don't know what to do, 9 times out of 10 she states she doesn't want sex when I try to start intimacy, or she has some other excuse. My wife (common law)is a very sexual person, in the first 3 years of us being together we had sex at least 5 times per week and things were great, now I don't expect this now, or necessarily want or need our relationship to be like this anymore, but what happened I ask ?... We only have sex maybe 3 times per month, it really doesn't get beyond that, it is driving me crazy ! I feel massively degraded as a man, I am so tired of always being pushed away! I have tried romance , I tell her I love her every chance I can, (and I do massively) She is absolutely beautiful and she captivates me, I even tried not to "want" sex to see if she would start something, never happened ! we have 2 children, I financially support the household while she is doing her schooling through correspondence, this was a mutual decision. I recently started my own business and I think that stress is lower than ever, financially anyway. We have been together for over 7 years now, my oldest child is 7 and my youngest almost 2. My wife has been off work for almost 3 years, she got sick early in pregnancy, left work by Dr's orders, went on Mat leave after that, and is now going through her schooling. I pay for her hair to get done when needed, her nails done almost every 2 weeks, all her clothing needed or not, She goes out partying with her girlfriends once a week, and I fit the bill for that, I like her to be able to do this, as I really don't get to do much myself and I know it sucks to not be able to do these things. I hope I have given enough info for someone to help me, I could go on and on, I just don't want to bore you ha ha ha ! I really don't know where to go for help anymore ! This has been happening around us.... & so common liao.....these day. Pity those bro affected; there are probably not much choices but to find alternate methods quitely....when urge arise... bros are human after all. 
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#32
16-11-2009, 04:03 PM
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Re: Is this a social problem here?
I agree with you to check it out first. That's what I did. During our 1 and half yr of courtship, she's horny and obliging. I had my own room, so is easy for me. We had sex a few times a week(except during menstruation). Every time was fantastic. She squeezed my penis inside everytime and doesn't want me to cum outside. I told myself, I found the girl I wanted. I shoot inside all the time. Shotgun, married. After 2 yrs, oh no ..... realised kena trap liao.
So... what I am saying does happen... Feel like telling my wife... You don't like... how about me finding a permanent companion to meet my needs... Sourcing start now 
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#33
16-11-2009, 04:41 PM
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Re: Is this a social problem here?
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Ok loh. Chiong ah ....
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#34
16-11-2009, 04:45 PM
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Re: Is this a social problem here?
I believe a lot of bros here are going though the same waves ....
The first few years, love was in the air till our second child came along ... then the frequency dropped. Years later, it was so hard to get sex from wifey, and yet many of us stayed faithful, BUT we wacked our frustration from lack of sex from wifey by "loving her lesser" ....and our temper and moods became more erratic and less gentlemanly to her and maybe family members (especially her family side). It became extremely frustrating and one almost went crazy if one didnt have a hobby to cling on..... fighting with oneself whether to stay faithful to wifey, and at the same time, loving her lesser and lesser, almost like hating her (as for me, it was almost irritiating to see her or hear her voice, or did any errands for her). Sex with wifey was almost nil for the last many years and she didnt really mind at all!  Then one day one discovered SBF! Magic! Every opportunity one had, we went for a fast session and we suddenly became energetic and get involved in matters at home. As long as our sexual needs were fulfilled, we "behave" well and love our family and work and hobby again. As such, i feel these FLs do play an important role to some bros here, in our "fuckuped" lifestyle.
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#35
16-11-2009, 04:52 PM
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1st part of your statement happend to me, 3 months liao, no have until I suspected she outside got man (but I wasn't much bother la) open minded I guessed.But as for the 2nd part of your statement she said she will kill me if i go find .......... cannot chiong ......... 
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#36
16-11-2009, 04:53 PM
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After being pushed away so many times in bed that we have totally lost interest to even want to have sex with her anymore, and the strange thing is that she doesn't mind at all 
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#37
16-11-2009, 04:59 PM
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#38
16-11-2009, 05:20 PM
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For me, I don't think too much. I just go HC for HJ if time and mood permits. Good luck.
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#40
16-11-2009, 09:54 PM
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Pls pm me for return favour. PS - minimun 5 pointers pls. Tks. 
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#41
16-11-2009, 09:57 PM
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To say that it's a problem, is an unfair condemnation of the situation whereas to say that it's natural would make it seem that it's socially acceptable. which it's not. I guess it would be a problem if it comes between you and your family. And natural if you continuing living your life as per normal, albeit the occasional flings/sexual excursions.
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In the words of Barney Stinson - 'This is legend-...wait for it...-ary!' Let us all swear by the Bro Code.
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#42
16-11-2009, 10:10 PM
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Re: Is this a social problem here?
I tot that's just the norm?
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情在一夜间，爱在两腿之间
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#43
16-11-2009, 11:14 PM
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Re: Is this a social problem here?
To me, this is very simple.
During the formative years of your marriage, both of you have frequent sex for two reasons: procreation and an insatiable sexual appetite to satisfy. After some years of marriage and having procreated, the wife may no longer be hungry for sex and there suddenly developed an imbalance in sexual desire whereby the husband needs it more but wife doesn't really need it. The solution? Outsource the sex part while everything else remain status quo.
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#44
17-11-2009, 12:53 AM
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I'm retired... .. only bonk when I need to... .. Bros who upped me, leave your nick, I sincerely thank you ! and will repay your kindness soon!! (bros that I forgot to repay, pls PM me ok) Good Luck, Good Health and Great BONK to all Bros !
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#45
17-11-2009, 06:40 AM
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Re: Is this a social problem here?
Bros,
I'm still single but I found this article and you might want to get some tips from doc love: Can The System Save A Marriage?
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