so he got her pregnant, now what? - Page 3

zhaonan · #31 15-01-2009, 07:10 AM

If can accept it, get marry!

yingge · #32 16-01-2009, 07:45 AM

Be responsible lah!

haoyunqiqi · #33 17-01-2009, 07:55 AM

Be a man loh, marry!

muguamugua · #34 17-01-2009, 09:13 PM

Marry lah. Or u want to end a unborn life?

yayatiger · #35 28-01-2009, 06:04 PM

Like they said, marry her is 1 choice.
If no love than at least look after the kid.

darrendon · #36 30-01-2009, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by lovetorn

i am relating this for my cousin.

she is 17yo and just today morning did she discovered that she's 2 months pregnant. they are not living in sgp and where they're living is quite a small place. small as in an issue that seems minor and very common in sgp is something very major over there. my uncle and aunt are doing a small business and they didnt know that my cousin was pregnant till this morning when their customers bought things from them and asked them. as to how word got out to others, we are not entirely sure yet.

the guy did say that he will take the responsibility but the problem is he is only 20yo without a stable income. i spoke to my cousin and all she said was 'i dont know'. she is still 17 and my mum suggested getting her over to singapore for an abortion and denying it if anyone claims that she's pregnant but again, 'i dont know'. i wont blame her because if it's me, i also wont know what to do. which is why safe sex is really very important. my aunt called up the guy's father and he hung up on her. i am really not with the idea of asking them to get married because it's very unfair.

guys here, what will you do? get married or ask the girl to get an abortion? hopefully some girls with the same experience can share too. thanks.

No one can predict what the future is. Whether she will be happy or not in the future, no one will knows. In my opinion, Since the situation is already as it is, just proceed with it and marry the guy if she loves her. If she gets an abortion now, she will be regretful forever and this memory will hunt her for the rest of her life. The foetus is alive and one should be responsible enough to bring him/her to this world since life has been created.

lovetorn · #37 31-01-2009, 12:24 PM

well, she already went for the abortion. and when i went back this cny, i found out that she's still in contact with him. she told me about their relationship and i just listened. the elders are asking me if she's still in contact with him and all i said was 'i dont know, she never tell me'.

i know that the right thing to do would be to tell them the truth but my cousin trust me to tell me all those stuffs. she told me that the guy made some comments about the unborn baby which made me very pissed off after hearing.

i cant talk her out of getting involved with him because she's really too deep into him. i just hope that he's serious about her or she can slowly get out of this relationship.

cablesnwires · #38 31-01-2009, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by lovetorn

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i cant talk her out of getting involved with him because she's really too deep into him. i just hope that he's serious about her or she can slowly get out of this relationship.

Sis lovetorn，first welcome back and happy new year.

As long as he doesn't change, chances are that she will keep going back to him. She will be ever so tolerant to him, as she is attracted to his character.

My S$0.02.

alexing · #39 19-05-2010, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by lovetorn

well, she already went for the abortion. and when i went back this cny, i found out that she's still in contact with him. she told me about their relationship and i just listened. the elders are asking me if she's still in contact with him and all i said was 'i dont know, she never tell me'.

i know that the right thing to do would be to tell them the truth but my cousin trust me to tell me all those stuffs. she told me that the guy made some comments about the unborn baby which made me very pissed off after hearing.

i cant talk her out of getting involved with him because she's really too deep into him. i just hope that he's serious about her or she can slowly get out of this relationship.

an abortion is not an easy case for girls, in mental or physically. do let your aunty know that alot of supplementary is needed for recovery. Hope she get well soon.

guys will never learn a lesson, even though they've made same mistake...just educate your couz that she always keep 1 box with her. if she love him deeply and @ the critical time guys didn't have condom with him. girls will still let him penetrate...for the sake of love..

cheers and hope she get well soon

Opera · #40 19-05-2010, 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by alexing

guys will never learn a lesson, even though they've made same mistake..

More important is, girls need to learn the lesson. Hope she will be getting better and smarter after the incident

kgbkgb · #41 19-05-2010, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by lovetorn

she went for the abortion today. she felt terrible. but according to her, she is still in contact with the guy. she is not his first girl but he is her first guy, as in sex. hope that she's once bitten twice shy. now i just hope that the guy doesnt have any STDs.

seems like yr cousin hasnt learnt her lesson yet

#42 19-05-2010, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by kgbkgb

seems like yr cousin hasnt learnt her lesson yet

young girl 17 - 18, still dont know how to control the lust, time will teach her

lovetorn · #43 20-05-2010, 12:32 AM

i wasn't expecting anymore replies since this thread has been inactive for a long time. yes, i understand the need to be responsible for one's action. no doubt, they are still together now. but she's leaving overseas for further studies soon, though she's not the study-material type. as to how will they turn out, i have no idea. and as for their sexual relationship, i think she has learned her lesson of having raw sex. or at least i hope she has.

Cheonging101 · #44 20-05-2010, 02:25 PM

No idea why some crazy bro go and dig up this thread. School holidays usually have archaeology excursions, issit?

Anyway, since it's dug up...

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Originally Posted by cunt_search

marriage at young age normally unstable
it depend alot on the maturity of the 2 persons
whether they can see things / work things out together

as for abortion, seek doc advice 1st
study her bio condition; diff pple cannot abort maybe nex time no mo chance..

definitely have to either side parent support..

guy character very imp...
army boy - sign on as regular to support....duh
playboy - definitely forget about him
school kid - forget about him
blur f - forget about him
smoke, drink, girls, whores, - forget about him
education background - finance stabilty (unless only son from rich family)
ur, does drug - all above override!! - drug addict can be abusive and potentially finacial strap n may force gal to upkeep him instead...

Shit... good thing my chabor don't know except the 1st 2 vices...

alexing · #45 23-05-2010, 05:39 PM

haha...i'm the one been zap for digging old tread, but i find it good to share that abortion is needed much care than giving birth~ because most people ignorance will bring lot'f side effect...

this is too another reminder to remind all our bros condom besides prevent any STD, also prevent we bring harms to ladies and poor lil' life that we breed...

happy bonking but don't forget to wear condom~