The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

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Originally Posted by jinrenhe

since no one ever cares for me

same as me.. now only got God accompany me ler..

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by giggz83

haha.. i used to tell that to my ex-gf too!! but .. same, never .. now she left me ..

In fact, I told all my ex-gfs this before but till today, I've never experienced anything like that.

There must be some rule-book out there for women that advised against giving this.

Closest I got was nipple licking when I was slipping. My natural reaction when sleeping was to swing my arms and almost gave her a black eye.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by giggz83

haha.. i used to tell that to my ex-gf too!! but .. same, never .. now she left me ..

In fact, told all my ex-GFs about this as well but have not received this experience before. The closest call was a Jap gf that did some nipple licking when I was asleep. Unfortunately, my instincts were to swing my arms and almost gave her a black eye.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

sometimes i wonder whether titus watch really got feeling of its own..my frd told me somethin abt her titus watch also..it was given to her by her ex on the 1st day they got together and on the day they broke off..the watch stop..it was only 1 yr plus..by right..the battery wun run out so fast..well..sometimes mayb the world works in a way we will neva understand..

I got my wife a Rolex and the bloody watch never breaks! Damn!

[mandoff]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

不在乎天长地久，只在乎成经拥有.

Memories last a lifetime. Thats why i got tat watch. I dun hv the power to stop the time to make tat moment last forever. Wat i can only do is to pause the watch at tat time

我很想爱他 但是眼睛在说谎 隐瞒比较容易吧 免得感情变的复杂

Thats a nice one bro, I would do the same if I were you.
Your ex should be very touch by this move.

[mandoff]

The title of this post: The one you marry, is not the one you loved most.
strike my mind immediately when I went thru the posts in this forum, this sentence somehow potrait my mind, of the situation I am in now.

I am married to my wife for 3 years, well, we were in love for 2 years before getting married. Well, I admit, I do not love her 100% when we were together, like what 1 of the bro here mentioned before, when its time to settle down, the person that is next to you will automatically be your 1st choice. At that time, I still thinking about my ex, which after we broke off then I realized how dearly I love her, but that was too late. She was already with another bf now, heard that she is getting married soon also... the news of her getting married did broke my heart, I don't know what to say or how to react. I know I still have feeling for her, but I jus have to accept the fact.

[mandoff]

Recently, I got to know of this gal from the net, she is married also, but she is not in good term with her husband. We got together as my wife is not treating me good either.

The feeling of being with her is so different, just like when I am with my ex, at that moment in time, I tot to myself, could she be the one that I am looking for all these while?? This is the feeling that I have that time when I am with my ex, this is the feeling of wanting to settle down with her badly.

I started to fell in love with her, so does her at the same time. we knew that we could not have any future unless both of us file for divorce, but it will be difficult for me as I already have one kid with my wife. We still persist to be together anyway. She got married jus a few months earlier than me, I started to think if we could meet each other earlier, then we could have been together, she would not have married her husband, while me would not have married my current wife. Both of us love each other more than our spouse, my heartache whenever I think of our relationship.

[Deztruct]

wat if i hv a chance to go back into the past..mayb i wld not have chose to send tat sms 2 yrs ago..mayb now things wld be different...

[Know_yr_role]

Originally Posted by mandoff

Recently, I got to know of this gal from the net, she is married also, but she is not in good term with her husband. We got together as my wife is not treating me good either.

The feeling of being with her is so different, just like when I am with my ex, at that moment in time, I tot to myself, could she be the one that I am looking for all these while?? This is the feeling that I have that time when I am with my ex, this is the feeling of wanting to settle down with her badly.

I started to fell in love with her, so does her at the same time. we knew that we could not have any future unless both of us file for divorce, but it will be difficult for me as I already have one kid with my wife. We still persist to be together anyway. She got married jus a few months earlier than me, I started to think if we could meet each other earlier, then we could have been together, she would not have married her husband, while me would not have married my current wife. Both of us love each other more than our spouse, my heartache whenever I think of our relationship.

bro for men in general, actually for anyone in general, i think its always fun to have some things NEW in yr life....its always exciting, like a new mobile, a new car or a new person in yr life.....its always all fun n joy and exciting at first, so its rather natural for you to feel this way...once u got used to the things, u get bored and yearn for something new again....so its really how u judge yr own r/s and marriage....at times it dull and routine and u realised tat you dont really love the person who u sleeps next too, but is it really bad til the stage where you need to get separated??

jus my 2cents bro...

[Know_yr_role]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

wat if i hv a chance to go back into the past..mayb i wld not have chose to send tat sms 2 yrs ago..mayb now things wld be different...

as i mentioned before bro....no point crying over spilled milk...wats done is done, for yr case, wats not done cant be done...so best to concentrate on wat are yr next moves now..........

be wise bro, im sure you will.......no regrets!!

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by Know_yr_role

ya man tell me abt it, i saved up to get a pair even....those marketing techniques to trick us youngester back then to get a gift...a meaingful gift AT THAT PT IN TIME i should add...hahaha

Haha..everything we did in the past is always the best thing to do at tat pt of time even tho when we look back on it..we will think how silly it is

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

Actually from what u described, things does not seem so hopeless. u mentioned tat both of u finally quarrelled for the first time. A gal would only display her emotion (e.g. quarrel, affected by what u say/do) when she has some feelings for the guy--- i'm not saying it's definitely love, but at least it shows u mean somethk to her. Particularly if she's the usually easy-going & sweet sweet type of gal. Such gals are normally friendly but quite nonchalent to most of their normal friends.

actually there are few incidents tat happen in the past few mths that make me feel tat she has at least some feelings for me..last time she wld be very concerned for me but not to the pt of naggin..recently..she has started to nag at me more and she seem to be jealous of a frd i have in thailand..i wld say seem bcoz she doesnt openly say it out but from her actions n words..can see that she is uncomfortable abt the thai ger..also tho we work in the same company..we are at different floor..sometimes when she wan to go to other dept to get something..she wld ask me along even tho it might be only for 5 mins..she is quite an independent ger so i dun think its bcoz she is scared or wat..we even came out together with a list of places tat we wan to go together

come to think of it..wat we quarrel is really over such trivial stuff..basically is bcoz i choose to defy her naggings n carry on doin somethin juz to piss her off..during moments of close talks together..she has revealed that it is hard to let go of the old float n go for the new one when she doesnt noe tat the new one might be beta

but at the end of the day..all these might not mean anythin also as she can say tat tats how she treat her close frds..she treat them all very nice so i might b juz mistaken

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by Know_yr_role

but is it really bad til the stage where you need to get separated??

jus my 2cents bro...

Agreed with your view..sometimes its the initial passion tat make us feel tipsy..but passion wun last forever...when the passion has faded..its time to ask urself whether is it love, passion or juz infatuation (even adults do hv infatuation sometimes)

always give urself time to think abt things before u do anything..there is no pt in doin things on impulse..u will be juz b hurting urself and others

i not sayin tat u hv to forget the ger n stay with ur wife or vice versa..i juz hope u think clearly before u make any decisions

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by surfer888

I got my wife a Rolex and the bloody watch never breaks! Damn!

haa..ur rolex probably cost more than 10x...if it break..u are juz damn bloody suay and probably shld demand a refund..dun forget..titus watch probably cost tat much becoz of the marketing and not becoz of its technology or workmanship...

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by Know_yr_role

as i mentioned before bro....no point crying over spilled milk...wats done is done, for yr case, wats not done cant be done...so best to concentrate on wat are yr next moves now..........

be wise bro, im sure you will.......no regrets!!

haa..bro..its the case of the flesh is willing but the heart is not..cant do it when i drunk..so i hv to try harder when i sober

but most impt is tat i hv to give the watch back to her..its a long story why the watch is still with me when i already given it back to her