The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Everyone admits that love is wonderful and necessary, yet no one agrees on just what it is. ~ Diane Ackerman

JWNY

I guess i happened to be part of that "everyone"..

[Spud_Boy]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

it's sad but true.one-way traffic kind of love wont last.in the 1st place it shouldnt had started.love is between 2 mutual person whom should love each other be it good or bad.

agree.. a one-way traffic is not love.. it's just 一厢情愿.. & if that's the case, there isn't really any love between the 2.. it's just 1 party hopin to obtain the love from the other.. but at the end of it, it's just like hittin ur head against the wall..

of cuz there r also the happy ending 1s when the gal's heart melts & (hopefully, wholeheartedly) loves u in return..

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Waking up is most important bro...many cannot

JWNY

Even more tough.... I wake up but don't want to.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

if u decide to walk away..dun ever look back..u may find urself thinkin tat its juz this once tat u chose to b weak and think abt her..in the end..tat one time will lead to many more times and in the end..u find urself back to the same old shit again..

be strong for ur happiness

It's moments of weakness that causes me to look back.

The good part is that looking back sometimes gets me the best times with the one I love most.

The bad part is the heartbreak all over again.

I think I've come to terms to enjoy the good and bear with the bad... it's beginning to sound a bit like narcotics. Enjoy the highs and suffer the lows.

Guess I'm a glutton for punishment when it comes to matters of the heart.

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

it's sad but true.one-way traffic kind of love wont last.in the 1st place it shouldnt had started.love is between 2 mutual person whom should love each other be it good or bad.

but bro, i always think when a relationship started initially, one party is always mre deeply in luv than the other, therefore this sort of one-way traffic love evolved. But it doesnt necessarily means that the relationship wun last. alot of times either one will have to slowly learn to luv the person mre. I rarely see a relationship (maybe my social circle nt very big) started by 2 person luving each other as much. Its always the case of one party (usualli the guy) luving the other mre and it takes time for the other party to realise and return the luv that the other one had given.

Well, my relationship started this way, but mayb i'm those ppl who will reali fall deeply into one relationship when it started. thus making the relatioship looks like a one way traffic. but i believe it takes time for the other to realise that u r the one for him/her.

Cheers.

[unclesammi]

The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

I am sure at that point of time when I say "I DO", my wife is the person I love most.

Now she is still the woman I once love most.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by tellmiwhy

Well, my relationship started this way, but mayb i'm those ppl who will reali fall deeply into one relationship when it started. thus making the relatioship looks like a one way traffic. but i believe it takes time for the other to realise that u r the one for him/her.

Cheers.

in this instance,it's like taking a gamble,either u win or lose,guess this is life.u do not always get what u desire but if u nv try,u nv know.this is what i always believe.glad ur rship went the way u wanted for u bro.

[Spud_Boy]

Originally Posted by unclesammi

The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

I am sure at that point of time when I say "I DO", my wife is the person I love most.

Now she is still the woman I once love most.

that's a something i will learn from u.. will also do the same when i do get married..

[Mark26]

sigh.. i love my wife but somehow due to in-law pressure, our relationship shattered and now we are kinda separated. Still communicate but never sleep and stay together. Miss her but i cannot stand her mum who despise me.

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

in this instance,it's like taking a gamble,either u win or lose,guess this is life.u do not always get what u desire but if u nv try,u nv know.this is what i always believe.glad ur rship went the way u wanted for u bro.

actuali stil in the process, but once we decided to reali settle dwn, thats when she realised i was also suitable for her. glad that she is learning to appreciate me mre than last time. hopefuli it stays all the way like tat.

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by Mark26

sigh.. i love my wife but somehow due to in-law pressure, our relationship shattered and now we are kinda separated. Still communicate but never sleep and stay together. Miss her but i cannot stand her mum who despise me.

bro, i have a friend who has similar problems wif u. but he actualli made it known and discuss it directly wif his wife the causes and reasons y this sort of things happened. eventualli his wife also became mre understanding and did nt always side wif her mum anymore. she will do the defending for her husband if she realise that her mum was abit over. hope everything can turn out to be gd again for ur case.

Cheers.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Mark26

sigh.. i love my wife but somehow due to in-law pressure, our relationship shattered and now we are kinda separated. Still communicate but never sleep and stay together. Miss her but i cannot stand her mum who despise me.

My friend went through similar but was more tragic. Everything was fine till his wife gave birth and that was when his in-laws became intolerable. He left home before his child turned one, became a heavy drinker and smoker and a month later, collapsed from a nervous breakdown. Was in a coma for a week and recovered.... his wife never saw him when he was in hospital.

He now lives alone and tries to take things one step at a time.

[tissue]

Originally Posted by surfer888

My friend went through similar but was more tragic. Everything was fine till his wife gave birth and that was when his in-laws became intolerable. He left home before his child turned one, became a heavy drinker and smoker and a month later, collapsed from a nervous breakdown. Was in a coma for a week and recovered.... his wife never saw him when he was in hospital.

He now lives alone and tries to take things one step at a time.

That's terrible...

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by tissue

That's terrible...

Yup, Terrible.

I only knew about it when he was in the hospital. Prior to that, I knew he was over the moon about his baby boy and kept showing us photos.

The only good that came out of this so far was that he managed to quit smoking... albeit at too high a price.

[tissue]

That is really scary...Why would you do something like that to a person whom you professed to love for the rest of your life and all the other 'for better or worse' bullshit?

I am not romantic myself but that's one of the worst things I have ever heard...