Advice from Everyone please..

[jplover]

Well, am glad that you could wait that long for her..

Perhaps, do it slowly.. Start off with slight foreplay, make her wet and high and slowly suggest it.. As it goes, do be gentle with her also.. It's her 1st time and remember not to thrust too hard, else she might stay off from sex as she may think that it'll be that painful for each intercourse..

[Sam_Pro]

Originally Posted by topcook1

My advice is to save it for marriage perhaps she will be more ready for it. In the mean time go and try Wls and Fls around. There are too many choices now adays dont waste time in thinking of bonking your GF. It might hurt your relationship if you cant get it from her.

I guess it's her psychological part. Even if it's marriage day, she still could not pass her barrier..

[Sam_Pro]

Originally Posted by hang37

make her high from drinking then poke her lor...
did you have foreplay b4?
make her real wet then try fingering then slowly increase the number of finger then bingo if she dun feel pain...

Whenever I tried to finger/insert her, she will reject me.. No matter how high she is..

[Sam_Pro]

Originally Posted by destarius

I would advise against getting married unless you truly believe that this is a problem that can be overcome and that you are also sexually compatible with her. An issue with sex could become a serious problem with your marriage. If she's not principally against pre-marital sex, then you should try to work this out first.

Also, you deserve an award as you are an incredibly patient man. FIVE YEARS without sex with your GF - you must really love her.

Thanks for the compliement.

I guess it's her psychological barrier. I couldn't break it after trying so long.. Sometimes really feel like giving up.. I don't think she will agree to see a psychatrist either, being embarressed in the first place.

[Sam_Pro]

Originally Posted by ohyeahbaby

Its a good thing that u realized its not a good idea to do the drugged and alchohol thinggy.
I think u should tell your gal that u will do it gently and slowly. Tell her to try it out and see how was it first

Tried. But really no avail. Though it's not a good thing.. You know sometimes if you are really 'pek chiat' You just feel like doing it.. as in the drug thingy..

[Sam_Pro]

Originally Posted by jplover

Well, am glad that you could wait that long for her..

Perhaps, do it slowly.. Start off with slight foreplay, make her wet and high and slowly suggest it.. As it goes, do be gentle with her also.. It's her 1st time and remember not to thrust too hard, else she might stay off from sex as she may think that it'll be that painful for each intercourse..

Bro, she has this phobia that whenever I tries to touch her private part, she will push my hand away and says it's getting 'tight' down there.. That's the point when all man hates.. Getting rejected..

[Sam_Pro]

I got to apologise to all bros that if my replies are kind of late. Coz I'm using a new account, all threads/posts by me have to be verified by moderators. So it may take a while to get it up here.

Thanks for your understanding.

[SDMM]

Brother

Your GF has a mindset problem and if she cannot get over it, it will lead to relationship problems
Please ensure that she gets over the problem before marriage or else, you may turn out with a sexless one
Ask her to see a physchologist

[西门吹雪]

no pain, no gain. don't toil, how to get fruits?
is pain the reason? maybe have more talks to find out more.

她若是叫痛,那你就要快,
一個痛,一個快,
痛快呀! 痛快!

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by comm

i will deflower her for you

Why deflower???You very bad...

[LeMoN]

Originally Posted by Sam_Pro

Hi,

I have been together with my gf for about 5 years. We have never engage into sexual intercourse and of course I did suggest countless times.

How old r both of you?

[~|@|~]

Originally Posted by Sam_Pro

Bro, she has this phobia that whenever I tries to touch her private part, she will push my hand away and says it's getting 'tight' down there.. That's the point when all man hates.. Getting rejected..

after reading your replies, its seems that you've tried many things. i feel your pain but i think she should seek profesional help for a long term solution. you should let her know your relationship is in jeopardy

[tigerprawn]

Bro, you need to have a good heart to heart talk with her first. She obviously has a psychological problem which needs professional help. So if she is serious about your relationship, she has to make an effort. And a good start would be going to seek professional help. She has to make a commitment if she treasures you and wants this to work.

Bro, let me tell you a true story. I have a good friend who is married for about 3 years now. And his wife is still a virgin! Same case as yours only difference is he is married already and stuck! He doesnt want to divorce so end up he sleep around outside etc etc... The entire marriage on the outside looks good but actually is nothing but a sham. And cos she is married, with the security of marriage she feels less motivation to right the problem and just happy with how things are. Heading for a big explosion someday but you get what i mean, if you dont do anything you will get yourself deeper into the quicksand.

Good luck.

[newbieboy]

Hmm it happened before but I slowly broke one barrier at a time, 2nd base, then 3rd base, and home run was a bitch but you gotta turn her on first:

1) Pick a location where you all won't be disturbed (and bring the embarassment odds to a minimum) i.e. a) your place if you live alone, b) hotel room on the pretext of some anniversary or whatever. I'd advise hotel to up the "oh it's my first time and it's a nice suite so special wheeee" feeling from your gf. Or if hotel arouses her suspicions then do a short holiday somewhere just the 2 of you. It's not cheap, but hey if you wanna marry her might as well start treating her well

2) Make her happy. If she's materialistic buy her something if she's a foodie cook her a nice meal if she's sentimental make a photo collage or a rose arrangement basically something that you think will make her go wow

Optional: 3) Talk about marriage (BUT ONLY IF YOU'RE SERIOUS). Talk about children names, how many, what life after marriage will be like

4) Practise your foreplay. I don't know if you're eating outside but if you are be more aware of your foreplay actions and see if they achieve the intended effect. Different girls, different buttons so you need to be good enough to know what works for your girl. If you can turn her on her resistance will be low.

If all else fails (and if she really loves you), do this:
5) Foreplay halfway, then stop as she's getting turned on. Why?

She'll be asking the same question, "Why?" Then pretend pretend it's very agonising for you to go this far and you "don't want to hurt her" so let's stop. Then moody moody and when she asks what's wrong say "it's nothing" but look like you're brooding. Some will relent straightaway but the tough nuts like tigerprawn's friend's wife will take their own sweet time from base to base. Just lun lor. Do this a few times, it should work.

Basically all these work on 2 levels. First is how much you can show her you love her. Second is to let her know how much it means to you without revealing the horny desperation that drives us all. Eventually SOMETHING has to happen, something's gotta give, one way or another. She'll feel the urgency more if you create situations to emphasise to her how important this is for you.

Disclaimer:
Some of you might disagree, or think I'm a bastard, but this has never failed with any of my "I want to save till marriage" gfs. Some nuts are harder to crack, it just takes work. And I don't think it's Machiavellian or whatever, it's important to check now rather than regret later -again we refer back to tigerprawn's friend as an example- anyone who visits this forum will agree that chemistry is important, so make sure you know what kind of chemistry before you commit. Again, I don't think anything I did was premeditated. When I was in my various relationships they were all real and sincere, but now that I'm out I remove myself from the memory and watch it from a third-person view, and I can see a pattern (the same pattern I am sharing here). I did Step 1-3 because I was serious in the relationship, 4-5 because I really felt that way. But I guess if you can act it out the end result will be the same.

Good luck!

[Sam_Pro]

Originally Posted by LeMoN

How old r both of you?

25.. Does it matter anything?