How should I take things to the next level?

[boft]

Good advice from all the bros here! I think i have an idea what i should be doing already

Thanks again everyone!

[DeanAmbrose89]

Originally Posted by sexcision

Personally, since you both have been meeting with each others friends. I believe the feeling should be mutual, maybe go the the beach or somewhere quite after a regular dinner and pop the question? Try holding hands like one of the bro suggestions.
i believe u have a pretty good chance.
Go for it bro!

totally agree with u on this.

[FindersKeepers]

Originally Posted by Parfum

Very true bro

Indeed very true

[alec]

Still need to consider meh? Why not just ask her to be your gf and you'll get your answer. As long she steady, you steady, both of you will steady bom bi bi

[sammygirl29]

I`m would recommend you to take the short cut: just ask. The answer usually would be yes or no. If yes, congratulations; if no, go for next target

[Lorres]

Just ask. Life is too short.
Never try never know.
Its not a marriage proposal. Hence just go ahead and date. (sex, optional).
If it doesn't work out, then part graciously. And if feel can no longer even be friends.... then so be. That's life.

[CurioCity]

Originally Posted by sammygirl29

I`m would recommend you to take the short cut: just ask. The answer usually would be yes or no. If yes, congratulations; if no, go for next target

Logical advice

[conquer]

Originally Posted by fringe929

ah ya... just grab her hand when crossing road and after cross road liao, still keep holding on.... from there you will know where you stand with her...

3 scenarios : 1) she keep letting you hold.... just cont holding as she understood your meaning and is ok with it.
2) She drop your hand and look at you funny... just say "oh.. sorry" and cont on ur normal routine like nothing happened.... if she probe you about why you keep holding your hand later, means you are in luck as she just needs a confirmation on you wanting her as your gf.
3) She drops your hand and looks at you funny.... and don't talk about it anymore.... and suddenly keep trying to keep her distance by not jioing you out etc or take very long to answer ur messages or with just a 1 word reply.... means you kanna friend zone and she never see you as a male but as a friend all along.

4) She kneels down and gives you a blowjob for helping her crossing street.

[DeanAmbrose89]

hope this Ts got the answer he was looking for and hope he give us an update

[avantas]

Originally Posted by boft

Dear bros and sis out here, i have a problem which has been bugging me for quite a while. Hope to have advice from the more experienced ones out here

I have this close female friend whom I like for the longest time already, but as she was attached when I first knew her, I could only keep my thinking to myself. But recently, she broke up and is now single. As such, i began to initiate more meetups and there were times when she would initiate to meet up for dinner and drinks. We would often hang out together, be it just the two of us or with our friends (she was comfortable with meeting up with my friends and vice versa). When teased about how often we hang out together and that we should be together, there was no rejection on her side.

Now the problem is, how should I confirm that this is not something that I just wished would happen and that I can take things to the next level, as im afraid that if i rush things, things would become very awkward and i do want to keep her as a friend.

Any advice?

Hi TS

Please don't have a "loser" mentality as " staying as a Friend if things don't work out ". I am in my forties now and seldom see any man and woman stay as friends with regular meet ups and conversations, especially if they are married.

I can understand that your affection for her may warrant a desire of a "no fish prawn is good" outcome. But it will just lead to disappointments and may impact your opportunities with other women.

Organise something special with her and pop the question. Typical sg women are very procedural, as Long as you do something unique to signify her value and you fit the profile of what she is looking for, she would accept it.

Do note that some woman love the spare tyre effect where you don't fit what they want but they keep you around for the attention and benefits.

Most of the time, my experiences taught me to move on to others if she rejects me on the first try regardless of her explanation or excuses. Things like "she needs more time", "she needs to know you better" are all stalling tactics by woman who have options other than you.

If the feeling is good and there are no other commitments, any sensible woman will give the relationship a try unless she prefers you to stay in the Friend zone.

[xqueen]

action and communication

[tzeryin]

Red Card always give to good guy.

[randyrockhard]

If you never ask, the answer would always be a resounding "No"

[fringe929]

or you can chut the pattern my first gf chut on me...

we were just like going out all the time together... but i never asked her to be my gf...

Then one day she turn and looked at me saying" my neighbors saw me and you together, asked me if i was her bf".... Then she looked into my eyes and said... "so ... are you my bf?".... stuck in such a sudden situation .. i blurted out..." ya...

Can try this if you want

[knot]

Originally Posted by sammygirl29

I`m would recommend you to take the short cut: just ask. The answer usually would be yes or no. If yes, congratulations; if no, go for next target

+1 agreed here