Extra marital affairs & infidelity

[virginboy926]

i do have phobia, i scare of marriage, because around my surrounding friends. i do have couple of friends, divorce, or wife unfaithful.

hence, i saw some FRs in sammyboy. and understand that girls in Y generation are more "open minded" and daring, they are having this kind of mentality to revenge, by having "an eye for an eye", if they find out we are unfaithful to them.

Then i saw some cases that their wife carry someone's child yet the husband don't know abt it. only the woman's close friend knew. And hide away from the husband.

Seriously, i very worry about myself.

I do travels to countries and station for mths.

sometimes i do have those urge. We are men, so i believe brother know how i feel. i don't think i need to explain much.

bo pian, i got to locate the local channel in whatever country i went to find the source of relief to relieve myself.

but all this is behind my fiancee. =(

sian 1/2.

don't know how to phrase it.

any brother got any golden advice how to overcome this kind of phobia ?

Regards
VB

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by virginboy926

any brother got any golden advice how to overcome this kind of phobia ?

Regards
VB

we are in the same boat. If I could, I'd chose NOT to marry or have kids coz I'm happy with my current lifestyle. I believe that SG is the only country in the world that for a couple to buy a decent house aka HDB, they have to be legally married. No choice, must sign the paper for the sake of 'bird cage'.

Recently, my buddy and I had been meeting quite a number of new lady frens (married or attached). To my suprise, 90% of them are 'game' for nite outings with boozes and boobs *lol* as long as we took care of the taps. We even *almost* had 3P but things went wrong in the 11th hours *lol*. Anyway, the conclusion is pretty obvious that women are no longer an elusive nor exclusive items.

cheerz,
jimbo

[spider_j]

Originally Posted by Innocence_259

u MUST protect yourself with a pre-nuptial

Any pre-nuptial agreement containing terms that are inconsistent with the provisions of the Womens Charter will not be unenforceable under Sg law. This is a matter of "public interest" and to ensure that the effectiveness of the Womens Charter is not eroded by any private contractual agreements.

Sometimes its a matter of figuring out what is important to you in a marriage and what is not.

Bottom line, you wanna get married, go in with your eyes open and plan (if possible) for the worse. Of course this is a rather cynical view. There are people who have been cheonging for years and are still happily married. There are people who have never cheong in their lives who lead uphappy married lives.

Despite any good advice from friends and relations, the only people who can make marriage work is you and your partner.

This is sooooo not the forum to be dispensing or talking about what makes marriage work!!!

[THExorcist]

To The ThreadStarter And all reading,

the only conclusion i can think of is, nowadays women are not wanting to be as tolerant as before. They see something wrong, feel something is not right, find out something they should not have, they start screaming :" I want Divorce !! "

Who knows, maybe its their moms telling them the age old theory ; you must treat yr man this way, or else you will end up like me !!

I think it all has to start off from the right step, right from the beginning, when one is dating. Come on, how many of us have fell in the trap of " Ok Ok Sorry, I wont do it again !!" I know i have !! It has given the ladies this power of superiority over us man.

The only way out of this marry/divorce ,

1) Dun get married !!
2) Marry liao, Dun F*** around !!
3) Wanna F*** around, Never Get Caught !!

Rememebr, all of us came from SAF, Where we learnt, As long as you are not caught, everything you say is right. Once caught, sneeze also SALA !!

Speaking from experience, my wife had used the old pattern divorce , divorce , divorce , too many freaking times liao. Until 1 fine day, she say divorce , i say OK, when you moving out ?? She freak out. !!!

After that i told her, Never use the word Divorce, it can have detrimental effects !! It works in a way , Quarrel yes. But never ever the word Divorce.

Just my 2 cents worth !!

[SingViet]

Married life is surely very different from the time when the couple is dating. After marriage, both will see the ugliest part of each other. Its at this time when they must be able to accept and endure. Staying together is not easy, it involves lots of endurance.

Couples decades ago have the idea that `once married, better not divorce' That was also the time when the head of the family, the MAN, holds more power and decides on most matters. Nowadays, ladies hold more power in the family and decides on most matters.

Not being an MCP, but ever since the ladies are `more equal' than man, divorce rates have been rising. Just a little observation

[poison]

Originally Posted by THExorcist

Speaking from experience, my wife had used the old pattern divorce , divorce , divorce , too many freaking times liao. Until 1 fine day, she say divorce , i say OK, when you moving out ?? She freak out. !!!

After that i told her, Never use the word Divorce, it can have detrimental effects !! It works in a way , Quarrel yes. But never ever the word Divorce.!!

This one fully agreed............when the real things happen, all freaked out!

[SassySammy]

why should we be tolerant if men dont respect us and fool around behind our backs?? i give my utmost respect to women with high EQ and who can tahan aka close one eye even when they know about their husbands' infidelities.

It's when u r holding a hot babe, then the value of your wife drops. men r horny by nature? i think lots of girls r too, well not exactly horny, but they like to feel desired, special? to conclude, if guys wan to have their share of the forbidden fruit, they shouldnt complain if their wives return the favour.
If yr actions r not conservative, dont have a conservative mindset.

unless u r totally faithful, otherwise dont put these women down, cos it will be totally contradicting, like putting yourself down. If u think what u r doin is right, then respect them.

will surely offend most bros here, but just my 5 dollars worth

[Nesferatu]

Sometimes when a women commits adultery is becoz she lacks the love & attention from her bf/hubby.

It takes a lot of thinking & deliberation on the women's part, before she will atcually proceed with the deed. Unlike men, when we have the urge, we just go GL, pay & fuck. But for a women, theyre different. They'll ponder, observe her hubby/bf from afar, more thinking before making that BIG decision whether to open the door of her heart to anyone else.
I tell u that when a women is vunerable, she is very vunerable. They'll be screaming for affection & attention.
I know caused that's what happened to me previously. Is it entirely my fault? She too had a part to play. Do I have regrets? The only way out when youre down is UP.
So guys, esp those whose marriages/relationships on rocks, do pay a wee bit more attention to your loved ones. Its not always about lack of MONEY. If its about money, then be grateful if she dumped u. You can do without these shallow women who jump ship at the 1st sign of trouble.

Those who suggested not getting married to stay out of trouble (divorce, kids, maintenance etc etc), ask yourself, is this what u really want? One day we will all grow old & we need to have someone of our own kin to turn to.
Yes, i do agree Sporean women has become more vicious (no thanks to the bias Women's Charter), marry abroad lor. But dont bring them back to Spore!!!


Nes

[dna_gene]

Seriously, I think the main reason for high divorce rate is the high exposure that we have nowadays. Last time grandpa age where got disco, movie, fine dining, pub etc for guys and gals to come together and make the happening happens! Only got pigs sty to hang out at, don't think got gals have such weird preference right?

Even if you are not rich, you are still able to find a gal to have fling with cos sometimes the gals are even more successful than the average workers!

Now furthermore with the mass and wide use of the internet, nothing is stopping adultery to take place at all! The last remaining defence of the will power is also crashed to bits! God has mercy on mankind!

[Dark Magician]

Originally Posted by SassySammy

why should we be tolerant if men dont respect us and fool around behind our backs?? i give my utmost respect to women with high EQ and who can tahan aka close one eye even when they know about their husbands' infidelities.

It's when u r holding a hot babe, then the value of your wife drops. men r horny by nature? i think lots of girls r too, well not exactly horny, but they like to feel desired, special? to conclude, if guys wan to have their share of the forbidden fruit, they shouldnt complain if their wives return the favour.
If yr actions r not conservative, dont have a conservative mindset.

unless u r totally faithful, otherwise dont put these women down, cos it will be totally contradicting, like putting yourself down. If u think what u r doin is right, then respect them.

will surely offend most bros here, but just my 5 dollars worth

totally agree ..... why women starts 2 flirt ard is bcos of men ..... but theres always a small fraction of ppl who are faithful yet their partners still flirt ard ... utimately .... fooling ard is like playing with a C4 time bomb ... u nv know when it will goes off ....

if it does ... hurting urself is one thing ...... dealing damage to close frds or families is really worst ....

After marriage .... e best thing is to fool n flirt oni with yr own partners ....

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by jng1103

we are in the same boat. If I could, I'd chose NOT to marry or have kids coz I'm happy with my current lifestyle. I believe that SG is the only country in the world that for a couple to buy a decent house aka HDB, they have to be legally married. No choice, must sign the paper for the sake of 'bird cage'.


cheerz,
jimbo

35 yrs old, u can apply your own for hdb resale.

U do have a choice.

SC

[poison]

Originally Posted by Nesferatu

I tell u that when a women is vunerable, she is very vunerable. They'll be screaming for affection & attention. Nes

That's what most woman wants............affection and attention to their needs if not, another one comes along, that's where the sparks flies.