Is It Possible to Find Love in SBF?

[ahpaul25]

Originally Posted by aman

my dear siaksibabe.
love is one thing. I love a gir for more than 2yrs and she love me also and i giv her what she went n need but what is 2yrs? 1day she just me she meet a guy only 2 week and leave me without a word
this is what i get
now what can i say to you. just follow your feel like what i doing nw.
takecare.

Poor u, I pity u, u been carrot for these 2yrs man.......The ger don love u at all, just make full use of u and hit it when chances came...

[Rexell]

Sis SiakSiBabe

IMHO, he will go back to his 'safety zone' once he gets tired of you. Not too long after he gets you to love him cos you mentioned he did it before with a lot of other girls. So why should you think that you are not one of these flings he had? If he did not end up with any of those flings, why do you think he will end up with you?

I'm not having sour grapes here, but I seriously think you should consider it logically and carefully first before deciding what do.

[d(^_^)b]

Originally Posted by Rexell

Sis SiakSiBabe

IMHO, he will go back to his 'safety zone' once he gets tired of you. Not too long after he gets you to love him cos you mentioned he did it before with a lot of other girls. So why should you think that you are not one of these flings he had? If he did not end up with any of those flings, why do you think he will end up with you?

I'm not having sour grapes here, but I seriously think you should consider it logically and carefully first before deciding what do.

So the one eating the sour grapes is telling us that that's what he do.

[tk-king]

Originally Posted by Dark Magician

i m jus sharing my point of view ...
i m here not to seek ONS / FL or anything else ....
m also not thinking will i find a gf here or not ...

i believe there are ppl ard in here like me ... jus wanna look look see see

same here
i dun seek for ONS n FL
i havent engage any comm sex atm

i m here for general knowledge pre-caution and how to enhance my sex life
reading stories to see how pple handle gals and also improve my english language haha

[tk-king]

Originally Posted by aman

my dear siaksibabe.
love is one thing. I love a gir for more than 2yrs and she love me also and i giv her what she went n need but what is 2yrs? 1day she just me she meet a guy only 2 week and leave me without a word.
this is what i get
now what can i say to you. just follow your feel like what i doing nw.
takecare.

u never know when its here n wun know why its gone
u have to feel it instead of trying to find a reason
love has no reason

[asdfghjkl]

sure can find one la.. on this monday night, or rather, tuesday morning, time is now at 1:06AM, i just found out got > 1000 people logged on the SBF.. lol.. all looking or, trying at least, to find some "love" i suppose?

[mkt_cheonger]

usually the early warnings are there and gals knew them but most often than not, they are blinded by this feeling of 'love'.

u r definitely attracted to him but u are rather unwilling to let go of ur current lifestyle for something that seem so uncertain since u have no assurances from him? if this is love, its conditional love. U wan me to love u, can, but only if u meet certain conditions.

u are feeling very insecure as u have many doubts. u also mentioned that there were several instances which what he said or did made u feel that he was insincere n doubted him. These are ur early warnings about who he might truly be. U might wan to think more on it.

Gals seem to be really taken in by persistence from guys . just to share wif u, a fren of mine (what u call a player) who has this knack of getting gals he set his target on once shared one of his strategies wif me:

1) Set target, get target's contacts esp phone number.

2) call target, sms target, offer words of concern even tho she wont chat wif u or dun reply to u. continue this for a few days, best if u could do it at particular timings every day then stop all contact with target for a few days.

3) the rationale that he explained then was: u would set a certain pattern in the target's lifestyle by contacting her at certain timings. if the pattern was broken, the target would most likely begin to wonder or even feel a bit loss and begin to think about u. so when u pick up the pattern after a few days break, the target would likely be more approachable. if this fails still, u could carry on trying to set a pattern or adopt some other methods.

the reason i post the above is, he has already set a pattern in ur life. im pretty sure u would feel pretty lost at the moment and starts missing him if the both of u are to stop contacting one another. if he's a player, u r already hooked. why he would go to such extents to remain in contact with u, i do not wish to speculate. perhaps he really likes u or attracted to u (i wont use 'love' here as if u should have felt assured and enlightened if u have really found ur 'love' instead of being in so much doubts and seeking opinions in here )

if it bothers u too much, and u dun really wanna change ur lifestyle at the moment, why dun u just keep to ur primary objective then i.e just wan to find a sex buddy?

[redstorm]

As what the other brothers have said, Love can strike anywhere and anytime, sometimes without you realising it.

However, what you feel for the other party, might eventually be a case of one sided love. You will never know what is going on in the other person's head.

I have seen several of my friends proclaiming to have found love with a KTV hostess and bargirls who claim to like them... in the end... they lost something even worse than money... they lost their heart as well.

So, in my humble opinion, its always best to excercise caution and prudence when dealing in matters of the heart, especially when it occurs in the cyber world

[wingnut]

love can be found anywhere. it all depends on whether you want to give it a go.but whats love anyways. had kopi earlier with my ex flame. she's fucking 2 guys now. she wants to settle for one but dont know whats good for her. she likes bits of both. so for now, just enjoy when it last lor.

why the conflict ? dun know what you seek. if its just sex..then take him like any other guy / samster, if there's spark then carry on, enjoy the sex. if it blossoms into a relationship, it's then a bonus. if both not prepared, just moved on. take it as part of the journey. why seek the end, enjoy the journey.

but like some of the bros said...do exercise caution. dont let anyone take advantage of you. at the same time, make sure that you are prepared to play the game. if you think you cant handle, walk away. if you think that its gonna be painful, walk away now.

note my signature.....be well....it's late, dont know if i make sense. but like all bros here...wish you well

[jng1103]

Whenever my buddy and myself are bored, we would stroll down GL lanes looking for "love". My dear SiakSiBabe, are we talking about the same definition of "love" here?

"love" seeker,
jimbo

[ahpaul25]

Threadstarter, there is no love in this sex trade esp. in SBF or GL from lorong 6 to 14 PRC gers, they come here is to earn $$$, to be frank, I'm no different as a mafu in GL, popular among PRC gers,even I myself don even dare to accept their so called 'LOVE'.......I know almost all the PRC gers there.......there are many secrets within them, some are already married or either have a bf back in china or poor family background, they came here in sg , is to earn $$$ back to buy a house......and lead a normal life with their hubby or bf or family...........My key answer to all bros here, just pay and fuk off........

[medicheng]

what is love in the first place?

I knew of guys and gals having multiply partners, and at the same time being attach. more and more such cases i saw as i grow older. at times i think i am scared of love. i scared i will be one of the victim. yeah i was last time twice, to both girls i loved at different times.

maybe i am a player myself, so i dun think love exist in anytime in any place for me right now.

just live as it is.

maybe as times goes by i might change my views. finding someone who is wounded and wounded alot of times in love to be together.

just my minor opinion of myself.

love is sucky.

[pumperjack]

Hey Siaksibabe..

Sounds like you have been smitten by the unusual honesty of our bro.. Anyways, there is a thin line we skate between love and lust.. So, take good care..

Jack

[obelisk]

it is not impossible..
but u mus filter slowly...

[tungsten]

Possible.... But chances are low.

There are places that attracts certain kind of people more than the other groups. For example, libraries likely to attract more nerds and students mugging for exams...

In a sex forum... Most come in to know or discuss about sex issue. Woman use sex to express their love. Most man (will not say all man) use love as a tool to get sex. So you can try but chances are next to striking a consolation prize in 4D.