To love or be loved?

[stillgottheblue]

It is not to love or to be loved. Both parties need to work out in a relationship or else the love will waned like a rainbow. Appearing so beautifully and disappeared after a while.

[prettymannequin]

Originally Posted by fion.18

Me also choose to be loved. Loving someone can sometimes be too tiring. Better to be loved, treasured and pampered

Of cos in the ideal world, we do hope the person whom we love and loves us are the same.

Totally agree with fion here...

Can only hope the ideal situation happens to as many people as possible~

[PPGirl]

Originally Posted by siri

hahaha ya my friend always ask me to find someone who love me first.... don't fall in love first she said... but I think 人是犯贱的...

hahaha if got love no sex how? got sex no love? I think this one quite easy for many samsters here...

Hmm in d beginning i like him 1st n tell him i like him.
Later part.. then we slowly become together n as days passes by.. our love grew.

Is sex really that impt in a relationship?
Probably more than 90% pple here would say yes. If not u wont see any businesses for FL.

[justl00king]

Originally Posted by siri

hahaha if got love no sex how? got sex no love? I think this one quite easy for many samsters here...

Why got love no sex ah? That's the beauty of having a loving relationship, just makes the love making so much better.
If sex no love, then it'll just be fb.

I wouldn't be with someone whom I love, but she doesn't, vice versa, gotta work both ways.
But if it's just being fb, then I dun see why not? lol

Good Sunday, sweet Siri!

[oxeso]

Originally Posted by justl00king

I wouldn't be with someone whom I love, but she doesn't, vice versa, gotta work both ways.

Ditto, bro..I believe a healthy r/s needs lots of effort, commitment n sacrifice fr both parties. So, if d feeling is not mutual, i dun think it's worth all tat..i dun believe d r/s will bear fruit. My pov..

[conly]

A Driver and a Back-seat driver.
Same destination.Different experience.

[fion.18]

Originally Posted by prettymannequin

Totally agree with fion here...

Can only hope the ideal situation happens to as many people as possible~

You have Liao la babe! Tio shocked by bare face still don't mind seeing it forever.

Originally Posted by PPGirl

Is sex really that impt in a relationship?
Probably more than 90% pple here would say yes. If not u wont see any businesses for FL.

Sexual intimacy is crucial I feel leh. Oxytocins produced during love making helps deepens the emotional bond in a relationship. Sense of touch impt for us gals as well. Hug touch kiss, we all like rite lol haahaa

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by siri

hahaha if got love no sex how? ...

This one is easy .... carry on receiving the love , when you need sex ....call me .

win win situation !

[solarflare]

Originally Posted by fion.18

Yes agree! That's really true. Happiness is not the ending. But the process.



Almost never hahaha

sadly, many people always forget about process.

[fion.18]

Originally Posted by solarflare

sadly, many people always forget about process.

Yeah pple keep trying to aim for happiness, but forget happiness is a pursuit.

Once a while I forget that too but it's life. Just need to have pple ard us to remind us

[Lamborghini]

To be loved is a beautiful feeling.

The question is, are you able to give back ?

[siri]

I think falling in love with someone who won't feel the same for you still beats being with someone whom loves you yet you knew you know you can't lie yourself to be with him....

but we are humans. we make such mistakes.
and we allow ourselves to sink into it even though how fruitless it may seem.

the mind says no.. but the heart says go....

[prettymannequin]

Originally Posted by fion.18

You have Liao la babe! Tio shocked by bare face still don't mind seeing it forever.

Sexual intimacy is crucial I feel leh. Oxytocins produced during love making helps deepens the emotional bond in a relationship. Sense of touch impt for us gals as well. Hug touch kiss, we all like rite lol haahaa

Hahahah yea I really am a lucky girl. But when I listen to my friends talk sometimes, really hope they find the love they deserve also. And yes! I feel sexual intimacy and sexual compatibility are super important.


Also, much thanks to the anon who up'd my points in this thread. xx

[prettymannequin]

Originally Posted by siri

I think falling in love with someone who won't feel the same for you still beats being with someone whom loves you yet you knew you know you can't lie yourself to be with him....

but we are humans. we make such mistakes.
and we allow ourselves to sink into it even though how fruitless it may seem.

the mind says no.. but the heart says go....

Siri, recently I wrote this blog entry, maybe can help you think from another perspective.

I remember this vividly.

When I was in sec one, during PCCG lessons, we were talking about qualities that our boyfriends hopefully possess. After everyone shared theirs, Ms Teng also shared her only answer: that he will love her more than she loves him.

At that time, I thought this notion was so full of shit. I couldn't understand why someone would accept a relationship where her love is any lesser than his. I thought finding someone you could devote your whole heart to, even if he doesn't reciprocate in the same way, is such a blissful thing.

But now I think I understand Ms Teng because... JW's love is so full and overwhelming, I actually feel that I cannot top it. And I think to myself, this is how it feels like to be loved more, appreciated more, doted on more. And now I'm willing to admit to myself that I was wrong, so so wrong. To be coddled in his love and care like that is the best thing that I can ever ask for.

I'm not saying I don't love my boyfriend, but I just wanna say that I've seen it from your view, but now I understand that it definitely feels more 幸福 to be loved more.

[happywoody]

for love to work it has to be both ways