what would u do if u found out that ur gf has been cheating on you?

[LovePotion]

i think if u really like her perhaps u could forgive her once.. but if it happen the second time... thats it for her

[loneyheart]

can forgive BUT cannot forget ... so do u want to carry on w her in yr live

[TaylorMade]

Originally Posted by joncheong

i will just act blur but deep down...that's it...i won't treat her as gf anymore...just as a fb until she knows that i have found out then clean break...

Just continue banging her la and find a new gf who deserve your love....when banging her, treat her as a pros/fl...dun need to care about whether she song or not...just ram and release make sure you song...

I like your method best!!!!

[Townsend]

Originally Posted by Smaashfoo

As per the title.. what would u do if u found out that ur gf has been sleeping with another guy? If both of you have been together for v long? Would you forgive her?

I will not forgive her.

Trust is like a Chinese Vase, Once it is Broken, it can be mended but it will never look the same again !

[Raisin]

Originally Posted by joncheong

i will just act blur but deep down...that's it...i won't treat her as gf anymore...just as a fb until she knows that i have found out then clean break...

Just continue banging her la and find a new gf who deserve your love....when banging her, treat her as a pros/fl...dun need to care about whether she song or not...just ram and release make sure you song...

You are right. Gather some evidence first. Then treat her like FB purely. Whack her song song. Whack hard. Ride like there is no tomorrow.

In the meantime, find a true love. Just when the FB wants to get married, show her the evidence and call it off. Show her parents too.

[doubletap]

dear TS,

I read yr post (as well as all others' replies) w much tears in my heart now. I had a 9year relationship w a divorcee, n she broke off w me 5 yrs ago, to be w another man. only to be reunited w me 2 mths later.

then 4 years ago, I broke her up to be w another woman, but only to patch back w her after 4 mths. then things were well till tis year cny, she left me again w another man. only to returned to me 2 mths later. n she admitted she slept nights out having sex w tat man a few occasions. I loved her too much. I forgave her, n we patched back 3 mths ago.

3 weeks ago, she broke up w me again. leaving a lot of pain in my heart. dunno whether she had a man anot, but her actions (being so many yrs w her) n timings show tat she s seeing another man now.

my heart s dying soon, very very soon. I m very very tired alr. I know I cant give her anything except money. I cant give her marriage cos I m married too. but these 9 yrs are too much for me to bear.

I m not doing any stupid things now, but trying to fix back my family whom I had neglected over tis decade. it's hard, it's tiring. I wanna tell her: dun call or msg me anymore. I really dun wanna take in "used-goods" again, while my wife s a virgin when we married. but my heart pains......... really very pain......... good friends advised me (as brothers in tis thread) to let go.

saying is easy, especially when 3rd parties have clearer minds, but it s damned hard to walk tis road, esp when my whole lifestyle timetable have to be readjusted.

I ve been refraining very hard to write in sbf.....

[Sirrus]

just turn her into a fuck buddy and screw her like a slut that she so deserve.just meet up fuck then go home. simple no romance needed

[DemonicSS]

Originally Posted by MrStyleKing

Actually go for counseling session might be better bro?

I find the counseling system in Singapore is in its fledgling state. They dun help couples in need to accept the other party for who they are. They would only be recommended for people who do not have friends to talk to or confide with. Other than that, they dun do much. Personal belief is that they are under the direction by higher up to prevent couples from breaking off.

[Annabelle93]

Originally Posted by Smaashfoo

As per the title.. what would u do if u found out that ur gf has been sleeping with another guy? If both of you have been together for v long? Would you forgive her?

Is up to each individual decision. for me, my ex had cheated on me and bedded with girls. Even if i forgive him, i have no guarantee that he will not do it again even how he swear or promised... for my advice to u is to move on. im sure u can find a better one.

[gotnotime]

Happened to me during my ns days too. But ts, you gotta let her go and be prepared for the fact that she might really leave you.

[bloggert]

It is probably worth remembering that being in a BF/GF relationship is not quite the same as being married. The whole point, I suppose, is that you can get to know each other well enough to see if you really want to make it into a long term relationship like marriage.

If it should turn out that it doesn't work out, that is if the BF or the GF decides that they want something else, the best thing to do is to be honest about it - deal with the issues, and be glad that you didn't discover this after getting married.

Notwithstanding all the emotional investment into a BF/GF relationship, honest communications is usually the best policy. If the GF prefers someone else, she should have just said so rather than trying to have both. Likewise the BF, if you are unhappy with the GF because of something she's done, tell her so - perhaps that is the conclusion of your test relationship with her. You learnt something about yourself and your GF, and hopefully she does too.

A lot of people cannot confront the hard facts because they have too much invested and are afraid of losing it, even when it is not worth hanging on to. In conclusion:-

1. accept the possibility that she may not be the one
2. remember that you two aren't married yet, and be glad about it
3. know that there will be others out there, who could well be better for you
4. learn as many lessons as you can from it
5. don't be desperate for her, you don't need her - don't act out of fear of loss
6. have a talk with your GF and decide what to do from there

[AirBust]

Sad case...

Mine a few years ago wasnt even about her cheating 'yet'.

She told me she is catching a show with her group of colleagues and tickets have been bought already. Just an hr before her show, I met with an accident and had to go to hospital for outpatient treatment. Called her but she insisted that she cant go hospital to accompany me cos she already agreed to go watch movie with her colleagues.

That night I went to her house downstairs to wait for her. Only to find her coming home with a guy sending her home 'who wasnt a colleague' but someone who likes her. And fact is they went on a movie date, not with her group of colleagues.

End up she decided to leave me even though I forgave her..

Rest is history... Hurting.. but life still has to move on..

[coffeevan]

Originally Posted by doubletap

dear TS,

I read yr post (as well as all others' replies) w much tears in my heart now. I had a 9year relationship w a divorcee, n she broke off w me 5 yrs ago, to be w another man. only to be reunited w me 2 mths later.

then 4 years ago, I broke her up to be w another woman, but only to patch back w her after 4 mths. then things were well till tis year cny, she left me again w another man. only to returned to me 2 mths later. n she admitted she slept nights out having sex w tat man a few occasions. I loved her too much. I forgave her, n we patched back 3 mths ago.

3 weeks ago, she broke up w me again. leaving a lot of pain in my heart. dunno whether she had a man anot, but her actions (being so many yrs w her) n timings show tat she s seeing another man now.

my heart s dying soon, very very soon. I m very very tired alr. I know I cant give her anything except money. I cant give her marriage cos I m married too. but these 9 yrs are too much for me to bear.

I m not doing any stupid things now, but trying to fix back my family whom I had neglected over tis decade. it's hard, it's tiring. I wanna tell her: dun call or msg me anymore. I really dun wanna take in "used-goods" again, while my wife s a virgin when we married. but my heart pains......... really very pain......... good friends advised me (as brothers in tis thread) to let go.

saying is easy, especially when 3rd parties have clearer minds, but it s damned hard to walk tis road, esp when my whole lifestyle timetable have to be readjusted.

I ve been refraining very hard to write in sbf.....

Bro, I understand the feeling. It happened to me also. It sad, sometime people ask me how to love 2 girls when I only got 1 heart. I still don't know the answer until today.

The feeling sucks when I know her cheat on me, it sad. Letting it go is really hard. Take care bro.

[hunter]

bro doubletap.. its easy to adjust your time.. just spend it all with your wife and children.. Wife is a person who sacrifise for us.. no matter how we play outside.. never affect the relation with wife...

Your fb always play breakup with u, maybe she is looking for a richer person to hangon to..

Let go is the only help you can get..

p.s treat your wife better..

Originally Posted by doubletap

dear TS,

I read yr post (as well as all others' replies) w much tears in my heart now. I had a 9year relationship w a divorcee, n she broke off w me 5 yrs ago, to be w another man. only to be reunited w me 2 mths later.

then 4 years ago, I broke her up to be w another woman, but only to patch back w her after 4 mths. then things were well till tis year cny, she left me again w another man. only to returned to me 2 mths later. n she admitted she slept nights out having sex w tat man a few occasions. I loved her too much. I forgave her, n we patched back 3 mths ago.

3 weeks ago, she broke up w me again. leaving a lot of pain in my heart. dunno whether she had a man anot, but her actions (being so many yrs w her) n timings show tat she s seeing another man now.

my heart s dying soon, very very soon. I m very very tired alr. I know I cant give her anything except money. I cant give her marriage cos I m married too. but these 9 yrs are too much for me to bear.

I m not doing any stupid things now, but trying to fix back my family whom I had neglected over tis decade. it's hard, it's tiring. I wanna tell her: dun call or msg me anymore. I really dun wanna take in "used-goods" again, while my wife s a virgin when we married. but my heart pains......... really very pain......... good friends advised me (as brothers in tis thread) to let go.

saying is easy, especially when 3rd parties have clearer minds, but it s damned hard to walk tis road, esp when my whole lifestyle timetable have to be readjusted.

I ve been refraining very hard to write in sbf.....

[wells]

leave that gal ba...i know its hard but just do it if you feel like to.

During my NS time. Every day happily Q up for the 10cent phone..one day i'm so happy that i pass my SOC and wanted to tell her that i can book out for 3 weeks...but when i going to tell her she told me she can't talk as her bf is with her at her house..knn the 10cent phone nearly got smash by me.

anyway think it positive that this type of gal is not loyal and luckily expose.