If your girlfriend...

[durianhead]

I think, the question is "do you like/love her and want to be with her the rest of your life. "
Sex is one thing but it is not all!
Fuck might be the ultimate, but it will pass.
Her figure is good now but not forever.
But if you want her to be yours and only, she is more of a partner in life, not a fuck buddy!

[samsam93]

TS, i have a girlfriend like this now. But may not sound as good figure like yours, but still pretty to the extent that she receives compliments occasionally. To her, she has to wait till marriage for blowjob and real deal. To me, I will want to keep her, been together for more than 3 years and still have yet to complete my NS. I've been finding difficulties to cope with this sexual restriction, but i know that the REAL DEAL is to ROM with her.

[ramon]

Sometimes I wonder if guys marry a girl because she's got a hot bod and loyal to you ( at that moment ) or you really want to put effort to make the marriage last.

Sorry, but what's a keeper? You think without maintaining a strong relationship she will still be with you?

Nothing is cast in stone. If both don't commit to each other constantly then one day either one will give up. ( that doesn't mean you cannot eat outside, but don't get caught lah )

[lickNpoke]

[QUOTE=ramon;8914813]

Nothing is cast in stone. /QUOTE]

Very true indeed!

[DemonicSS]

To the TS,

While I hear from you that she is a very nice person. However, you might want to note that she can wait till marriage to have sex gives a strong indication that anything sexual with her is very low, and by you being in here shows you have a higher drive. So this disparity is already there. Also, she hasn't had sex before. So there's a chance her sexual experience with u would turn negative. Or she might object to your requests and in the end, making u sexually frustrated. Many bros here may say sex is a small thing in marriage. I would say otherwise. I feel that your partner should be one that has similar sexual and mental characteristics with you to get true happiness. Sex to me is one of several parts that is important in a relationship. I give u an example: you marry. You find out later she sucks in bed. You get frustrated, u cheat in the end. You can caught... Everything breaks down or the trust is lost. In the end, both of u suffers.

This is merely my opinion. Cheers and good luck

[DemonicSS]

I forgot to mention,

Maybe you can discuss with her on matters on sexuality on the possibility of what will happen when u both are not sexually compatible and devise an agreement beforehand to allow you an exit. Words like 'it will never happen' and 'it's impossible' are Farie tales. In reality anything can happen. So discuss it with her.

Good luck and I wish you well

[kafkaesque]

To TS, i am in a slightly similar situation with a slight difference of her being open to sex discussions (she fears pain and i'm the first guy she ever saw naked), mine still sometimes dress to kill but on special occasions only. Till now she's still a virgin and we're taking things slow for almost a year. I guess the main thing is defining if she's a keeper most probably depends on both your character's compatibility and your feelings for her (note not lust, although we men will always have them :P). i love my girlfriend for her antics, her smile and most of all the feeling of being totally comfortable and honest with her. i'm not saying sex won't play a part..but i guess that'll have to wait unless you talk to her more about it and the further developments you'd expect for it.

[lotsfits80]

Originally Posted by DemonicSS

To the TS,

While I hear from you that she is a very nice person. However, you might want to note that she can wait till marriage to have sex gives a strong indication that anything sexual with her is very low, and by you being in here shows you have a higher drive. So this disparity is already there. Also, she hasn't had sex before. So there's a chance her sexual experience with u would turn negative. Or she might object to your requests and in the end, making u sexually frustrated. Many bros here may say sex is a small thing in marriage. I would say otherwise. I feel that your partner should be one that has similar sexual and mental characteristics with you to get true happiness. Sex to me is one of several parts that is important in a relationship. I give u an example: you marry. You find out later she sucks in bed. You get frustrated, u cheat in the end. You can caught... Everything breaks down or the trust is lost. In the end, both of u suffers.

This is merely my opinion. Cheers and good luck

I used to had the same opinion too, but after many years of dating her, I've come to a different conclusion. She's not reluctant to sex, she just feels there's so much more in life, including sex. She used to be naive in sex but she learned a lot from me, both consciously and subconsciously. She admitted that she watched my porn stash and masturbated herself while watching (shit that turns me on now) and she used to think that penis is dirty (now she gives great head, her tongue can swirl around my head and great suction effect). She isn't shy to grab my penis every so often and caring enough to often ask me if I've masturbated or do I need help. While I have not penetrated her, we do mutual masturbation and I have made her achieved orgasms both from clitoral tickling and clitoral tongue licking. She enjoyed it. She has a great ass that I slap playfully and she enjoys it.

I understand that despite I enjoyed sex with her, and she's not anti-sexual, she wants our marriage to be special. While I wanted to bang her so much, I'm willing to commit and make the marriage work.

I do agree that sex and look is not everything and will never last, that's why I'm going to enjoy her look and fucking her while it lasts, and still click with her on our mutual vision in life later (yes we have same long term goals in life, and nothing to do with money unlike most people).

[durianhead]

Originally Posted by DemonicSS

To the TS,

While I hear from you that she is a very nice person. However, you might want to note that she can wait till marriage to have sex gives a strong indication that anything sexual with her is very low, and by you being in here shows you have a higher drive. So this disparity is already there. Also, she hasn't had sex before. So there's a chance her sexual experience with u would turn negative. Or she might object to your requests and in the end, making u sexually frustrated. Many bros here may say sex is a small thing in marriage. I would say otherwise. I feel that your partner should be one that has similar sexual and mental characteristics with you to get true happiness. Sex to me is one of several parts that is important in a relationship. I give u an example: you marry. You find out later she sucks in bed. You get frustrated, u cheat in the end. You can caught... Everything breaks down or the trust is lost. In the end, both of u suffers.

This is merely my opinion. Cheers and good luck

Sex is important in marriage but is not everything. You do not only fuck n fuck after marriage.
The need is sex is a basic need for both male and female. The reason why she want to do it after marriage is becos she want to keep it special to her future hubby, this does not mean she is low sex drive, is only that you have not try. Is already very good for her to allow bbbj wif him isn't it. Jus imagine purely give no take.putting a lolly pop in, out the mouth, at least got the taste of sweetness, but a dick, with bushy hair that ticker the nose, shiok meh? But by performing bbbj brings man to heaven, is like entering a warm damn cave and at time tighten the walls, sound like what?---> yes pussy. So when she cannot give you the real one, she give a simulate one (1 D effect--can feel only) still not happy.

Now another fact of life, woman at different age, need changes;

When too young---> pain(cannot enjoy sex), not easily sitmulate, not much fluid, so alway want to finish fast fast.

When getting older---> only enjoy during vacation, why becos got many family problems, cannot relax to play

Laggi older---> you die! When you are done, she not yet start. Need more toys for her to complete her needs. See you die or not!

So in marriage, if you only focus on sex, at which point to look?
In marriage there is also other things like buying a flat to stay, make up the house, have children, bringing them up, share the load of taking care of parents(both sides), daily exspenes, career and future.... Does she share the same thoughts, and interests? If yes then don't consider, quick quick take liao, wait for what!

[OmegaS]

Originally Posted by muscleboi

now a keeper doesnt mean after marriage still a keeper. after marriage a keeper doesnt mean after giving birth still a keeper. after giving birth a keeper doesnt mean 5, 10 or 20 years down the road still a keeper. but then whether we live to see it, its another question. why not enjoy while you can?

Great minds think alike.

[muscleboi]

Originally Posted by OmegaS

Great minds think alike.

yes bro, the society-made-up wedding contract is holy to some people, girls especially. once they get the contract signed, things may change. try to recall how some of us salesmen slack after getting the business deal signed. the effect is about the same. of course not all girls are like that. but i can safely say most modern day girls are like that.

[Lauhuu]

Originally Posted by lotsfits80

has a 32B, 25, 35 body, stands at 168cm,
Always gets random compliments from friends, colleagues or strangers for her beauty,
appreciates finer things in life
but still down to earth and not materialistic, no princess attitude
Loves only you and will not cheat or even flirt with others (so she doesn't dress to kill)
Gives you blowjob but have to wait for marriage for the real deal

Do you think she's definitely a keeper?

Hur? Still got mei? The last i checked, they say no more in production liao. Last batch manufactured in the 60s.

[tungsten]

She seems to be worth keeping... But remember that other people would also like to keep her if you are not worth keeping in her eyes...

[BMW69]

Definitely a keeper. Girls like her are rare these days. And she values her virginity. It's sure better than those who f on the first date.

[xdra]

TS, from the way you described it, she is really someone you should treasure. Definitely a keeper!

Looking forward to hear your good news in time to come.