Marital affair

[sexcalculator99]

The cycle don't stop. The green always seems greener on the other side but is it?
You cross the line. If can't play by the rules, don't play.
Period

[mrhumsap]

if she can cheat on her bf and nsa with u
there is no guarantee that she will not do the same to you.
think wisely, best is to go back to your faithfully wife

[mrhumsap]

drink milk outside but dont bring the cow home...

[Krazzie]

Originally Posted by BigGuy

New, fresh and personal gratification always rule big head.

So another 4 years with a new girl looking for NSA and cycle goes again.

Quoted For The Truth....

Bro, there is a saying "You don't marry the girl you love most" I think it actually means in marriages love is not the most important thing. So consider this carefully which woman will you wanna spend the rest of your life with.. and which woman is the one you can see yourself grow old with.

Luckily you have no kids yet..

[Bodyache]

Originally Posted by Babygirlzz

Go back to your wife. Nothing is worth your family. Nothing.

Well said! Have your fun but please do not leave the family...

[rat967]

Originally Posted by Quraisy

Bro,

its better to return back to your wife, do remember the vows which you have made on yr wedding day...

The girl is just another excitement you have in your life which will come and go..in due time...

I strongly agree wit his bro !! I Fling too .but end of day I still return to my family !

[flamboyant]

Don't be silly. Go back to your wife.

[dvdfreak]

Yeah bro, heed the advise, play, dump and look for another one.... just like i do...

[nogo]

TS, you have had lots of replies and well meaning advises and I gather you are still in 2 minds as to what your true feelings are (been there done that). I used the words "your true feelings" singularly as very frankly you, at this point in time should not be considering the feelings of your NSA. It is your decision and yours alone as you stand to lose more and go through a lot more pain and hell than your NSA. Bear in mind you will be messing up 3 lives and probably a few others more along the way.

Think through the following as objectively as possible:

1. What was your original objective in linking up with her?
2. Why are you deviating from your original objective?
3. Lust turned to Love?? or is it Lust turned to Puppy Love?? I think the later is truer as yes, grown up married men still can develop crushes and puppy love. Some calls it their "Second or 3rd Spring". I have known of men who "fell in love" with the prostitute they visit regularly. Is that love??
4. As a bro here have said, if your NSA can do it to her bf what makes you so sure it will not happen to you too??
5. Is leaving your Wife your back up plan in the relationship with your NSA?? You know the answer to that better.

So, that's my 2cents worth. but think carefully. And if you ever decide to call it quits with the NSA, do it one time...cut off contact completely. Yes it will be painful for you and her but that's the only way, don't leave lingering doubts. The pain will go away with time.

Take care and all the best.

[mrhumsap]

i believe u are now of 2 minds, after having so many response from bro here.
you want to have the best of both world
you are reluctant to let go of her cos you have spend so much effort to win her which others will envy so my advice is to be very upfront with her that you are not ready to leave your wife for her and store for time while searching your true feeling...
on the other hand you have to be discreet and not to arouse your wife suspicion

Take care

[pychan]

dear all,

thanks for all advise.

I am really not ready to let go both.
and i also know i cannot have both together, as it will hurt someone.
At the end sure someone will get hurt.

she is a very good girl to me, she into NSA because of pressure / stress and lack of time by her bf. beside this is a caring, filial, nice, pretty, elegant, profesional. her bf is much a good person, wealth, nice looking, only lack fo time for her.
She willing to give up all this just to be with me. Frankly speaking, i am not handsome, i am not rich, but she like my companionship and caring to her.



i am not sure this is "2nd spring", as i know the feeling is much stronger than my first gf or my wife when we start dating ( i am comparing the most peak of moment compare my previous 2 woman). I mean beside sex, she always in my mind now, whenever i free, i miss her, when i driving, i also thinking of her. Reading her emails and sms, make my days brighter.

I still cant figure any way without hurting anyone. I cant be selfish to let woman hurt, this i know clearly , but i really dunno what to do now.

very stressful now

[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by pychan

But we develop a true love feeling. i love her and she love me.

how do you know this for a fact?

[Iemanishere]

Bro, go back to ur wife.. Always know we're is home

[insultress]

The fact that you are here seeking opinions is more than enough for me to assume you arent sure. if you're not sure then it aint love darling. if it were you wouldnt even have to ask as u'd already know the answer and would have made the choice yourself.

Its just a passing phase of some new and exciting thrill from your everyday norm. its the forbidden fruit theory. once u make her yours permanently whats to say it wont eventually end up like how it is now with you and your wife? im sure it was once beautiful between u and your wife and hence the decision to get married right? unless u say it was some shotgun affair and u did it out of responsibility or other situations as such.

stick with your wife. she(nsa girl) is obviously getting sticky. if she did indeed love you and had thoughts of being with you, plus not feel anything for her bf, she would have left him for you and waited to be with u only. the fact that even she is holding on to her bf and waiting for u to decide shows that she is being smart. lasting relationships like marriages dont just run on sex alone as over time it gets weary n old even with the occasional spark n twist thrown in. its the relationship foundation built on trust, communication and understanding that eventually brings it together. if its the thrill ur after then by all means keep doing what ur doing n changing the partner when things start to go down hill. that way it'll nvr die down nor get boring but u'll never have the stable confortzone to return to as when in a marriage.

[American]

Take care.