Need advice on Sour marriage life..

[S.B.Y.1]

Originally Posted by brightbluesky

u are headed for divorce the moment u quit your job

with no earning power, pal, u are useless...

rather, u are more useless than useless...

and u want her to have sex with u?


wake up

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Mas (bro) topcook1 is in a grey moment now therefore kind words should be encouraged

All's not the end of the road Mas topcook1 - Heads UP Mas

[Hurricane88]

Yes agreed we must encourage topcook1...

alot of good advice here liao....do it slowly and take care...setup a schedule of events...

1) get a job...you will definitely lose custody of children without a job
2) get evidence of wife affair...this to bargain for custody and housing...
3) just omit from chionging...stay at home more with kids...
4) just behave like nothing happened and wait for her moves
5) try not to divorce...ultimately children are victims...
6) final choice is divorce...wait for her to initiate it...

[S.B.Y.1]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Yes agreed we must encourage topcook1...

alot of good advice here liao....do it slowly and take care...setup a schedule of events...

3) just omit from chionging...stay at home more with kids.....

At the moment don follow Mas hurricane88 to Vietnam

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by S.B.Y.1

At the moment don follow Mas hurricane88 to Vietnam

haha...Mas P...haha....very funny...my schedule said no more chionging and sure cannot follow me to Vietnam la...:P

You follow me to Vietnam end of the month ok...

[topcook1]

Thanks everyone for your advice..I will be strong and shall keep all brudders here updated.cheers

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by brightbluesky

u are headed for divorce the moment u quit your job

with no earning power, pal, u are useless...

rather, u are more useless than useless...

and u want her to have sex with u?


wake up

Guess I not keen to bonk her too..

[RealEstateGuy]

Braddah, a woman who goes clubbing and is angry at you for no reason is not with you any longer. If you are sure you are not at fault (sort of doubtful with the FL activities), document her affair and just split. She's not worth it -- if --- we are hearing the story correctly from you braddah.

[dasreich]

As one who is divorced, you really need to see what is best for the kids.

If you can come to an acceptable divorce arrangement would be best, however, I believe she may make it difficult for you.

Best to see what is her move,you just "tahan" for the kids. Consider her as a tenant in your house.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Add on: When a person is stuck in a bad marriage, he or she has only 3 choices:

1) Stay married and be miserable
2) Get a divorce and be happy
3) Stayed married and work things out

The ball is in your court.

[Tomthefucker]

Originally Posted by topcook1

I dont have any affair before..My children is too young to understand...There is too much accumulated issue which started few years ago...Once the mirror is crack is difficult to mend back. I live for my daughters sake.

my marriage hit the rocks recently and my wife told me cracks appeared difficult to mend, i am still on the slow road crawling back.

I understood your feelings of uncertainty..whether its at a point of no return where a split is the best way to go, or there's lingering hope that things will be sorted out and eventually will be back to last time, no one will know, and both are equally big steps to take.

I would say make plans for yourself and your kids standby and see how things goes..

Take care bro

[singmarine]

I am also in the same shoe. I have been working very hard to give my gf the best life possible. But she always complain I dun have enough time for her. I do not understand her. Many a times she send sms to provoke me even during work time which we start off a quarrel. She msg things like she regret ROM with me, she should find another guy, she should throw tempter even before ROM. Now we seems to quarrel more than good times. I start to feel sian with her and wonder is my ROM a good decision.

I wonder is it normal for gals to behave in this irresponsible manner. Working life is already not fun and stressful. Adding on this this gal nonsense makes this even worse.

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by singmarine

I am also in the same shoe. I have been working very hard to give my gf the best life possible. But she always complain I dun have enough time for her. I do not understand her. Many a times she send sms to provoke me even during work time which we start off a quarrel. She msg things like she regret ROM with me, she should find another guy, she should throw tempter even before ROM. Now we seems to quarrel more than good times. I start to feel sian with her and wonder is my ROM a good decision.

I wonder is it normal for gals to behave in this irresponsible manner. Working life is already not fun and stressful. Adding on this this gal nonsense makes this even worse.

Braddah communication is key. Have you two sought counseling?

[kristoa7]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Braddah communication is key. Have you two sought counseling?

Yep.This may hold the key...Perhaps a third party can talk to your Wife bro topcook1

[smurfpapa]

Bro,sorry to hear this.Anyway once marriage is broke ,it quite difficult to patch up.
Think forward for your both kids.

[owl888]

Since u quit your job I m sure u have plenty of time to do things u like. Hopefully, u oso have enuf savings in $$$......

A friend's marriage is on the rocks but he did the right things & get the right result. He shower lots of love, time & effort on his children until that when there's any quarrel with his wife the children always think daddy is right and mum is wrong. He oso treat the in-laws very well (maybe he bought them over). Since u got a lot of time spend most of the time with children and your in-laws.

Once your wife's closest kin is on your side, u will always enjoy the upperhand and she'll be to blame by her parents for ill-treating u. Maybe this will make her regret for treating u poorly.

My 3 cents of comments.