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[CouplesSwing]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

Icic, i also managed to contact them and was rejected after a long while and exchange of messages.

So you have been contacting everyone except us???


Señorita CouplesSwing

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by CouplesSwing

So you have been contacting everyone except us???


Señorita CouplesSwing

please don't say that. let's say we are not ready to meet u guys yet but rest assured we will be. U hv my word.

By the way, i am in touch with bro jasjude and let's do lunch sometimes if time allows.

[JuzAHornyGuy]

Originally Posted by CouplesSwing

Josh,
You know what? You should perhaps have another serious talk with your girlfriend. It is alright to set criteria & requirements. In fact it is a good idea.

But:
1) Does your gf have what it takes as well? *swings' not just about fxxx & go*
2) Is she just giving "excuses" because she is getting the cold feet? *if yes, trust me, we'll be witnessing a constant repeat of today's saga*
3) How sure are you that your girlfriend is ready to swing? *is she doing this just to please you?*
4) She is only 18!! Age is no barrier, but wtf do you want a 18 year old to swing? *let her go enjoy dating and having sex the way she knows it*

I'm sorry I am being blunt here as well. But wasting people's time this way is a big no no. Not your fault. But you should have a talk with her. If she's sure she's open to it, then it's only fair you guys treat the other couples with respect, be responsible & handle the matter wisely. If she is not, then perhaps you should respect her.



Señorita CouplesSwing

Hey Senorita CouplesSwing, thanks for the advice and hmm yeah I should.

I guess its hard to sit down and talk to her sometimes cause she is the happy go luck sort. I do all the worrying and planning while she has all the fun.

True I totally agree swing is not about just Fxxk and go. Its about chemistry that both couples must have with one another. I guess she and me have different mindsets. But every couple has their yin and their yang.
She and I can be quite different. I'm the anything goes sort and I don't really mind and I believe a person's/couple's character is important. Looks aren't everything.

Nah she definitely doesn't have cold feet, cause the first time we did a swing we went full, in the same room with another couple, full swap. So thats not an issue.

I don't think she is doing it to please me cause she is kinda wild and horny and it also pleases her, so i guess its mutual pleasure to both of us. To see one another being pleasured side by side.

Yeah I guess she is really young thats why maybe she hasn't thought out all the finer details yet. But before she met me, she already went for a 3some online. So I suggested swinging and believe me she is ready for it.

Just her final requirements to her are the
1) The couple musn't be above the age of 30.
2) The couple musn't smoke, I guess she somehow finds people who smoke a turn off
3) She doesn't do anal.
4) She wants safe sex, as in even for a BJ she wants the guy to wear a condom..

I guess some of her demands make it impossible to find another couple to swing with..but I guess those are it.


Hmm I agree we shouldn't waste other couple's time, as in we wouldn't want the same being put in their shoes. And I'd rather have fun with 2 extra people than with just her..hehe

But err forgive me if i'm misinterpreting but does that mean that every couple who meets up with one another aren't allowed to not go through with the swing? I mean surely if one of the couples isn't comfortable they are allowed to walk away and choose not to swing?

Sorry just asking here.

Sincerely, Josh and Thanks Senorita CouplesSwing for taking the time to review my thread and posting on it. Cheers! Hope to hear your reply so I can learn more from you!

[JuzAHornyGuy]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

Icic, i also managed to contact them and was rejected after a long while and exchange of messages.

Paisei bro, but can always meet up for a drink..we might not swing together but can always be friends right?

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by JuzAHornyGuy

Paisei bro, but can always meet up for a drink..we might not swing together but can always be friends right?

Sure can, y not?

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by JuzAHornyGuy

But err forgive me if i'm misinterpreting but does that mean that every couple who meets up with one another aren't allowed to not go through with the swing? I mean surely if one of the couples isn't comfortable they are allowed to walk away and choose not to swing?

There is no commitment between two couples and if one couple is not comfortable with the other ;you can excuse yourselves gracefully .There is NO OBLIGATIONS ! Its a understanding that both couples should have . However during the initial exchange of info like stats , or even photo exchange . You should be able to access the couple and make up your mind to accept or refuse the couple without meeting .

However , chemistry is profound . There are occasions that the mere sight of the other couple is unbearable ( I simply hate his guts or i don't like the gal 's attitude ) so its always a thrill or a surprise or maybe a disappointment when meeting up with other couples . Go with a open heart to make friends , if anything happens its a bonus . With this mentality , you will never go wrong .

Each couple is unique , they have their own preferences ! likes and dislikes ! Its hard to please all honestly . But a basic respect should be given to each . This is why some couples don't join group swings cos they have stricter requirements and some only join group swings cos they dislike the disapprovals and rejections from others when meeting couple to couple .

I am speaking from experience .

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Words of the wise man, once again. **claps claps**

[CouplesSwing]

Originally Posted by JuzAHornyGuy

Yeah I guess she is really young thats why maybe she hasn't thought out all the finer details yet.

But err forgive me if i'm misinterpreting but does that mean that every couple who meets up with one another aren't allowed to not go through with the swing? I mean surely if one of the couples isn't comfortable they are allowed to walk away and choose not to swing?

Originally Posted by jasdude

There is no commitment between two couples and if one couple is not comfortable with the other ;you can excuse yourselves gracefully .There is NO OBLIGATIONS ! Its a understanding that both couples should have . However during the initial exchange of info like stats , or even photo exchange . You should be able to access the couple and make up your mind to accept or refuse the couple without meeting .

Go with a open heart to make friends , if anything happens its a bonus . With this mentality , you will never go wrong .

... But a basic respect should be given to each.

No Josh,
I do not mean to say that couples who meet up must immediately go for the full works of it all. It all depends on what is your said arrangement with the other couple. Is it to meet up to swing? Or meet up to have a feel of one another first? Of course if it's the latter, either party can walk away & not swing.

You make them go all the way down and dismiss them the moment you hear they smoke? Whoa .... a really pure waste of time. I mean, these are things that can be pre-defined beforehand. We should always be mindful and respectful of other people's time.

And what I am more gutted about are overly eager guys who bring unsuspecting partners who doesn't know or doesn't want to swing. Or girls who had agreed but get the cold feet upon arrival. Then .. lotsa commotion after that. Really a spoiler.

Well, our dear friend Jasdude sums it up pretty nicely.
"Excusing yourselves gracefully and basic respect".
"Go with a open heart to make friends , if anything happens its a bonus . With this mentality , you will never go wrong"

At the end of the day, regardless what happen, handling the matter with grace, respect and EQ will certainly go a long way & be that little sweetener.

My señor will explain to you why I feel so strongly about this. Pai seh, kinda unleashed it upon you.

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

Words of the wise man, once again. **claps claps**

BRO , THANKS for the compliments but I am just sharing from my experiences from the swings I had organized and from the couples that I had meet . Happy to share and impart anytime .

[Redviolet]

All the pro swingers fall in here?

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by Redviolet

All the pro swingers fall in here?

Hmmmmm so you are one too ? Hmmmmmmm

[JuzAHornyGuy]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

Sure can, y not?

Ill arrange a date with you next week i very free in evenings my gf busy haha...any good place? I dont really fancy beer though

[JuzAHornyGuy]

Originally Posted by jasdude

There is no commitment between two couples and if one couple is not comfortable with the other ;you can excuse yourselves gracefully .There is NO OBLIGATIONS ! Its a understanding that both couples should have . However during the initial exchange of info like stats , or even photo exchange . You should be able to access the couple and make up your mind to accept or refuse the couple without meeting .

However , chemistry is profound . There are occasions that the mere sight of the other couple is unbearable ( I simply hate his guts or i don't like the gal 's attitude ) so its always a thrill or a surprise or maybe a disappointment when meeting up with other couples . Go with a open heart to make friends , if anything happens its a bonus . With this mentality , you will never go wrong .

Each couple is unique , they have their own preferences ! likes and dislikes ! Its hard to please all honestly . But a basic respect should be given to each . This is why some couples don't join group swings cos they have stricter requirements and some only join group swings cos they dislike the disapprovals and rejections from others when meeting couple to couple .

I am speaking from experience .

Thanks for replying to my thread jas dude. Brilliant words of advice and can see you are speaking from experience. In fact we agreed to meet just to chat and we were thinking of swinging as a bonus..i saw it with an open mind and so did my partner. I mean if you meet up with a couple and nothing happens we still get to meet 2 new people for the day.
Anyway thanks for your words of advice i will keep them in mind, cheers!

[Redviolet]

Originally Posted by jasdude

Hmmmmm so you are one too ? Hmmmmmmm

Obviously not! I'm still an amateur

[JuzAHornyGuy]

Actually its okay to unleash it on me in life i always believe in negative and positive feedback, its pain and hard to hear but its alwaya necessary without it i wouldnt be who i am today. Anyway i think i'm being wronged here a bit so I would like to clarify the matter at hand and i guess sometimes honesty does get you in a bit of trouble.

It is partly my fault as i thought that she had finalised out all her terms with me. But i did give her my word before we agreed to couple swing that ultimately the choice to swing with a couple or not is hers, for me i am very easy to please and will mostly be okay with anything but I still have my standards of course. But i still believe chemistry is important, but it wins over looks. For this i take full responsibilty and believe me i was a bit frustrated when she said she wasn't keen yesterday as I was quite attracted to the couple and was actually hoping to swing with them. When I was talking to them I found that they met all her terms and was sure it was a done deal.

But when she heard they smoked or saw that they did, it must have somehow triggered off something as she told me her ex used to smoke and she didn't like it, maybe it brought back bad memories for her. But I didn't ask her what was the reason why she didn't like smokers and respected her decision.

Even getting up from the chair was really hard and having to walk away was even harder but I just had to put on a false smile and agree with her decision as I have given her my word.

When we met the couple yesterday we did have an agreement that we would talk it out first, list down our terms and come to an agreement. If both couples were comfortable then we would go ahead with the swing. I don't think any couple would just meet up and head straight to a swing right? And we didn't exchange pictures with the couple as they were not agreeable to exchange pictures. But I respected their privacy and decision. Instead me and my gf took a chance in meeting them and were hoping to swing. Maybe indirectly we gave the couple false hope that the swing was going to happen, but in fact we did agree to meet up to have a feel of one another first.

You make them go all the way down and dismiss them the moment you hear they smoke? Whoa .... a really pure waste of time. I mean, these are things that can be pre-defined beforehand. We should always be mindful and respectful of other people's time.>>
To this I agree that I did waste their time and I am sorry, thats why I felt so bad afterwards and would really like to make it up to them another day. BUT in my defense if you actually see it from a bigger picture, I could have just messaged the couple saying that she wasn't agreeable to it and I didn't have to explain why. But I really liked them and was a bit reluctant to not be able to swing with them, so I felt that I owed it to them to tell them the real reason why my gf wasn't up for it as I didn't want them to go back thinking there was something wrong with them. As being turned down is never easy. But on the other hand if I was in the couple's shoes I would be pissed to. But to cut things short..I didn't know about this bit of information too, I too found out about it at the last minute and was caught off guard as well.

And what I am more gutted about are overly eager guys who bring unsuspecting partners who doesn't know or doesn't want to swing. Or girls who had agreed but get the cold feet upon arrival. Then .. lotsa commotion after that. Really a spoiler.>>
Trust me she is not unsuspecting even though she is young, she fully agreed to this and has already done a full swing in the same room with me with another couple not from SBF. She definitely doesn't get cold feet and doesn't have cold feet, she is just a bit choosy. But so was I at that age and I only got less choosy after negative feedback and experiences in life. Though I agree it really is a spoiler and I won't let this happen again.

"Excusing yourselves gracefully and basic respect". >>
I admit I didn't fulfill this part as I was thinking more about honesty at that time.

"Go with a open heart to make friends , if anything happens its a bonus . With this mentality , you will never go wrong">>
I always have this in mind and it was my intention for this session, although were eager to swing with another couple, the swinging is just a bonus.

So at the end of this Senorita CouplesSwing I accept your unleashing and forgive you for it. It shows you care..hehe :P Cheers!