Pissed off by gf mum...

[Big Sexy]

mate... pulau ubin???

Originally Posted by etct88

I have missed the boat. Now looking at a different retirement plan......somewhere affordable..

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by etct88

.....I have missed the boat. Now looking at a different retirement plan....... to be happy and bright, somewhere affordable..

No worries. You didn't miss anything
Although a ship in port is safe, but that is not what ships are built for. Sail out to sea and do new things.
Check your pm
Cheers

[cleanfreak]

Originally Posted by Big Sexy

mate...Good to hear that..

my previous remark was made in good faith and without malice..and my assumption was based on this post

anyway.. keep the faith mate.

Haha! I could never bring myself to try it! Afraid I will come back with the smell on me. (No offense to Indian bros here but there really is a smell on those Indian WL) I'm cool man. Not offended in anyway.

I'd want to spend my later years in another country if I could but maybe when I do get to be at another place, I'll miss the Tong Fong Fatt chicken rice at Golden Shoe Complex, West Coast prata, Yong Heng Fried Hokkien Noodles, Old Chang Kee curry puffs. . . .

[hornie]

1) Stop visiting prositutes and save money.

2) Get some good friends. Getting relationship and family advice from a sex forum only shows that you need better friends.

3) Get out of your GF's house and rent a proper room else where or go back to your parents. I assume that you are staying there because they offered you a very very good rate but that will leave a bad impression on you with them and will not boast their confidence in you and you will "owe" them. You are either independent or you are not.

4) They let you stay there on the grounds that you, like every other tenant, must pay rent on time. My brother in law wants to stay with me and my wife and I told him, full market rent or find somewhere else. You must be disciplined about this.

5) Do not blame your gf's parents. I would have done the same. So would you in future. In fact, I would have never let you stay with my daughter. You cannot even take care of yourself how can you take care of their daughter. No money to pay rent and want to stay in my house and court my daughter without marrying her first? Fat chance. I would break your legs if you ever set foot in my house. Count yourself lucky that your GF's parents are so kind.

6) Earn the respect of the people around you. Earn money, pay your rent, support your girlfriend and people around you including your gf's parents will see that.

7) Good that you are independent and do not want help from your family financially, but being independent does not mean that you cannot accept any form of help. Rather than financial help, just talk to them. Getting advice from your parents does not make you weak.

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by cleanfreak

(I've applied for a 4room flat together with my gf, not without the support of my family of course. I'm fortunate to have a family which can afford a comfortable lifestyle thus offering me financial assistance in times of need. Bros would be wondering why I dont seek help from home. Reason is I dont go home and ask for help unless it's a really big issue. Got to be independent right?)

It was obvious they were trying to be sarcastic. I was pissed off and angry but since I owe them the rent, there was nothing I could do than keep my mouth shut! I'm not earning big money and as such, there's nothing I can do to impress her parents. However, I will persevere and work diligently. I believe that even though I maybe not be able to earn big amounts of money, in 2 years time, I will be earning a decent amount of money which allows me to pay for my house, drive a car and be able to save some money after providing for my gf now (wife by then) and children if any.

Thanks for spending time going through my lamenting.
Happy bonking~

hi bro cleanfreak, i just kaypoh kaypoh a bit. if my opinion offends u, i dont mean it and hope u dont take it to heart.

1. good of u to turn back on your past and try to make good. think your gf appreciates that very much. and kudos to u for finding such a nice girl who doesnt mind your past. it would be really stupid of u not to do everything to hold on to her. such nice girls are almost extinct nowadays.

2. your future parents-in-law might be tactless in asking u to make good on your rent, but dont u think they deserve it as well??? u r living in their house and they r paying utility bills, housing loan and such...

3. this episode suggests that u didnt really PR with your gf's parents. as much as your gf is the one u r marrying, she would really want u to be on good terms with her family members.

4. i really feel that they have a point with the hdb flat. i didnt realise how expensive new hdb flats really are until my bro tried to book one recently. man, hdb are really big-time bloodsuckers!!! the prices meant that most newly weds would be in debt for the rest of their working lives. as both yr gf n u probably might not have much $$$ in your cpf, i guess u have to pay at least about $800 - $1k per month for the flat. plus, your agent job would not net u any cpf and thus, u have to come up with cold hard cash!!! it would certainly be wise for both of u to consider getting a smaller flat instead.

i m not saying that u cant afford a 4-room flat. but every industry has its ups and downs, even the property market. actually, especially the property market. so, i appreciate (not the tone lah) what yr gf's parents are saying. our elders are usually not very tactful but they usually mean well. would it be better to get something cheaper, and be able to pay for it even when times are bad, rather than to stretch your wallets to the max? like u said, u really dont want to be going back to your parents to ask for money to pay for your flat instalments all the time, right? a few years down the road, when both u and yr wife are financially more stable, then u might want to decide to commit to a bigger apartment, or to a better location. one small step at a time.

5. one last thing... i just feel that if u want to do something nice for yr gf, like being so nice to pay for her education, why would u want to use it as ammunition to hurt her parents during a quarrel??? yr family and u have already done something good with the money already, and i m sure your family members felt good about it. not expecting anything in return would make them feel even better. i would suggest u leave it as that. no need to say one, cos i think the parents already knew.

my 2 cents. no offence meant. cheers.

[cleanfreak]

Originally Posted by _AXL_

hi bro cleanfreak, i just kaypoh kaypoh a bit. if my opinion offends u, i dont mean it and hope u dont take it to heart.

1. good of u to turn back on your past and try to make good. think your gf appreciates that very much. and kudos to u for finding such a nice girl who doesnt mind your past. it would be really stupid of u not to do everything to hold on to her. such nice girls are almost extinct nowadays.

2. your future parents-in-law might be tactless in asking u to make good on your rent, but dont u think they deserve it as well??? u r living in their house and they r paying utility bills, housing loan and such...

3. this episode suggests that u didnt really PR with your gf's parents. as much as your gf is the one u r marrying, she would really want u to be on good terms with her family members.

4. i really feel that they have a point with the hdb flat. i didnt realise how expensive new hdb flats really are until my bro tried to book one recently. man, hdb are really big-time bloodsuckers!!! the prices meant that most newly weds would be in debt for the rest of their working lives. as both yr gf n u probably might not have much $$$ in your cpf, i guess u have to pay at least about $800 - $1k per month for the flat. plus, your agent job would not net u any cpf and thus, u have to come up with cold hard cash!!! it would certainly be wise for both of u to consider getting a smaller flat instead.

i m not saying that u cant afford a 4-room flat. but every industry has its ups and downs, even the property market. actually, especially the property market. so, i appreciate (not the tone lah) what yr gf's parents are saying. our elders are usually not very tactful but they usually mean well. would it be better to get something cheaper, and be able to pay for it even when times are bad, rather than to stretch your wallets to the max? like u said, u really dont want to be going back to your parents to ask for money to pay for your flat instalments all the time, right? a few years down the road, when both u and yr wife are financially more stable, then u might want to decide to commit to a bigger apartment, or to a better location. one small step at a time.

5. one last thing... i just feel that if u want to do something nice for yr gf, like being so nice to pay for her education, why would u want to use it as ammunition to hurt her parents during a quarrel??? yr family and u have already done something good with the money already, and i m sure your family members felt good about it. not expecting anything in return would make them feel even better. i would suggest u leave it as that. no need to say one, cos i think the parents already knew.

my 2 cents. no offence meant. cheers.

Dont worry! None taken!

Oh well yeah. You do have a point but before this incident, I've already told her mum to be rest assured that I will pay her in full on the 1st. That's why I think this incident was totally uncalled for.

I appreciate the advice from bros around regarding finances. My gf doesnt have much CPF savings but my family does top up my CPF account and it's been going on for awhile. It's not a substantial amount but its enough to let me make a 10% downpayment on my flat at least, for which I am very thankful for.

You're right. My family offered to help my gf out of goodwill so I shouldn't talk about it and thats why I kept quiet even though I was pissed off. Only thing I can and have to do now is to work hard and earn money. I'll make sure her parents shut their bloody gap once I get married to my gf. I'll definitely return them 'the favour' when time is ripe.

I havent had a chance to meet up with my close friends to chat, thus I'm releasing my pent up frustration here first.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by cleanfreak

I appreciate the advice from bros around regarding finances. My gf doesnt have much CPF savings but my family does top up my CPF account and it's been going on for awhile.

Anyone who voluntarily puts money into CPF must be nuts. All it does is go into Ho Ching's personal piggy bank. You'll wake up one day and find your CPF funds all gone.

Instead of trying to escape the trap, you're digging an even bigger hole for yourself.

[see see only]

Originally Posted by cleanfreak

Lol. Just that I don't earn much. I just started out so I'm doing room rentals where the commission is really little but no choice gotta persevere. Sometimes its by a stroke of luck or I'll really have to endure for at least half a year before I start seeing abit of results. Bros who are agents or have friends who are, will know it very well.

Luck is important ... in agent job (think again)

My friend, a gentle advice if you use the word "Luck" as your excuse for failing to get more business and not putting efforts in searching of your ....... "LUCK" .....

Then "luck" will always be your excuse for not making enough ....

Seen too many people blaming "luck" when they failed ... and hope you dont follow them as well ........ Still me wish you "luck"

[cleanfreak]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Anyone who voluntarily puts money into CPF must be nuts. All it does is go into Ho Ching's personal piggy bank. You'll wake up one day and find your CPF funds all gone.

Instead of trying to escape the trap, you're digging an even bigger hole for yourself.

Lol. You really do have an agenda with the 'gahmen' eh...Most of us Singaporeans don't have much of a choice do we?

[kosan]

1) U don't have $$$, her parent will look down on you

2) Sometimes must (hau lian) a bit, for what the CPF top up for yur gf case.

3) I don't understand why you want to stay at your gf house. Your future in law is meetng you every day. U can stay at your parent hse ma.
Hokien ( Wu lai wu ke chui tai ji, bo lai bo ke bo tai chi).

Bro keep it up with your carrer, make sure choose the right path and one day buy big car and landed proprerty but don't let the in law stay in. Feed your wife to be untill super chubby. hokkien ( kua be ki wa), one day I made it, ask them to stand one side.

Bro, from my personal experience I don't even want to entertain my wife relative. During my hard day, just like you without $$$ and having the first kid a few year back. My wife uncle is rich but she did not approch him for help. I struggle in my carrer and luckily my buddy help me to secure / intro to new job. I know who are my buddy and we do keep in contact and help each other. One day while driving my wife told me his rich uncle how good, how good, give money to this and that relative. I tell her off, right in front of her face during my hard time did your uncle help me. Immediately she keep quiet and felt like I giving her a slap on her face. It is my contact/buddy who help me not your uncle.

I have been waiting for this moment for a long time. Now I am standing high and tall.

Enough for a while....

[see see only]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Anyone who voluntarily puts money into CPF must be nuts. All it does is go into Ho Ching's personal piggy bank. You'll wake up one day and find your CPF funds all gone.

Instead of trying to escape the trap, you're digging an even bigger hole for yourself.

Boss ... I guess you are not staying in sillypore anymore liao ... LOL

Originally Posted by cleanfreak

Lol. You really do have an agenda with the 'gahmen' eh...Most of us Singaporeans don't have much of a choice do we?

The key word is voluntarily

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by cleanfreak

Lol. You really do have an agenda with the 'gahmen' eh...Most of us Singaporeans don't have much of a choice do we?

There is a total of 148,940,000 km² of land on earth.

The land area of Singapore is 670 km²

Are you telling me that Singaporeans are condemned to live on that little pimple of an Island for the rest of their lives? Gimme a break.

Google "Emigration" and then get off your butt and follow some leads.

It does not make any difference who runs Singapore. The Island is condemned for the simple fact that it is surrounded by 300 million muslims. Sooner or later, Singapore will revert to being part of the Malay Peninsula and the parents of today owe it to their future generations to get the hell out of there before it's too late.

[see see only]

Originally Posted by kosan

1) One day while driving my wife told me his rich uncle how good, how good, give money to this and that relative. I tell her off, right in front of her face during my hard time did your uncle help me. Immediately she keep quiet and felt like I giving her a slap on her face. It is my contact/buddy who help me not your uncle.

I have been waiting for this moment for a long time. Now I am standing high and tall.

Enough for a while....

Bro kosan .... peh-sai

If you dont mind .......... my gf is expecting and i cannot use medi-save to pay for the bill as you not my wife yet...

Bro me know you very steady and now a bit well to do ... can help 5k first .... I will return you once i stand high and tall .... PLEASE >>>>



Bro kosan,

Please dont get me wrong, no hard feeling at all please ... if the above is requested by your relative ... then another one say got sick la then another one need money for children school fees ....etc ......... you can tahan to help how many or you can tahan to help bo??????

Even yourself said ... "my buddy help me to secure / intro to new job" your buddy helped you get a job and think again if your buddy only help to give you $5k will it solve your problem long term?????

Hope you could appreciate my ka-poh

[cleanfreak]

Originally Posted by see see only

Luck is important ... in agent job (think again)

My friend, a gentle advice if you use the word "Luck" as your excuse for failing to get more business and not putting efforts in searching of your ....... "LUCK" .....

Then "luck" will always be your excuse for not making enough ....

Seen too many people blaming "luck" when they failed ... and hope you dont follow them as well ........ Still me wish you "luck"

Thanks bro. Your reminder to me is duly noted. I do realise it as well. Results only come after hardwork and effort has been put in. Many people attribute unexpected beneficial incidents to luck. However, it is sometimes simply a case of being at the right place at the right time I believe. I guess the only time when you can really claim it's luck is when the 6 groups of digits on your Toto slip matches the winning 6numbers?.

For e.g. A newbie salesperson in the 3rd day of work serves a walk-in customer. This newbie fumbles while doing his sales pitch yet in less than 5minutes, this customer clocks sales that will give this newbie a commission equivalent to the median commission of the top sales guy. Thats when everyone would say "Wah so lucky..." and claim that its that newbie's lucky day. Thing is, the customer came in with the intention to purchase and this newbie happened to serve him.

Or maybe I go out with my kakis to chiong and a girl comes over and tries to hook me up even though my kakis' are more handsome than me. I believe this is not uncommon for bros here! Haha. Sometimes things just happen.

Happy Bonkinh~
I wish bros here happy bonking and the fact that I'm a member here doesn't mean I spend money on sex though I'd wish to try something exciting!

[cleanfreak]

Originally Posted by kosan

1) one day I made it, ask them to stand one side.

Bro kosan, that's what I will do too. No choice now only can LL suck thumb.
I will have my 'revenge' one day. Haha. Gd for you man. All the best to you. Ask all her relatives stand one side and if they need help in future ask them make you happy then you consider.