An Affair with an older married lady... and the aftermath...

[junior_cannibal]

Originally Posted by junebaby

Just want to meet Nat and Darren. Not Jasmine because she is not in open marriage.

Don't need to meet the rest. I'm very happy with my husband and FWB. Not going to join their group.

You are already in an open relationship, why do you still need to meet them? Unless you want to expand beyond having a FWB? Or you want to bring your hubby along and ask him to learn from Darren how he manages several FWB.

[junebaby]

Originally Posted by junior_cannibal

You are already in an open relationship, why do you still need to meet them? Unless you want to expand beyond having a FWB? Or you want to bring your hubby along and ask him to learn from Darren how he manages several FWB.

Their open relationship seems to be mutually accepted. Mine isn't very mutual. Just want to see how they manage it, especially with kids.

I don't need any more FWBs. One is good enough.

[wtfuad]

Originally Posted by junebaby

Their open relationship seems to be mutually accepted. Mine isn't very mutual. Just want to see how they manage it, especially with kids.

I don't need any more FWBs. One is good enough.

I’m curious as well… how to even broach that subject in the first place…

[junebaby]

Originally Posted by wtfuad

I’m curious as well… how to even broach that subject in the first place…

Just ask? I don't know until I manage to meet them.

For me, my husband didn't say anything about my FWB. I just want to be more open with him but I don't know how to like you say, broach the topic.

If I can meet Nat and Darren maybe I can get some new insights. Or maybe I won't learn anything at all.

[junior_cannibal]

Originally Posted by junebaby

Their open relationship seems to be mutually accepted. Mine isn't very mutual. Just want to see how they manage it, especially with kids.

I don't need any more FWBs. One is good enough.

Honestly, having a FWB with your hubby's knowledge is amazing, it's even more amazing he knows and not complains you have sex with your FWB in your matrimonial home.
To understand how they manage, your hubby needs to be involved. However, if that may open your hubby to a new paradigm. What if he turns proactive and also starts to bring his FWB home? The highest level of an open relationship would be a 4P under one same roof.

[junebaby]

Originally Posted by junior_cannibal

Honestly, having a FWB with your hubby's knowledge is amazing, it's even more amazing he knows and not complains you have sex with your FWB in your matrimonial home.
To understand how they manage, your hubby needs to be involved. However, if that may open your hubby to a new paradigm. What if he turns proactive and also starts to bring his FWB home? The highest level of an open relationship would be a 4P under one same roof.

I only told him about my current FWB because I didn't want him to suddenly come home and catch me again, and I try not to bring my current FWB home nowadays anyway.

I would like to involve him more, that's why thinking of threesome, but depends on the chemistry. There was pretty good chemistry between him and my previous FWB but that was before we got married.

Maybe I'm selfish, but I don't think I can take it if he brings his FWB home if he has one. That's why we need to communicate more?

[junior_cannibal]

Originally Posted by junebaby

I only told him about my current FWB because I didn't want him to suddenly come home and catch me again, and I try not to bring my current FWB home nowadays anyway.

I would like to involve him more, that's why thinking of threesome, but depends on the chemistry. There was pretty good chemistry between him and my previous FWB but that was before we got married.

Maybe I'm selfish, but I don't think I can take it if he brings his FWB home if he has one. That's why we need to communicate more?

For a open relationship to work bilaterally, you need to let go of the double standard.
For Nat and Darren, both have rather high sex drive. As for yours, seems like only you. However, assuming your hubby also has high, if not higher sex drive,just that he spend his energy more at work.
When you tell him you have a new FWB and want to try a DP, he might tell you he will bring his FWB and do a 4P. Then that will go up by levels then your mere DP.
Imagine your home becomes a transition hotel and the two of you start bringing back your FWB for romps.
Anyway, do share if you gain some insights after meeting that legendary couple, Nat and Darren.

[junebaby]

Originally Posted by junior_cannibal

For a open relationship to work bilaterally, you need to let go of the double standard.
For Nat and Darren, both have rather high sex drive. As for yours, seems like only you. However, assuming your hubby also has high, if not higher sex drive,just that he spend his energy more at work.
When you tell him you have a new FWB and want to try a DP, he might tell you he will bring his FWB and do a 4P. Then that will go up by levels then your mere DP.
Imagine your home becomes a transition hotel and the two of you start bringing back your FWB for romps.
Anyway, do share if you gain some insights after meeting that legendary couple, Nat and Darren.

Lol! Yes I got double standards. Sometimes a bit worried if he has his own FWB she's hotter than me.

I'm meeting Mark first actually.

[junior_cannibal]

Originally Posted by junebaby

Lol! Yes I got double standards. Sometimes a bit worried if he has his own FWB she's hotter than me.

I'm meeting Mark first actually.

Good luck to you then. Your hubby is either like Mark who just wants you to be happy, or he may have his other side, ie having his own FWB but won't tell you as you won't be ready to accept.

[nitetcrawler]

Currently as long as no one meets, everyone remains annoymous, what happens if you meet and realise mark, nat, darren is someone you know

What if anyone you meet turns out to be a relative or someone you know.

Be prepared.

Good luck

Originally Posted by junebaby

Lol! Yes I got double standards. Sometimes a bit worried if he has his own FWB she's hotter than me.

I'm meeting Mark first actually.

[junebaby]

Originally Posted by nitetcrawler

Currently as long as no one meets, everyone remains annoymous, what happens if you meet and realise mark, nat, darren is someone you know

What if anyone you meet turns out to be a relative or someone you know.

Be prepared.

Good luck

This will be very interesting if it's true. Will have awkward CNY.

[nitetcrawler]

On the flip side, it will be joyous

Originally Posted by junebaby

This will be very interesting if it's true. Will have awkward CNY.

[junebaby]

Originally Posted by nitetcrawler

On the flip side, it will be joyous

I doubt it will be joyous for me if they were really my relatives.

[Shrouded]

I arranged to meet the "lady" who had PMed me first, since Darren and Nat were currently enjoying their holiday in Korea. I wondered if they were truly enjoying it though, as I'd heard some news on the radio about a super typhoon that had hit the region.

But back to the "lady", I found it a little suspicious that "she" initially declined to provide a Telegram contact, or even WeChat, preferring to communicate via the forum instead. It was indeed suspicious, but she eventually relented and passed me her email address and we arranged to meet around my workplace after work on Wednesday.

I told Jasmine about it and asked if she wanted to join me in meeting this "lady", but she wasn't really keen as she already had plans with Kate that evening, if I really insisted, then perhaps she and Kate could come as well, but it would probably be a little overwhelming for the "lady". She was curious though, why I needed to meet "her" first.

J: You're looking for another partner? Haha.

Me: No la. Just meet first to see if it's the real deal. Imagine if I just handed over Nat's contact then it turns out to be some desperate guy.

J: Did you just refer to "her" as it?

Me: What? No? I'm referring to the situation. There's so many other threads in the forum, but this person specifically chose mine.

J: Maybe because people think you're a nice guy? Very helpful to our needs. Haha. But she sounds horny though, based on what you've been telling me that she posted.

Me: Could be a guy. Haha. Nobody knows.

J: Well, if it was a guy, maybe you can explore your other side, then you can finally admit to that bitch that you're gay.

Me: Very funny.

J: Eh, but what if it's a hot girl. Like real girl, and she wants to fuck you?

Me: Erm. Don't think that's going to happen.

J: And if it does?

Me: I'll run away?

J: Call the scam hotline because it's not a real girl? Hahaha.

Me: You're very funny today hor…

J: The situation is funny what. I mean ok, it does make a little sense. Nat and Darren are really in an open marriage. But I don't really understand what this person needs to learn from them. Every person has different ideals and values and would react differently to various situations.

Me: "She" did mention she felt she was very similar to Nat.

J: Like what? Super horny after giving birth? Needs small cocks like yours because big ones don't fit?

Me: I think you're jealous.

J: Maybe I'm just a little bit jealous. Haha. But I trust you'd do the right thing.

Me: Which is?

J: Fuck her with your small cock. Hahahaha.

Me: Hilarious.

J: On a serious note, I know you like to help others, but this is an online forum, I think you know the risks.

Me: Well I did meet EoS before.

J: Yeah. Imagine what if he turned out to be some gay dude who wanted your ass…

Me: I'm sure I can handle myself.

J: Haha. Ya right. He's been out of the army longer than you and he still makes an effort to maintain his body.

Me: Erm. Why does it seem like you're still interested in him?

J: He's an interesting guy. Haha. But nah. I'm happy with what I've got. Don't need to rape anyone just to satisfy my curiosity.

Me: I'm sure he's really reassured that you aren't going to rape him.

J: I won't. Shirlyn might. Didn't you see how she was raping him with her eyes last Friday?

Me: I didn't really notice.

J: Sometimes I think maybe you notice the wrong things.

Me: Huh?

J: EoS spent most of the night talking to Crystal. I'm sure Shirlyn was jealous.

Me: They knew each other for a long time what. And Jason was hanging out with Darren and I at the pit most of the time. So who else was she supposed to talk to? You strange girls?

J: Still. If a girl you're after is ignoring you and talking to someone else, wouldn't you be jealous? Or feel left out?

Me: Are you ignoring me? Haha.

J: It's just an analogy.

Me: I know. But I didn't really see her make the effort to talk to him. She just sat there with them when I was at the grill?

J: I tried to get Crystal to get to know the rest of the group, but she mainly talked to you and EoS.

Me: That's ok what.

J: And so Shirlyn is jealous.

Me: I don't think she has any reason to be. Unless they're already fucking and she's worried that he's more interested in Crystal instead.

J: Haha. She still won't say who her mysterious guy is. You spent an entire night with her. Didn't you ask?

Me: Not really.

J: I guess we both won't be very good private investigators.

Me: Probably not.

J: Anyway just be careful tonight la. Not everyone may be a real person like EoS.

Me: I'm sure they're all real people.

J: You know that's not what I meant.

Me: Haha. Yeah.

J: You're such a troll sometimes.

Me: You too.

We went about the rest of the morning as per normal, I concentrated on clearing my paperwork that Rebecca had not completed.

I considered telling Shirlyn about it but I didn't know how she would react. I guess it would be better than her finding out from Jasmine or someone else. So we had lunch together and I told her about the meet up.

S: You're what?

Me: Just a coffee and dinner or something. That's all, to see if "she's" real.

S: Are you going to test if "she's" real as well?

Me: I don't get why you and Jasmine think I'm going to sleep with her.

S: Who knows. Maybe you're bored with us?

Me: Do you want to come with me then?

S: Don't want. I'll be depressed if it's some hot booby chick.

Me: Erm. You're quite booby yourself.

S: Glad you noticed.

Me: So come with me so you won't get the wrong idea?

S: What if it's some horny guy instead…

Me: Then I'll turn him down obviously. Why would I want to introduce a horny guy to Nat and Darren?

S: Introduce him to me then. Hahaha.

Me: Seriously?

S: Why not? Since it's so hard to get you these days.

Me: Erm. You just need to ask Jasmine.

S: I know. And it's going to hurt badly when you get married and we all have to give you up.

Me: Well… what if we don't get married?

S: Have you actually discussed this with Jasmine?

Me: Not really.

S: She really likes you and wants to be with you.

Me: The way she's sharing me around sometimes makes me feel otherwise.

S: If you don't get married, will you be with someone else? Or just carry on with her like this?

Me: We haven't talked about that.

S: Then why are you meeting other people to talk about open marriages and stuff when you aren't even sure what it's about? You probably aren't going to be in one.

Me: Ouch.

S: It's true what! Don't go and con little "girls" ah!

Me: Erm. I'm just meeting to see if "she's" the real deal. Nothing is going to happen. Besides, "she's" not a little "girl".

S: Ok la. You have fun la. Just don't MC tomorrow. Haha.

Me: I won't.

But Shirlyn was right. I didn't even know what kind of relationship I was in or going to be in. Perhaps I really should talk to Nat and Darren more as well.

[Asakura]

not surprised at all, it's u lol

Originally Posted by junebaby

Yes! It's me! Unless other girls also message him then I don't know.

He took so long to reply. This morning then I saw it in my inbox.

Other guys reply so fast, like bombarding me.