The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by tellmiwhy

agree wif u bro. but like u've said. alot of human are like tat, when they dun have it, they try every ways to get it. when they've gt it, they take it for granted. after they've lost it, they regretted it. seems like thats the case for alot of my friends.

no offence by quoting "it" as i m refering generalli to alot of things and nt onli relationships.

cheers!

i knw how it feels as i am one of the foolish group.i should be married now and probably wont be so active in the cheonging scene which i feels ultimately will bring me to nowhere.anyway,there is no room for regrets,life still goes on and still waiting for "her" to appear and sweep me off my feet.

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by tellmiwhy

rather than trying to compare the person beside u wif somebody else who fulfil ur "ideal gf" fantasy, might as well learn to slowly appreaciate watever she has and learn to love her more?

i tend to agree...compromise can slowly be cultivated into a willingness to do something...the truth is, at the end of the day, if it doesn't work out for whatever reasons...then it just doesn't, no matter how much one tries...but the important thing initially was...did we try our best

Talking in a relationship is good...lots of it. And quarrels are inevitable...if someone tells me, as a couple, they've never quarelled...it's like telling me, there's never been rain in their country

JWNY

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by JWNY

In my honest opinion, this is not a healthy sign, long term. Who deosn't want to make love most to that special someone rather than someone else? You should try to remedy this bro...slowly

Is she apprehensive or...?

JWNY

i agree this is an unhealthy sign,something must be done to rectify this if not i am afraid a tradegy might happen.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by JWNY

i tend to agree...compromise can slowly be cultivated into a willingness to do something...the truth is, at the end of the day, if it doesn't work out for whatever reasons...then it just doesn't, no matter how much one tries...but the important thing initially was...did we try our best

Talking in a relationship is good...lots of it. And quarrels are inevitable...if someone tells me, as a couple, they've never quarelled...it's like telling me, there's never been rain in their country

JWNY

well said,in the end so long u can tell urself if u failed u are convinced completely that u have tried ur best.Occasional quarrels do wrks its magic sometimes. =)

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

i should be married now and probably wont be so active in the cheonging scene which i feels ultimately will bring me to nowhere.

Don't say that bro...married men also succumb to the temptation of vice. Maybe you think now it brings you nowhere...but as long as you deemed it was money well spent...that is good enough, no one can justify or quantify how "good" is good. We all have our pet peeves

JWNY

[jon2000sg]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

i knw how it feels as i am one of the foolish group.i should be married now and probably wont be so active in the cheonging scene which i feels ultimately will bring me to nowhere.anyway,there is no room for regrets,life still goes on and still waiting for "her" to appear and sweep me off my feet.

after cheong for all these years
and missed quite a lot of oppoerunities with some good women to settle down, I've left things behind and realised it's time to save up for retirement.

life is short, enjoy while you can
thatz what they say - work hard and play hard...

still spend some on cheong each month...

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

i knw how it feels as i am one of the foolish group.i should be married now and probably wont be so active in the cheonging scene which i feels ultimately will bring me to nowhere.anyway,there is no room for regrets,life still goes on and still waiting for "her" to appear and sweep me off my feet.

dun worry bro. humans are made in pairs. so definitely u wil meet "her" who make u feel that u r the luckiest and happiest person in this world.

cheers.

[dirtymonk82]

The grass will forever be greener on the otherside, if we keep on jumping ship, there will be no end to it.

At the end of the day, learn to be contented with what you have. The second best is also one of the best.

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by JWNY

i tend to agree...compromise can slowly be cultivated into a willingness to do something...the truth is, at the end of the day, if it doesn't work out for whatever reasons...then it just doesn't, no matter how much one tries...but the important thing initially was...did we try our best

JWNY

well said bro. at least we wun regret abt the outcome no matter wat it is becoz we've tried our best. so if it doesnt turn out to be wat we wanted, maybe bcoz it was just nt meant to be.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Don't say that bro...married men also succumb to the temptation of vice. Maybe you think now it brings you nowhere...but as long as you deemed it was money well spent...that is good enough, no one can justify or quantify how "good" is good. We all have our pet peeves

JWNY

i knw but life might be very different.maybe i will lose a lot of freedom but i am sure she will compensate with her company & TLC.the succumbing to vice temption have reached a record high for myself ever since and i am not sure if that is what i aimed to achieve which i strongly believe no will aim for that.How good is good,interesting analogy,even i myself do not have the answer.Life's a joke sometimes isnt it?

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by jon2000sg

after cheong for all these years
and missed quite a lot of oppoerunities with some good women to settle down, I've left things behind and realised it's time to save up for retirement.

life is short, enjoy while you can
thatz what they say - work hard and play hard...

still spend some on cheong each month...

i realised the fact too that life is short so we need to enjoy as much as we can but eventually i do stop and ask myself where is this bringing me to?Spiritual or sexual enlightment?i believe the latter would be more appropriate.perhaps it's time to step on the brakes and do smth more meaningful to my life.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by tellmiwhy

dun worry bro. humans are made in pairs. so definitely u wil meet "her" who make u feel that u r the luckiest and happiest person in this world.

cheers.

thks for your kind words of encouragement bro.May all bros who shared the same plight like me got the same blessings for me as well.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by dirtymonk82

At the end of the day, learn to be contented with what you have. The second best is also one of the best.

i like this statement of urs bro,well said!

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

i knw but life might be very different.maybe i will lose a lot of freedom but i am sure she will compensate with her company & TLC. Life's a joke sometimes isnt it?

Ahhh...the "what if's" ~ that's another collection of stories altogether...

JWNY

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Ahhh...the "what if's" ~ that's another collection of stories altogether...

JWNY

yeah man,if we were to bring in the "what ifs" we can start a brand new story again.