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19-04-2013, 07:24 PM
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Ok bros... I hear what you guys are saying...but... I have just gotten replies from my survey...I sent a scenario to all my women and some closer female friends...told them a mate of mine is in this dilemma...here's the scene set up... If YOU met a nice guy and had a two week fling with him...you thought the two of you are great together and do think that this one has a chance to turn long term... He had to travel for work and you two kept in touch for another week or so...then suddenly, no more news from him...no text, no calls...you tried calling him but his number is dead...texts are not returned and there is basically no other way you can contact him... Now...another 2 weeks has gone by...You have no idea if he is dead or alive... Suddenly...he texts you...ask if you want to meet in another city...he has something to tell you...he will buy the ticket for you to travel...you ask him what it is...he says he wants to tell you face to face... 1) what will you think? 2) will you go? 3) if his latest contact is to breakup with you...would you be happy for the latest contact or wish he never contacted you again? Here are the answers... 1) 12 out of 17 thinks he is a con man trying to lure them to the new city for someone bad... 5 out of 17 just thought he is basically an arsehole. 2) unanimous...17 out of 17 will not go... 3) unanimous...17 out of 17 said they rather not get contacted again... Follow on... 8 out of 17 said they would have good / fond / sweet memories of the fling if he didn't contact them again...like a holiday romance... 4 out of 17 said they would be worried sick about him and maybe assume he died, or got hospitalised, or abducted...but...since no way to contact him...they would have forgotten about him in a short time (never specify how short..,) The rest didn't give follow on... So...in the female wisdom...it's unanimous that they wanted to be left alone after and preferred not to be contacted again... Bros...I understand...and part of me feel the same as you guys...but we maybe not giving enough credit to how strong/tough women are actually... And based on this information...I guess you guys know my action plan... Thanks bros...really appreciate your thoughts and support...give me more and we can always discuss it... But I think the ship on contacting her sailed a few days after I went MIA... Cheers bros... .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me...  ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me... 
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#197
19-04-2013, 07:43 PM
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Take it with pinch of salt unless your respondents are westerners/westernized/ABCs.. Their mentality will b diff from SG gals...not sure how diff it will b to hook up a 25yo gal in SG for 2weeks of sex..but will assume its damn tuff!
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#198
19-04-2013, 09:36 PM
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Sorry Bro, I am new here and I don't know your reputation and history, I just want to express my honest opinion. Sorry if I offend anyone here.
I really don't understand if you are genuinely in a dilemma or you are enjoying this and wants to keep you readers enthralled with your MIA or not MIA, snail mail or not snail mail, contact or not contact drama. And I guess, like what another brother said, majority of the readers here are more interested in seeing you meeting up with her and waiting for more juicy posts from you, rather than giving their honest opinion and help you get over this. From my humble understanding after reading your posts, I conclude that you are not a young punk, you have had quite a few no strings attached sexual relationships before, so what is the big deal here? You are obviously old and mature enough to handle this situation, which you are already half way through it and should be continuing what you do and finish it. What is the purpose of the survey? Does it matter the survey is done with Caucasians or Asians? If you just want confirmation of what you have already done, which is MIA, is the most suitable thing to do, you already have it from the first few pages of this thread. The poor girl wants to move on, you should too, since you never wanted this to be a long term thingy. So stop being so grandma grandma mother mother, drag mud bring water and just move on. I am sure it will be more interesting and will garner more readers if you start posting your other adventures with more juicy details. Cheers.
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20-04-2013, 12:12 AM
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yes yes say him lol he thrive on being cheap..in cantonese its call jin kak hahahahahaha
he is so wishy washy like a girl lol WEAK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! anyway bro since you come to conclusion already then stick to your ideals la hahahaha dun need to think liao le la..move on to next story please.... but then again to rub the last fine sea salt into you...well..i hope during your " holiday" in melbourne..you dun chance upon c&c&c&c lol the c family...later you really tio..HO SEY LIAO HUAT AH lol chong : " hey wizrd looooong time no see..ho seh bo.." you : " eh...er...ho seh..working" just nice ching come...oh bastard......you come here for? have you seen our daughter..she this old liao blah blah blah.... chong : " chang! where you? come come see your long lost bastard uncle wizrd....last time he carry you wan..he carry you ..you no cry...." chang think eh sek sek leh the name...pop by HO SEY..... hahahahaha i sure laugh at you de...welcome to my medication family bro
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20-04-2013, 12:17 AM
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Be gone smurfs and clones the whole lot of you in the name of sammyboyfor and his helper Big Sexy!
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#201
20-04-2013, 12:28 AM
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Thanks bro... Yes, I understand that but the cross section of the women in question are fairly widespread...and I believe the opinion is a woman's point of view and not too much country/cultural base... Bro...hahaha...no...hooking a 25 yo SG woman is not that difficult...look around the threads bro...the mean active sex age for women in SG is roughly 27yo...which means 25 is coming into their prime for hooking... Of course, this model is skewed because I'm sure there are many over 30s who are really active too, maybe they have gained the experience to not post or let their partners post their activities...nevertheless...the picture means 24-30 are the 'easier' hooking targets in Sg...the guys just need to have the right bait...  Cheers bro... .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me...
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20-04-2013, 12:48 AM
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Hi bro...welcome to the thread and board... I'm not sure what you didn't read but from what you said, I'm not sure you got the full picture... If not for her parents, she and I would have no problems...but because of her parents, I cannot tell her why I cannot see her anymore... Anyways...the survey was for my own understanding and done purely for me... All the bros and sis here have been very helpful but also very conflicting...some say to contact her, some say to leave her alone...and because I really do not know which way is the best...I checked with my female friends to gauge reactions... And from what I have learnt...leaving her alone sounds like the best way to go...and so..that's what I'm doing... Whether some of the posters asked me to meet her for more stories is moot because with my state of mind, I made it clear that even if I do meet her, nothing juicy was ever going to happen... Hope this explains what's going on...but please feel free to read the whole thread again to better understand the dilemma... Cheers bro... .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me...
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20-04-2013, 12:59 AM
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use us liao then say we conflict you hor!...next time see you go die liao lol
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20-04-2013, 02:27 AM
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Hahahaha..... 13 points really 13 points...  Ok bro...good boy...*pat pat Tazzymercs's head*... Kor Kor still loves you...no need to pout ok? Sit down and drink your Chocolate milk and let Kor Kor explain slowly to you ok? You see, Kor Kor was very confused with the situation....so...HEY!!! The straw is for your mouth, take it out of your left nostril now!!!!!! FFS... Where was I?... Yes, so Kor Kor asked for help and gave out details for others to help with understanding of what happened...and many people helped by giving their points of view...but then the...NA BEI...French fries is for eating one...take them out of your ears...KNN...got chilli sauce some more?? NO!!! no need bunsen burner....WTF man??? Alrighty... As Kor Kor was saying...many helped, including you...but the views are very different...and you know lah...Kor Kor very open minded one mah...and can accept and agree with all the points of view...so lagi more confused because can only follow one route, right??...so discussed and debated each route...EHH CHEE BEI, can sit still to listen or not...what you doing now?? Why you play with mummy's lipstick??.. Haiz...yes, very creative but no...that is not what they mean when they say red cock ring...now put both the tiny sticks away ok? Anyways...you and the others all helped me to come to this conclusion...and Kor Kor was just explaining to the other bro on why it took so long to come to a conclusion... Yes I know that he may not care but at least must answer the question right? And that does not mean Kor Kor do not appreciate your input ok?? In fact, very very appreciate...and always remember, Kor Kor will never be like your godfather Cao Cao one ok?? Happy now?? OH, NNB...no need take off pants to fart lah...but don't fart when i am here...fart later...that's a good boy... Now go take your medicine and go to bed...Kor Kor has a date ok??...yes, with that cute woman waiting outside...no...you cannot fuck her first...NNKC...go take your medicine lah!!! Good night ok bro...see you in the morning...  Cheers bro... .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me...
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#205
22-04-2013, 02:37 AM
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firstly, I LOVE YOUR STORY! reminds me of the movie crazy, stupid, love. in the end, the guy who fools around end up falling in love with his buddy's daughter and it was a happy ending. why not the same for you?
secondly, why don't you believe it's fate that you met her, whose father is your best friend before? though most of the rest agrees that you should just go on MIA. but can you really go on with your life with that guilt hanging over you about your old buddies, chong and ching? in one way or another, you can never resolve that guilt without that girl. be a man. do the right thing. just confess to her the whole story about her and her parents, snail mail will be better as she will see how much effort you have made to the confession. also, it will allow her time to read and re-read the whole content. if she still loves you, she will want to contact you back. if she still think of you as a fucker, she won't bother replying you. but at the end of the day, do you plan to start on a real relationship with her? if not, just tell her that as well. be as honest as possible. i'm sure she will understand. though old memories may be ruffled for both of your old friends, can you bear to hold your own guilt within yourself? settle the past, and just embrace whatever the future may brings you. anyway, your survey may be quite biased cos most people just don't want to hear the ugly truth while just remembering just the good things. isn't that normal? but touch your heart, and you will know what's the right thing to do. honesty is always the best policy. what if a few years down the road, you meet the three of them? all will remember you as a 1 big fucker and all hell will break loose. your good buddy will hate you even more for fucking his daughter, regardless of your intention.
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22-04-2013, 10:37 AM
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There are million of scenarios that can happen. What has been done is done. No point what if this.....what if that...... No one can predicate what will actually happen. Dammed if you do & dammed if you dont... So the choice is which is the lesser of the 2 evil. And from a female's point of view it has been made pretty clear Quote:
You have to be wise in any situation Think EQ, then you will understand Of course it still boils down to TS choice & what is he prepared to accept base on the choices that he has taken.
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#207
22-04-2013, 03:43 PM
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We can all provide suggestions but ultimately it is TS decision what to do.
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#208
22-04-2013, 05:10 PM
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Thanks bro... I see your point...really I do... The way I weigh this is... . Now => MIA causes one known problem...my guilt of hurting her...her pain is an unknown even though we can guess that she will be unhappy...but it is an unknown how much... . Future => complete unknown because a multitude of possibilities can happen. No way of predicting each nor prevent any from happening. Likely case though is that all is forgotten and life kinda goes on as before we met... VS . Now => tell her the truth...causing 4 known case of hurt for C&C plus her and me...each and all of us may or may not recover from the hurt feelings or the warped relationships involved... . Future => Still unknown depending on how each reacts to the truth. Cannot assume the best case scenario as that is only one possibility out of many...but likely though is that life will not go on as before...more guilt and blame will be placed on some or all of us... Looking at the comparison above bro...I rather live with the MIA option... I agree with bro tripleaxe with regards to honesty...but thanks for your toughts...much appreciated... Cheers bro... Quote:
Thanks bro... 100% agree...and I know I have to live with my choice...I am willing to accept that much....but I do have to make a choice...so MIA it is... Cheers bro... Quote:
Thanks bro... All the suggestions are welcomed and important because each point of view gives me food for thought to eventually come up with this decision...god knows I have been tempted by each method at some point...but I rather control the damage than to only please my own conscience which may (will) cause untold harm to the other party and her family... Cheers bro... .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me...
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22-04-2013, 06:35 PM
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23-04-2013, 08:12 PM
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Thanks for being the voice of sensibility... But why the face? I hope I haven't made a boo boo by calling you bro when you are a sis...Gender notwithstanding...I appreciate your help...greatly... Cheers... .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me...
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