Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[KonKam]

Originally Posted by SingViet

To illustrate how much time and education these viet gals need, i will list out a few incidents :

Incident 1

I got my wife a VISA credit card a few years ago but she kept it for a long time without using it. Everytime when i am out with her, i will tell her to use it to pay for purchases and i will show her the steps about using it. She refused (which is good, save money). But once, i was out with her to fill up petrol for my car. At the cashier, i realised i forgot to bring my wallet out. So i asked my wife to bring out her VISA to pay for it. She REFUSED!! i told her i forgot to bring my wallet, but she told me its `not lucky' to use the VISA. She told me she wants to leave her VISA with the cashier while we drive home to get my wallet. I had to talk to my wife for so long, even scolded her. Finally after 15 minutes, she agreed to sign.

Incident 2

My wife's friend, upon seeing my wife have VISA cards in her wallet, told my wife that she also has VISA card. She asked my wife if the BANK invited my wife to go to the bank to collect the card and also a bank book. My wife said NO and said that ours is being sent to us via mail. Her friend said loudly that her's is higher class as she collected at the bank personally. She never realised that her's a VISA debit card while my wife's is a VISA credit card.


Incident 3

I started a bank account for my wife and place a certain amount into it. Not a super big sum but also not small sum. Bank sent Internet banking PIN, phone Banking PIN and also ATM PIN. I told my wife these are very important and that she cannot anyhow place it or misplace it. At the end of the day, i found the 3 letters on the living room table. I asked her why she left it there? The maid could have just looked at it and withdraw the money. My wife can tell me not to worry, she already took photos of it. I almost exploded !! I scolded her and as per normal, she will stared at me like she is going to kill me.

These gals need a lot of education. They do not know a lot of things. My wife has been with me for over 10 years, also Singapore citizen since 2009. But there are just some things that are so village vietnamese, and one of it is the stubborness .

I heard a lot of village gals said before:

You have to give us money because we are poor.
Other countries have to help vietnam because we are poor.
We cheat you singaporeans because we are poor.
etc etc etc

Always a reason for every action, they are never wrong.


Be firm, educate your wife and be patient. It will take a long long time.

Really an Eye Opener bro.

[orion4794]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Incident 2

My wife's friend, upon seeing my wife have VISA cards in her wallet, told my wife that she also has VISA card. She asked my wife if the BANK invited my wife to go to the bank to collect the card and also a bank book. My wife said NO and said that ours is being sent to us via mail. Her friend said loudly that her's is higher class as she collected at the bank personally. She never realised that her's a VISA debit card while my wife's is a VISA credit card.

Incident 3

I started a bank account for my wife and place a certain amount into it. Not a super big sum but also not small sum. Bank sent Internet banking PIN, phone Banking PIN and also ATM PIN. I told my wife these are very important and that she cannot anyhow place it or misplace it. At the end of the day, i found the 3 letters on the living room table. I asked her why she left it there? The maid could have just looked at it and withdraw the money. My wife can tell me not to worry, she already took photos of it. I almost exploded !! I scolded her and as per normal, she will stared at me like she is going to kill me.

These gals need a lot of education. They do not know a lot of things. My wife has been with me for over 10 years, also Singapore citizen since 2009. But there are just some things that are so village vietnamese, and one of it is the stubborness .

I heard a lot of village gals said before:

You have to give us money because we are poor.
Other countries have to help vietnam because we are poor.
We cheat you singaporeans because we are poor.
etc etc etc

lolol i think u got a wife in rural area of vietnam? Well then of course she needs to be educated. Those girls actually have bad background (low born) yet want a luxury life so they seek foreign partner to shoulder their lives for them. So in short, the root of all these stupidities is that they are lazy. And somebody mentioned the income gap in vietnam, well there are even classes and girls who seek foreign partners are in the same category as whores, the lowest class in vietnam i think. City girls in vietnam are smarter (much smarter, comparable to those from china mainland or korean ones) so their expectation is much higher, even higher if you are a foreigner and they know how to control their husband. Well there are some city girls who are very traditional which is a pain in the ass too. Moral of the story is: viet girls are troublesome. I'd never date one after knowing so much about them

[KITMO]

Originally Posted by volcano

at least more then half belongs to this catergory...there are still a certain percentage which earn less then 100 per month working odd jobs in countryside.

Thanks for the extra info, the extreme low income come mainly from the province i guess. As for the big city, i do not think people are earning that low. When my friend dine with his customer in HCM restaurant, he said see many are vietnamese family dining there, how can low income family dine like that.

Originally Posted by orion4794

lolol i think u got a wife in rural area of vietnam? Well then of course she needs to be educated.

I do believe many poor vietnamese girl who married a foreign husband to help their families are from the rural places. People in the city are maybe different. Anyway why would you want a foreign wife who are from the city and expect so much like singapore girls?

End of the day, to apply the 3Fs of bonking or date them as life partnar depend on individual.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by orion4794

So in short, the root of all these stupidities is that they are lazy. And somebody mentioned the income gap in vietnam, well there are even classes and girls who seek foreign partners are in the same category as whores, the lowest class in vietnam i think.

This shows your stupidity to insult others... What is wrong with ger seeking a better well off man for marriage? Why will these gers be same as whores? In the reality world, which ger dun want to marry a rich man or at least a man who can earn enough.

Originally Posted by orion4794

City girls in vietnam are smarter (much smarter, comparable to those from china mainland or korean ones) so their expectation is much higher, even higher if you are a foreigner and they know how to control their husband.

I am curious... how u compare Vietnamese city gers are smarter than other nationality??

Originally Posted by orion4794

Well there are some city girls who are very traditional which is a pain in the ass too. Moral of the story is: viet girls are troublesome. I'd never date one after knowing so much about them

Shallow thinking and stupidity.... how u know so much about them?? Hear, see, think, dream or u have psychic power??

Guess u been hurt too much, to hate Viet gers so so so much 1 or 2 gers who hurts u, does not imply the whole of Viet gers are bad...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by KITMO

Thanks for the extra info, the extreme low income come mainly from the province i guess. As for the big city, i do not think people are earning that low. When my friend dine with his customer in HCM restaurant, he said see many are vietnamese family dining there, how can low income family dine like that.

Guess u still have limited knowledge on Vietnam. Anyway, dining in a restaurant does not equate to most Vietnamese earns highly in big city.

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Guess u still have limited knowledge on Vietnam. Anyway, dining in a restaurant does not equate to most Vietnamese earns highly in big city.

Aliens invasion. .. they just want to leave some foot prints...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Guess u still have limited knowledge on Vietnam. Anyway, dining in a restaurant does not equate to most Vietnamese earns highly in big city.

haha...good good...fully agreed..

I had visited Danang, Hoi An and Hue, plenty of their own Vietnamese are visiting these cities in tour groups...they are also dining in fine restaurants...of course I cannot tell how rich they are...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by orion4794

Moral of the story is: viet girls are troublesome. I'd never date one after knowing so much about them

Agreed with you...so dun bother to date Viet gals...leave the gals to ppl like us (naemlo, me, etc...)...haha...

[KITMO]

Not earning that low so could afford eating in restaurant compare to earn highly is not the same. You mis-read the meaning.
Anyway i rest my case here.

Originally Posted by naemlo

Guess u still have limited knowledge on Vietnam. Anyway, dining in a restaurant does not equate to most Vietnamese earns highly in big city.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Agreed with you...so dun bother to date Viet gals...leave the gals to ppl like us (naemlo, me, etc...)...haha...

We are the men to handle troublesome Viet gers... Poor things....

[Peacock29]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

So fast you give government your money.
Till now i only put in $200... Govt match $200.. i only got $400 spend on all the vaccination for my son. Still got balance..

I don't see why there is a need to max out so early.

i still haven put one cent lol

[milfmilf]

Is helping to bail out a viet lady whom i know from ktv from her debt a risky cumm silly thing to do?
Given that we know each other for 1.5year and she likes me enough, as in accepting most of my shortcomings, and the chance that her story is true is high. The amount is around S$30k

Anyone ever lend or give with conditions perhaps, such big amount or even bigger?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

Is helping to bail out a viet lady whom i know from ktv from her debt a risky cumm silly thing to do?
Given that we know each other for 1.5year and she likes me enough, as in accepting most of my shortcomings, and the chance that her story is true is high. The amount is around S$30k

Anyone ever lend or give with conditions perhaps, such big amount or even bigger?

question 1...is she worth S$ 30k...
question 2...S$ 30k can get you alot of SYT...including new SYT...
question 3...after S$ 30k...will she ask for another S$ 30k or more...
question 4...you should know what you want to do...instead of asking here...

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

question 1...is she worth S$ 30k...
question 2...S$ 30k can get you alot of SYT...including new SYT...
question 3...after S$ 30k...will she ask for another S$ 30k or more...
question 4...you should know what you want to do...instead of asking here...

Question5: what u want from doing this?
Question6: will she appreciate n return u the money?
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Its ur choice...be prepared for consequences

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

Is helping to bail out a viet lady whom i know from ktv from her debt a risky cumm silly thing to do?

Stupid question... It will be better to bail yourself out and move on.