The one you marry, is not the one you loved most? - Page 129

5ag1_Boar · #**1921** 21-10-2014, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by makinglove

I also have a problem now, been with my gf for 8 years, shes quite pretty, just that she doesnt like sex that frequently, maybe once every 1 or 2 weeks.. and she doesnt like to put makeup or dress sexily.. dun like me to paint her or give me bj... ever since i try FL and geylang, im like addicted to it because of the hot makeup, dressing and service..

Only good point about my girl is she is very thrifty, other than that very kaobei, everytime raise her voice at me.. Thinking of what to do now...

Harsh but I'm being completely serious here... let her go! Now only gf, already dislike sex, raising voice and kowpeh. Next time become wife, frequency of sex drop by 100fold. Kowpehness raise by 10fold.

sgpsychologist · #**1922** 21-10-2014, 11:55 PM

[QUOTE=sane;7307540]Heye, I can't help to reply ur post. IMO the marriage is not doom for u n ur wife. IMO the marriage break down because of a lack of trust n communication.

U work hard, u dote on ur son n u lavish her with gifts but have u ever sit her down n work down ur finance with her, financial plan for the next 5 years?
Establish a goal with her n let her know that u want to achieve that n save xxx amount with her. Let her know the reality, be transparent n open. She might have misconcept of u having a huge savings.
We dun spend on lavish/branded gifts because he sit me down n read the bills to me one by one. We have goals to achieve n $ are locked up in investment, insurance policies etc. get her involved! In fact, I m greatly influenced by him on this.

If it allows, earn lesser but spend more time with ur family. Bring them out during weekend, get more involved with ur son. A Young kid needs a lot of nurture n attention n they learnt at a rapid speed. Educate him n let him learn as much as he can. U can earn all the money in the world but can u use it to buy back the lost time with your family? There's a balance to everything. U work so hard for the family but u lose ur dearest because of no time for them.

Her friends. Have u ever make n effort to know her friends n social life? It doesn't mean that going out with guy friends equals to extra martial affairs. I hv lotsa platonic guy friends too n my so have no issues with me going out with them. Sometimes he join me too. He never restrict my actitivities.

Have u ever join her? Without getting the facts right, u jump to conclusions n hit her, this will only strain the r/s.. U only make her turn to her friends even more.

She needs accompany, who can communicate n listen to her. Every woman needs someone to be there always, a man who can listen n dote on her. Be each other best friend, my so is like my teacher.. He will always sit me down to listen to me n explain things in detail, sometimes up to hours. Even if I m upset n refused to listen, he will explain till I understand n reach a mutual conclusion. Thrash things up n dun leave grudges overnight.

Unlike dating, marriage is not a bed of roses, dating, movies, sex.. There are in laws, housing issues, kids..

It's not only working hard like a mule one sided, leading a individual life n expecting the other half to know everything n meet ur expectation.

Dun be impulsive, give urself some time to cool down n really think about the issue. Both of u need to start with zero again..start with communication n ur anger management, no matter how angry, dun strike ur wife. Talk properly.

Marriage is about never giving up. Though there r obstacles ahead, as long as there's are still luv.its still worth a try.[/QUOTE ]

Well said

sgpsychologist · #**1923** 22-10-2014, 12:01 AM

Can anyone define what is love?

makinglove · #**1924** 27-10-2014, 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

Harsh but I'm being completely serious here... let her go! Now only gf, already dislike sex, raising voice and kowpeh. Next time become wife, frequency of sex drop by 100fold. Kowpehness raise by 10fold.

Im thinking of it also... but she very sticky to me, cause im her first bf... told her off many times, voice lower down awhile after that again.. freaking so many cai out there after i just started working.. i even threatened her with if u continue like tat i believe i will go with another girl.. but still useless..

lickyou · #**1925** 27-10-2014, 03:14 AM

guess u should jus dump her; no point dragging and wasting time, in the end both will regret.

peanut123 · #**1926** 28-10-2014, 03:10 PM

Bro, take it from me, if a girl makes you unhappy, it's pointless to continue with her. And it will get worse after marriage. Can you imagine taking that shit for the next 30-40 years, on top of 2-3 screaming kids?

If she doesn't change, let her go. Better to cut your losses after a few years than a few decades. Don't be a bitter white haired old man, regretting your choice and thinking about the better life you could have had.

Find a better, more suitable girl. Even if you don't find another, it's better to be alone and carefree, than to be miserable with the wrong girl.

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Originally Posted by makinglove

Im thinking of it also... but she very sticky to me, cause im her first bf... told her off many times, voice lower down awhile after that again.. freaking so many cai out there after i just started working.. i even threatened her with if u continue like tat i believe i will go with another girl.. but still useless..

Penniston · #**1927** 28-10-2014, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by makinglove

Im thinking of it also... but she very sticky to me, cause im her first bf... told her off many times, voice lower down awhile after that again.. freaking so many cai out there after i just started working.. i even threatened her with if u continue like tat i believe i will go with another girl.. but still useless..

is wiser to get a another gal tats not so sticky

makinglove · #**1928** 02-11-2014, 03:27 AM

wah all the bros give me this kinda of recommendation.. but now im damn cb, im thinking i keep her for a few more years first see any changes.. but i doubt so.. wait till my income increase liao den find another girl.. but i think im really damn cb if i do this...

samaritan · #**1929** 02-01-2015, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by makinglove

wah all the bros give me this kinda of recommendation.. but now im damn cb, im thinking i keep her for a few more years first see any changes.. but i doubt so.. wait till my income increase liao den find another girl.. but i think im really damn cb if i do this...

Why so holier than thou? You don't do it, others will my friend. No right or wrong in my opinion

peanut123 · #**1930** 03-01-2015, 12:36 AM

Yes, you are damn fucking CB if you intend to keep her around for a few more years with the intention of dumping her later. You're wasting her time and youth. If you think you will break with her, break early and fast. She has already spent 8 years with you, and you want her to waste more time???

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Originally Posted by makinglove

wah all the bros give me this kinda of recommendation.. but now im damn cb, im thinking i keep her for a few more years first see any changes.. but i doubt so.. wait till my income increase liao den find another girl.. but i think im really damn cb if i do this...

WRX_STI · #**1931** 03-10-2015, 10:47 PM

Why do we reflect only after the milk is spilt

archer69 · #**1932** 04-10-2015, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by makinglove

wah all the bros give me this kinda of recommendation.. but now im damn cb, im thinking i keep her for a few more years first see any changes.. but i doubt so.. wait till my income increase liao den find another girl.. but i think im really damn cb if i do this...

Hearing all these words to you. I think she don't deserve you. Don't drag it. You are just wasting and ruining her life.

WRX_STI · #**1933** 13-01-2016, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by makinglove

wah all the bros give me this kinda of recommendation.. but now im damn cb, im thinking i keep her for a few more years first see any changes.. but i doubt so.. wait till my income increase liao den find another girl.. but i think im really damn cb if i do this...

...what happens if you can't find more $$$? This proposed does not seem the right approach. But it is your life

topman8788 · #**1934** 13-01-2016, 10:00 AM

I dump my 7years gf in a week without hesitation. Not very chio. From the same hometown. Dont dress dont make up damn thrifty. Boring sex life. When you feel its wrong. Dont continue anymore. after her i swear i would only date hot pretty gal only. Have 2 horny and pretty ex before mrs topman. But she would be the last. Going to propose to her on our coming trip to paris soon.

Conclusion. Fucking drop your work and give her a call now. DUMP HER

pfingo · #**1935** 30-04-2016, 05:48 AM

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Originally Posted by topman8788

I dump my 7years gf in a week without hesitation. Not very chio. From the same hometown. Dont dress dont make up damn thrifty. Boring sex life. When you feel its wrong. Dont continue anymore. after her i swear i would only date hot pretty gal only. Have 2 horny and pretty ex before mrs topman. But she would be the last. Going to propose to her on our coming trip to paris soon.

Conclusion. Fucking drop your work and give her a call now. DUMP HER

Just to reiterate, are you saying the thread starter theory is true?