The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[thomko]

good thread...after marriage sex suckZ, nagging startZ.....ZzZzzzzzzz...all agreed kee chiu....

[yinyang]

Amex, so you cancelled the damned supplementary cards for your 4 wives?

[NurseLing]

4 wives

[pulchritudinous]

Originally Posted by yinyang

Amex, so you cancelled the damned supplementary cards for your 4 wives?

4 wives must be handful

[Onimenokyo]

Hi all, I have just finish reading this very meaningful thread yet couldn't help but want to seek some advice.

I am 28 this year have a gf whom is not a local and 5 years my elder.
She is earning twice my income, yet she's with me.
She have a idea what she wants and I believe given my profile, I might stick out as the least attractive candidate due to my financial stability and etc..

Recently we came across the topic of housing, I began to resent govt idea of bto, housing before marriage. How you know whether you can live with that person or not when you never stay with them let alone married.

I do love my gf but I don't feel ready to be able to say shes the one and ready for the responsible as well as commitment that comes with it. I have told her that but I believe she might have felt disappointed.

On 1 hand I would like to take sometime as we are only together for 8 months to validate our relationship and whether is she able to accept that I might not be the type of candidate she have in mind even after marriage as I hate to be compared and I couldn't give her much

On the other hand I am afraid that as my validation takes time, it might delay her as she's not getting any younger thus please give me some advice dear brothers.

[AmericanExpress]

Hi Onimenokyo,

Usually when men meet a women for the first time, no strings attached. But women meet men for the first time, she may be thinking decades ahead. Might be biological clock syndrome but that's only natural?

Only advice - don't make the popular decision, make the right own.

[crood]

Originally Posted by Onimenokyo

On 1 hand I would like to take sometime as we are only together for 8 months to validate our relationship and whether is she able to accept that I might not be the type of candidate she have in mind even after marriage as I hate to be compared and I couldn't give her much

On the other hand I am afraid that as my validation takes time, it might delay her as she's not getting any younger thus please give me some advice dear brothers.

8 months is really too early to tell. Perhaps give yourself a time frame till next yr to really decide?

let her go if she's not the right one, dont waste her time.

[iPhone]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

marriage is really hard work. Sex is just a small part of it, admist bigger problems.

I wonder the wisdom of that thought

[simplewoman80]

Originally Posted by JWNY

You may have married

- a one night stand
- a fling
- a wife or girlfriend of a buddy / best friend
- childhood sweetheart
- your boss / colleague
- a cousin
- matchmaked
- etc, etc

.....but is that person the one you loved most?

who cares to share their thoughts? married / divorced / singles can participate.

JWNY

first of all can anyone answer me, why we should married ?
true love never hv happy ending because true love never end.

[zerofighter]

Hi bro oni...

8 mths relationship is too short to be comitted into marriage... How much do u know her..

R u able to manage her emotional needs... These r the questions u really need to ponder on it before u make any decesion... Marriage is nt just abt earning enough and be able to privide enough for the family... It is also abt how to fufill yr spouse emotionally...

And since yr heart is nt ready to comit yet... It is a clear sign that y r nt ready for thus lifetime commitment.... As such... Do think twice before u jump into any decesion.

Take care bro.

[AmericanExpress]

Originally Posted by simplewoman80

first of all can anyone answer me, why we should married ?
true love never hv happy ending because true love never end.

In culture, marriage is not always mandatory but a progressive nature of a relationship. My grandparents would frown at me if I was not married but sleeping with my girlfriend. Just as an example.

Interesting analogy on the second part. Should not marriage be the finale of true love?

[freezetheDB]

marriage is like a business
gotta maintain it...

its like passion. You may love movie-making or music when you are a kid. When you grow older you still love music but can come to love a new passion (eg. cooking) and build your life around it.

Not wise to lament on past loves, but if you are married, try to make it the best you ever can.

[AmericanExpress]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

Not wise to lament on past loves, but if you are married, try to make it the best you ever can.

think TS is talking about "the one that got away"

[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by zerofighter

8 mths relationship is too short to be comitted into marriage... How much do u know her..

Guys here think how long should a couple be together before marriage?

[napalmdeath]

I'm married with my wife for more than 8 years now. We don't have any kids...yet. Tried but no luck. I was never into girls before her but when I met her after a year, we got engaged and then get married...after her persistence.

I thought the idea of love will come after marriage... and true enough it did came. but after years of trying having kids and with my wife performance on the bed becoming more routine and unexciting, I am now currently filled with boredom to have sex with her.

Each time we do, she did less work to excite me even when I directed her like playing more with my balls to bring up my rod up. For the last 2 years, sex frequencies have becoming more lesser....it's like one session for 2 months (2 cycle of her period). It is only recently that I am beginning to look for alternatives....scouting around the net world for a FB but to no success. I think it is just sad that my sex life has turn out this way.

I still love my wife but now most of the times, I just wished I could have been more adventurous before I met her. She was my 1st gf and also my last gf before I came to the married world.

I have been reading quite a lot of the sex stories written by the bros in here for few years and I fancy you guys on the way you smooth your way through to every ladies you managed to bed with. I thought my days of searching such alternatives will never occur to me...but it did now... sad..... reality really bites