Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 1227

shysaint · #**18391** 17-08-2013, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by jf66312

hmmm...that's what I heard too that's why I told him to call ICA to check better...
then when buy ticket , which passport number do you input? or you only show passport when checking in...

If departs from Singapore, input Singapore pp ... If departs VN, input VN pp ...

But then problem will come buying a rd trip ticket coz can only input one passport ... So I guess got to buy tickets separately.

But then why hold 2 passports.

So I guess my case is the best ... Holding a Vietnamese passport with a Singapore entry stamp. Can stay long long long long in either country ... No issues ...

shysaint · #**18392** 17-08-2013, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by jf66312

hmmm...that's what I heard too that's why I told him to call ICA to check better...
then when buy ticket , which passport number do you input? or you only show passport when checking in...

For the other way round, he better check with ICA, just a phone call away ... I have been making regular calls to check when I do for my gals ... So far all have been true from what the ICA told me ..

kasain · #**18393** 24-08-2013, 07:06 AM

This will be long! Any bros caring enough to read it and give advice is very much welcome!!

Hello to all bros.. Would first like to greet all of you!
I'm a new member here though i have lurked at SBF for several years.. Mostly to read the HN/SG threads for places to cheong and have fun, but also the VN WL/ULP threads, plus some other random threads..
I come to you bros for help as i have committed myself to a VN girl, and im abit confused and ambiguos as to how serious, how real and how sincere she is towards me.

Let me first start by telling you abit about myself, her and how we met.
I will be abit vague on personal details as you know...

ME
Viet kieu living abroad, Northern Europe. Mid 20s. Pretty ok looking, not pretty boy but have some cute features still, 175cm and abit on the chubby side which a ca 4-6month diet/exercise can take away(Can..

. Have some style, some class, and a nice guy overall though i do feel i can manage abit game if my adversary isn't a shark..
I would rate myself a 7/10(not hot, but above average, non ugly) when in good shape and mind(irrelevant

.
Still in college and parttime to make the wheels go round. I go back to VN almost each summer the last 6-7 years for a month+- to visit relatives and mostly to have fun and enjoy my roots.

Her
91-model. Abit short, cute, easy to adore attitude, strong outside weak inside and easily gets hurt and cry, pretty straightforward though she admit she holds back some info..
Typical story, girl from small town going away to earn money for family.. Has priviously experienced the ups and downs of life and tried it 'all', so she says. Previously her family was ok, not rich or real middleclass but easily sustainable with a business, though now it seems it has gone downwards and debts(she told me that they was ok before then lost it, but not all, and didnt incur debts. The debt part i found out recently thru hints and deduction and from talking to other colleagues of hers, and also fb stalk)..(made new fb for her since her old 1 got locked and even told her to change pw but she didnt want to so.. as i am her 'Ck' i entitled myself to some.. info)
Hometown south of Can Tho, works in north.

kasain · #**18394** 24-08-2013, 07:07 AM

How we met
Thing is.. She works at a Massage place. (I do know the drill of the KC game, and generally how girls try to give GFE feelings and such).
Anyway, this place i've been to alot when i was here, and i met her in the middle of my stay.
First, i had just recently hooked up with another girl from this place(started knowing this girl at early point of stay, and we mixed pretty well talking, liked her but not any love), and slept with her 1 time but because she was toying me(found out she had another bf) and i could feel she was playing me after a little while, i ditched her after that..
So.. after a few days this happened, i went to massage as usual(i like massages, relaxing and chatting up girls for fun to relieve stress and also for some possible fling.. though the fling part is not crucial), and there, went for 'tour' and i met her..
She was very cute and talkative the first time we met and we talked with each other very comfortably. We had fun joking and i asked her about her life and love life. She told me she was very annoyed that day because of some irrelevant issues, but after a while talking with me she felt very relaxed and then it was time up. I was a complete gentleman not doing anything rude, and before i went out i asked her ctc to arrange for a friendly(!didnt mastermind any thoughts at that point) drink outside whenever she had time.. Coincidentally that day she had asked to get off because had some plans and etc.. Thru out the day i smsed with her and later that evening she agreed to go for a cruise drive around town and a drink(nước mía

at the lake.. There we talked alot about her and her life and really Clicked at that moment, and after a few hours there, feelings started to emerge..
So what happened happened, and the next day though randomly, coincidentally the 2 girls i had slept with somehow went together to the temple to pray(was the 1st lunar cal) and on their way they talked about.. the guy they just knew.. me. After this and that alot happened which is not really important but anyway the air cleared out after a few days when we talked and discussed and made it all clear. It was at this time i and her really felt we had real feelings for each other, and you could call us 'inlove'.

kasain · #**18395** 24-08-2013, 07:08 AM

The real issue
Almost lost track of it..
So we've been like a real couple since then, and now i have gone back to my hometown again. Its now a long distance relationship where we try to ctc each other daily, though theres not much time for it because of time+- and also her work..
Her work.. massage primarily, but she has also told me she.. escorts sometimes for cash.
And this here is the issue at hand not because she escorts but the suppressed feelings and anxiety because of it..
(i told her i accepted her circumstances when i confronted her about it a few days after our first night when some smuck called repeatedly early morning and she didnt want to answer, and my warning lights went on)
She says she doesnt want to tell me the sad parts of her life, but i cant relax and completely trust her before i know her ins and outs and the reasoning behind the things that happens.. this probably stems from my incapability to completely trust ppl, more accurately women, and especially vn girls, that is in this business..
I know she loves me, and even have thoughts of a future with me and have hopes for us..
I do feel that i love her too, more than i have any girl for several years, and i have open ideas about our future.. But i just cant take it the fact i'm in the dark, especially when her secrets are so essential when it comes to trust in a relationship.. Im scared she goes overboard the limit of work into fun. About all the other secrets she wont tell me. Scared things happens when im not there or things just suddenly, randomly goes out of control..
Simply i dont have enough trust in her because i have no clue how real or fake, how transparent things are, and i Want to trust her So much. For her reassurance and for my own mind to feel at ease..

I've told her i want to be a part of her real life and not just some accessory called 'Ck'.. Not just a lover, a boyfriend, a thing which theres plentys of in the sea.. as the knowing girls in vn are so pessimistic about, almost to the point of unattached even if they lost it..

What can i do, what should i say to let her willingly share her dark secrets with me, her hidden life, her true life???

vietboy · #**18396** 24-08-2013, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by kasain

This will be long! Any bros caring enough to read it and give advice is very much welcome!!

ME
Viet kieu living abroad, Northern Europe....

dun quite understand why u posted here.

Hurricane88 · #**18397** 24-08-2013, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by vietboy

dun quite understand why u posted here.

he is right to post here...nothing wrong...whether he is vk or sinkie or any nationality...he wants a VB as life partner...so correct thread...

only thing is his case is similar to others which he can search and read...I am pessimistic about his case...because the VB is a WL and go to bonk other clients for money...this is a bottomless pit and heart breaker if he persists...my personal opinion is why he dun find other VB which so many decent one around and why fell for one tree when there is a forest out there...why bother to hear all the VB sob stories which may be all lies...

vietboy · #**18398** 24-08-2013, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Hurricane88

only thing is his case is similar to others which he can search and read...I am pessimistic about his case...because the VB is a WL and go to bonk other clients for money...this is a bottomless pit and heart breaker if he persists...my personal opinion is why he dun find other VB which so many decent one around and why fell for one tree when there is a forest out there...why bother to hear all the VB sob stories which may be all lies...

Yes agreed with u. Go find a decent VB, he will have less trouble.

Nam Mo A Di Da Phat.

Hurricane88 · #**18399** 24-08-2013, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by vietboy

Yes agreed with u. Go find a decent VB, he will have less trouble.

Nam Mo A Di Da Phat.

worst he still a student and no good earning power...such fine young man worried about gals...remember no money no honey...long distance relationship is talking about how long can last not short term...dun expect gal to wait to see him once a year...haha...

my advice...get a good education and good job...then earn good money...then let gals come to you..haha...dun have I bring you there...he said he is 7 out of 10 right...