Need advice on Sour marriage life..

[maxsee]

I begs to differ on Ichigo post that if one decides to remain single for the rest of ur life, emptiness will eats u up as u grow older. Not everyone is suitable for marriage...unless u fear loneliness i would advise ppl not to just throw out the card of remaining single for the rest of their life.

I know a couple of guys who are in their late 60s and 70s...and they are still enjoying life living by themsevles...and tat's not becoz they like to screw ard...it's just tat they prefer a simpler form of life living by themselves...and they have no issue of loneliness....

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by maxsee

I begs to differ on Ichigo post that if one decides to remain single for the rest of ur life, emptiness will eats u up as u grow older. Not everyone is suitable for marriage...unless u fear loneliness i would advise ppl not to just throw out the card of remaining single for the rest of their life.

I know a couple of guys who are in their late 60s and 70s...and they are still enjoying life living by themsevles...and tat's not becoz they like to screw ard...it's just tat they prefer a simpler form of life living by themselves...and they have no issue of loneliness....

To me, it's about securing and maintaining my family legacy. Especially a son who can literally carry on the family name. Probably 3 sons and 2 daughters. Besides I love kids also la

[wells]

Such a big change in your wife is shocking or yourself have drastic changes too in this few years?

Find a chance and trash things out, what is the root cause of the problems?

[maxsee]

O ya another thing like Ichigo say if u are into kids u will probably end up getting married.....

[topcook1]

Now my life is full of loneliness been in married life more than 10 years.Kids no longer with me anymore. Wonder how to cope with this kind of situation? Things change so fast until I also live in fear.

[SunnyO]

look towards religion bro, if you are a buddhist, you can listen to this monk, Ajahn Brahm on Youtube. It will help calm you down.

[maxsee]

Dun worry topcook1...loneliness will takes some time to get use to...embrace the freedom that comes with it...and if god decrees that u have another lady in ur life...the new lady will eventually appears in ur life...

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by maxsee

I begs to differ on Ichigo post that if one decides to remain single for the rest of ur life, emptiness will eats u up as u grow older. Not everyone is suitable for marriage...unless u fear loneliness i would advise ppl not to just throw out the card of remaining single for the rest of their life.

I know a couple of guys who are in their late 60s and 70s...and they are still enjoying life living by themsevles...and tat's not becoz they like to screw ard...it's just tat they prefer a simpler form of life living by themselves...and they have no issue of loneliness....

End of the day,even if one is marry and have kids,their kids will eventually grow up and have their own family.So slowly the husband and wife will be alone together.Then when 1 of the spouse pass away,the other one will be alone.Even if live together with their grown up kids does not mean they dont feel lonely.

So one needs to find their own happiness when turn 60s and 70s.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by shctaw

Me a bit different.Of course any man will be upset.

I will divorce and hope they get married soon and live happily ever after.

1. I will remain single for the rest of my life.
2. Use the divorce as an excuse to stop any girl from forcing me into married.
3. Enjoy life and travel the world.

I cannot make everybody happy; least I can do is make myself happy.

That is the spirit,the best friend is u yourself

[shctaw]

Good job....Nice avatar you use....

Forrest Gump mum says "life is like a box of Chocolate...."

But I feel life is a game of gaining, winning , lossing.

When you married; it start a game of tussle and you need to balance.
The more "love" and "money" you/wife have the more balance your married will be.

If only "love" without money; it may lost it's balance.

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

To me, it's about securing and maintaining my family legacy. Especially a son who can literally carry on the family name. Probably 3 sons and 2 daughters. Besides I love kids also la

[hcg_explorer]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Now my life is full of loneliness been in married life more than 10 years.Kids no longer with me anymore. Wonder how to cope with this kind of situation? Things change so fast until I also live in fear.

Bro, this is life. Whatever happened we have to accept. No need to curse and swear. Divorcing is very common nowadays. No need to blame anyone, ur wife, ur in law or who ever. The world has changed, from the way u describe, it may be ur wife's fault but sometimes we have to understand also.. why these things can happen. In the first place why u 2 get married? Becos love is blind... when u love her, u can do anything same to her. She can do anything for u. But when getting married that time, is it because of certain reasons ? Or is just a responsibility ?

But whatever it is, things has turn this way so u just have to accept. U may lost a wife but daughters are still urs. No one can stop u from seeing them. Just settle everything with a nice ending, it will benefit u unless u dun wan ur kids.

[topcook1]

Everything is going to end soon. Yesterday she went to sign the draft and commision of oath. I have yet to sign . By the way I had found out that she has been cheating me all these years .She always crave for ang mos. Luckily I had find out now and decide to run asap. Really is a damn nightmare for me as I would likes to puke when I think she having sex with ang mo. Feel sorry for my daughters as she will be having care and control. Really feel like putting up her photo to shame her.

[maxsee]

Dun worry too much la bro...it will be a bright bright future for u...who knows it might open new doors to u after this divorce episode is over...

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Feel sorry for my daughters as she will be having care and control. Really feel like putting up her photo to shame her.

For the sake of her and yourself, please do not publish your soon to be ex-wife photo. 家丑不可外扬

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

For the sake of her and yourself, please do not publish your soon to be ex-wife photo. 家丑不可外扬

I thought I banned you! You're STILL HERE!!!!!