The one you marry, is not the one you loved most? - Page 113

Coldcut · #**1681** 11-12-2011, 06:27 PM

I think this is a good discussion as different brothers have different sets of views about the topic. I, myself is one.

I've been seeing my current gf now for almost 8 years and we will be tying the knot soon. Our apartment (EC) has been booked. Suddenly, during this period, a lot of questions have been going round my mind about whether she is the right one to marry or not. Honestly, I am seeing another girl at the same time as well. I know this is unfair to my current gf (wife to be) but in the recent years, I find myself not sharing my problems with my wife to be. And instead, I am talking more to my fling.

Now, I have regrets for making the decision to quickly (booking the apartment). Marriage is about commitment and not just getting married for the purpose of buying a flat. At the end of the day, it is about who is the one you think is comfortable to share your problems together.

asdfghjkl · #**1682** 11-12-2011, 06:42 PM

oh shit. i am about to get married soon with my guy and i get to read this thread now. what to do?

bleedingknight · #**1683** 11-12-2011, 09:36 PM

dont think there is anything you could do. As u may have noticed all the girl/wives involved are innocent and faultless....sigh i hate being an asshole....

pro.d.igy · #**1684** 11-12-2011, 09:52 PM

When you spend too much time with your partner, the love will slowly give way, only to be replaced by commitment. It's like the saying, 爱情久后变感情。That may be the reason why so many bros find temptation outside.

I have to agree with the post, that the one you marry is not the one you love the most. How many of us dare say that SHE will be the only and last one I will ever love in my entire lifetime?

ahboyle · #**1685** 12-12-2011, 10:21 AM

probably the song to describe how most of us feel here. except that this song describes the girl loving someone else, and not the guy.

5ag1_Boar · #**1686** 19-12-2011, 03:17 PM

Amazing, after so many years, this thread is still going on.

howck001 · #**1687** 19-12-2011, 03:19 PM

yeah... its touch the corener of your old memory and heart

bugmenot · #**1688** 20-12-2011, 04:16 PM

When love fades... Marriage vow turns responsibility.

Sometimes we asked ourselves... Have we done something to rekindle the lost love?

Have we recalled the so many things we have done together? First date? First kiss? Till the day we marched down the red carpet together...

I too faced the same turning point. Above are just some of my thoughts which I hope to share with all bros...

diputs1269 · #**1689** 01-01-2012, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by bugmenot

When love fades... Marriage vow turns responsibility.

Sometimes we asked ourselves... Have we done something to rekindle the lost love?

Have we recalled the so many things we have done together? First date? First kiss? Till the day we marched down the red carpet together...

I too faced the same turning point. Above are just some of my thoughts which I hope to share with all bros...

Can't agree with you more

samaritan · #**1690** 04-02-2012, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Coldcut

Suddenly, during this period, a lot of questions have been going round my mind about whether she is the right one to marry or not. Honestly, I am seeing another girl at the same time as well. I know this is unfair to my current gf (wife to be) but in the recent years, I find myself not sharing my problems with my wife to be. And instead, I am talking more to my fling.

is there a reason u connect beter with this new girl?

zunbo · #**1691** 06-02-2012, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

oh shit. i am about to get married soon with my guy and i get to read this thread now. what to do?

Read forum with pinch of salt bro

samaritan · #**1692** 06-02-2012, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by zunbo

Read forum with pinch of salt bro

you r spooking him bro

ELTaz · #**1693** 06-02-2012, 11:23 PM

I broke up with the one I loved the most. I confess I don't love my wife as much.

WRX_STI · #**1694** 12-02-2012, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ELTaz

I broke up with the one I loved the most. I confess I don't love my wife as much.

was that period before or after u met your wife?

Kalv · #**1695** 13-02-2012, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Coldcut

... gf ... 8 years a.. will be tying the knot .. apartment .. booked. ....am seeing another girl... unfair .. not sharing my problems with my wife to be....talking more to my fling.
.... one you think is comfortable to share your problems together.

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Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

... about to get married soon ...

Very interesting/controversial topic/discussion as opinions may/will often differ - eg "Beauty is in the Eyes of the Beholder". Selecting a life partner needs very serious considerations unlike a ONS / fling. Ever notice that 2nd wives/mistresses are often not as beautiful as the wives ?? In the past, with match making - fewer breakups could be because it will takes some years to know each other. Nowadays, many breakups before marriage (after knowing each others too well). I have seen a few - even 10 yrs courtships!! Many looking for what is (perceived) lacking in present in the new.

Great thread since 2006 - evergreen topic!! My post in KTV thread - food for thoughts:

http://sbfsg.agency/showpos...postcount=2610