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fully agree bro!!!
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My OC only listens and be good to me when she suspects I was seeing someone. But when she knew I was no longer seeing that someone she reverted to her original self. So sometimes it pays to be naughty.
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is it?..as far as i know, most gals will choose to follow their partner overseas...cos they dun wanna b separated |
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the ideas and solutions given here is superb! its a marriage of 2 families of just 2 persons. i also hv my fair share... as i come from peaceful family before marriage, my new family is giving me more headaches in the last 5 years than my entire 30 years with my own. to list a few:
1) maid - now wife doesnt even wants to make her own cup of coffee 2) car - when i on leave, she drives to work; when she on leave, she drives for shopping 3) kid - i m doing more emotional and growing up support 4) family - her family's problem becoming mine. niece got sick come to my place and leaves immediately when recovered without saying thank you (not to me) 5) work - i travel a bit in my work. when i got home, she just said - now the kid is yours. ok since i also missed the bonding with my kid. 6) domestic work - i do help like washing a cup or plate cos i was brought up to. she leaves it on the table 7) Outings - she suggests going out but i planned schedule. from her family's birthdays to her relatives. i have to suggest a place. 8) Arguments - will side her side of family (loudly) even though the opinion is subjective 9) throw tantrum when she is losing the argument like Bro Oraclez & Olduncle - i have tried, argued, quarreled, reasoned and all but i think the best is just to concentrate on things that matters to me most like my kid. I dont have to win every battle to win the war... but i appreciate sharing in this thread... i am not alone... |
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Life was simple till human intervention.
I find approach to most issues are in our local context are as follow; 1) Found out some small issues which cause slight unhappiness 2) Endure and swallow 3) More problems rises 4) Endure and swallow again 5) Bigger issues arise 6) Unable to take it and voice out 7) Other party not will to give in or accept. (If accept or change, problem solve) 8) Physical rebel or changes to influence other party. (If changed, problem solve) 9) Still no change by other party. 10) Decides to leave. I think above process is very similar and familiar to many even when we picture it at work, home or personal relationship. Humans when being nice often turns soft and give others the chance to climb all over you. Humans when being direct and straightforwarded are often found disliked and detested by others. The true solution is to find a balance in not just your own life, but a balance in everyones.
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women usually dislike their men to tell them their shortcomings directly cos they will start thinking their men dont love them anymore or have changed their hearts for other women. its just like if u tell yr gf she is fat she will start to think that u have fallen for other slimmer MM and gets emotional rather than solving the problem (to slim down) |
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Really feel for you.. My sense is that women are afterall humans. I am a very direct man. So whatever I say might offend you. But plese forgive me. U are really a fool. If your worker or maid is not doing what they are supposed to do up to your expectations, u should take in control and make sure they do what you expect cos u give them the salary. Of cos, I am not asking you to take drastic measures of not paying them salaries or not giving them food. Likewise, if a wife is not doing what she is expexcted to, whats the point of marrying? Cut back on all the items that shhe wants. I remember when I was younger and had a gf. She always expects me to peel the prawn shells for her. My point to her is.. If I, as a husband have to peel prawns for her, and in future for my kids, I would be a very useless husband. A wife is one who should help the husband whenever and whatever she can. If she can't even do this, u are as good as marrying a women who are only capable of being a wastrel or even worse, a cripple. Spore girls indeed are getting worse.. But its up to us guys to help balance things and change them of their selfish ways and mindset. If they think the western guys are better, let them go get 'f & d' by those westerners. We sporean guys don't need attitude women. We soprean men are not losing out to our western counterparts in any ways esp capability and thinking. Its those ladies' loss. But sad to say, there are still many guys out there who still spoil market. |
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SO maybe the alternative way, not necessary the preferred way, is to have a gal outside (China girl or whatver). AT least you can think of this gal and when youa re with her, you feel good. But obviously this is short term but this is an outlet. Hopefully in a few years time, wife will mellow and all is fine. If not, jsut contiune with girl friends. But make sure they are not hanging on to you. A little bit can but if it goes serious for her and if you cannot control this, you are in trouble also!! Unless you divorse wife and marry girlfriend. But then, it starts the cycle all over again.
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1) Once I was walking on the street near a small factory (or shop) which sells hampers. It was near Christmas time. I saw this guy, in shorts and T-shirt carrying hampers and loading into his van. Then, I saw this lady (late 20s or early 30s in nice make-up and wearing heels and office attire) helping him to carry those hampers and loading into the van too. You can see that the blouse is sticking onto the body due to perspiration. I asked myself, what is she doing. I approached the lady (when the guy went in to collect more hampers) and asked if she is from the shop and selling the hampers (pretending looking for one). She said "no, I am helping my husband to collect and deliver hampers." I said why you are wearing heels and the attire ..... she said "I just finished work and straight down to the shop. Need to deliver 18 hampers by tonight." Oh, good luck. Bye. I was touch and nearly tears. 2) This is my former neighbour. She has 3 kids. Is a housewife with a maid. She drives kids to school. She tutor the kids. She sees her husband off to work at the door with a kiss. Never hear her complain. Sometimes even cook nice food/desert and share with us. What a lady. 3) This mother is amazing. My kid's former classmate mother actually. Has 2 kids in school. Drives them to and fro, beside school, drives them to music class, tuition class etc. NO MAID. Does household chores by herself. She told me everyday, morning wake up busy until 12 mid night. I told her, you are a wonderful mother. (wonder if still have time for sex???) I really admire the above ladies. At the same time, I envy their hubby. For me, I always tell myself not to compare. Wife is chosen by us ourself. So like it or not, just do the best I can. Good luck. |
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having alternative outlet cant solve the OC prob. i am long enuf in a marriage to know that. of cos there are superb wives and i do know some too.
as for really superb wives, i think the Japs wives are really something. have you seen Jap wives / mothers (Daimaru) holding to their toddler, piggybag another and pulling a stroller and shopping bags? i heard that its a shame if they get a maid or unable to handle the usual wife / mother duties. i am not a wife torturer but how i wish, just how i wish... yes bro oralcraz, i am smiling, i m smiling... cos i got a world class toddler that just melts my heart, all the time |
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Bro, I am in the same boat as you and now filing my divorce. The only difference is that my marriage is only 6 years and my wife will go all out to nail me DEAD. I can truely understand how you feel! Take care and try to get some support from family and friends. That helps. |
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to bro UFH-UFC, sorry to hear abt that. do be strong and call for listening ear if you need to. and - to hate a person takes a lot of energy and it is tiring...
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