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Matters of the Heart. Has a Commercial Fuck turned into a torrid Love Affair which has turned your life upside down? Fear not. We have experts here who can help you through your roller coaster ride. Tell us your story and we'll do our best to help. |
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Re: Fall into Relationship with a China FL
Guess now u in honeymoon period with her..love is blind ..guess u really lack of love. Your marriage has no love. Enjoy this honeymoon period with the fl. Dont let your small head in control. You will face the reality when u wakes up from the dream. Dont make yourself suffer.
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Doesn't matter whether it's true or false, it's all still a black hole. I have my own story about something like this from about 2-3 years ago somewhere in the back pages of this forum now.
I never followed it up, but in the end I changed my number and forgot about her. Actually I have never forgotten about her, but I make sure to remember the futility of it all. It was never going to go anywhere except end badly if it continued. Maybe it's true that she loves you (she's 20 years old so frankly.....), but it can come to no good end. I still think maybe that girl loved me, which is true since Chinese women tie love to material provision. Better than pretending that their love for you is unconditional really, because there's really no such thing (except for parents towards their children). Anyway, there comes a point where one realizes no good can possibly come out of dragging it on. I know how hard it is to see her as anything other than your only route to happiness when everything else feels so fucking shitty. But you are right, it is blindness that leads you down that path, but knowing and feeling it with conviction are totally different things. You can't just forget about her of course or simply think happy thoughts, because these things are not for most people, a switch you can turn on or off. You have to have your mind taken off her and leave no time to feel unhappy, I bet you spend a lot of time moping, it's understandable. Just also understand asap that keeping this up goes nowhere. Do something that makes you busy, and I mean busy. Something that keeps you busy doing something for YOURSELF, not anyone or everyone else. Start a business of some sort, a course, or something else that demands your full attention for an extended period. Throw yourself into whatever project is happening at work to secure that promotion, or if you're doing some shitty thing like customer service, go back and examine option 1 or 2. You will resist forgetting her of course, but that pain associated with being with her, yet also not with her, will disappear when you are busy doing something really meaningful to YOURSELF. Don't worry about whether your wife is happy, the girl is happy, or anyone else is fucking happy at what you decide to do for yourself. Change your phone number if you can (I did), delete permanently all ways to contact her (I didn't ha ha, but I never tried to contact her again after I changed my number). The clouds will clear. Things everywhere won't look as dark as they do now, really. Don't think the girl needs you, that you are her knight in shining armor. Perhaps you can be, but she's young, experienced (for sure, without judging) and most certainly hardened. She will survive, you don't have to worry about that if it worries you, which it probably does. |
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This is not true ya!
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Sigh never ending story.
It is really difficult to handle once You are in this situation. It happened to me also, the only way out Is to change your mindset. Just think it's all just money transaction. |
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Technically allowing u raw also does not mean she loves u...she can also allow other to do the same...
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Dear TS, I think u should try to salvage yr r'ship with yr wifey instead of falling further into the pitfall. i love PRCs too, i've also fallen in love with PRCs but i am sceptical if this is true love.
Paying for meals n taxi is nothing lah. guess yr 1 session with her in S'pore would be enuff to cover for a few days of those expenses. U oredi said she has a house to pay a S$2k monthly instalment. if she can get a spore bf/husband who earn say 5k to help her service the 2k instalment, why not? it may not be a fantastic catch but it's still a very good catch. I juz feel it might be one of those mind games to trick u. of cos the final decision lies with u. we are not here to talk bad abt PRCs but there are far too many true stories to justify. take care n make a wise decision bro!
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My 22nd year of romance with SBF. Semi-retired from chionging scene. Rep pts: Pls do not visit the point exchange groups giving the impression you are keen to exchange points but disappear after one post. Or promise to return points but did not do so after months. Min 5 pts for exchange. |
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Please check if she have any armpit hair, if she have I urge you end this relationship.
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Not forgetting the overgrown bushes down south ..
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Read this ... very impt ..
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Another good guide for ur info ...
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Now reading back, think this post has the best piece of advice. Very well written post which truly reflects the feelings of someone who really been there, done that n gone thru a lot of storms. It sure takes a lot of discipline n courage to cut off ties with someone u love (maybe even more than yr gf/wife) n to forget her forever. I can feel both yr pain.
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My 22nd year of romance with SBF. Semi-retired from chionging scene. Rep pts: Pls do not visit the point exchange groups giving the impression you are keen to exchange points but disappear after one post. Or promise to return points but did not do so after months. Min 5 pts for exchange. |
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Keep on enjoy your romance. But please don't dry up your entire saving and divorce your wife can already.
Good luck, my friend. |
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Same old story keeps repeating itself... It doesn't matter how it starts, it always ends up the same.
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