Long Distance relationship.......

[DegenerationX]

Bros, do u think long distance relationship will affect a married couple alot? Just recently my bro-in-law has asked my wife to go over to Shanghai to help out with his business. My wife is quite eager to go over. I kinda quite reluctant about this but on the other hand, it is a good thing that she goes over as she has been indulging in mahjong (i have posted this on another thread). She has promised and even my bro-in-law has assured me that she can spend one month in Shanghai and one month in Singapore, meaning she has to travel between 2 places. Any advice on whether she should go?

[Regular1000]

I think it depends on your wife's personality. If your wife has strong character, then letting her try out the job may do u good. afterall, she'll be back every other month.

For you, you can oso chiong! joking la....

[DegenerationX]

Originally Posted by Regular1000

I think it depends on your wife's personality. If your wife has strong character, then letting her try out the job may do u good. afterall, she'll be back every other month.

For you, you can oso chiong! joking la....

yup. her character is damn strong lor.....

[GD_Paradise]

Your brother in law is Chinese or Singaporean ?

[Marino]

bro, i suggest let her try out 1st. since its your bro-in-law, if cant make it, its also easy to talk to.

[DegenerationX]

Originally Posted by GD_Paradise

Your brother in law is Chinese or Singaporean ?

singaporean

[Niceman]

No need ask, No need think, No need ponder. Pack and go...

[DegenerationX]

Originally Posted by Niceman

No need ask, No need think, No need ponder. Pack and go...

any particular reasons?

[singexpat]

TS, hw come ur BIL can ask ur wife to go suddenly??

[avarice]

Haha bro singexpat, you thinking of the sister in law thread ....

Anyway, I think it is a good idea ... maybe she will forget about MJ ... and hopefully not pickup the chinese mj or card game

[hotdick69]

actually long distance will only affect if your marriage is already not good.

if both of you have a very close relationship and both of u trust each other very well, then it should be a problem. Problem only arises when both of u feelings not strong for each other then when ur all alone u will start to think and wonder. Then u start looking for company outside, which i very common now. Thats y so many married women out there having fun.

Be supportive of her let her try it out, but remember to sit down and have a good talk to her. I hope this helps, it not the distance but the bond u have with her.

just my 2 cents

[colins]

Like bro hotdick said, main thing is to be supportive of her decision.

I believe in terms of the marriage, if you think she is better off here and you play a big part in her being better off, you should tell her that you like to keep her here with you. But if she is used to making decisions herself, that probably shows that she know how to be better off herself without too much of your influence, then you might as well be supportive of her.

It is how much of you in her life that is important, because once she goes over, your influence will become less.

Anyway, there are technicalities involved even if she wants to relocate to Shanghai. 8 of out 10 (singaporean) women I met in Shanghai cannot get used to the environment. One even got so slimmed down that further stay will affect her health. Its all mental, but it is not a place easily got used to by women.

Let her try, but make most effort to be there for her. Maybe your relationship with her will even start to improve. For all I ever ponder, life is always changing, change can either be spice or poison but you're the chef!

Take care man.

[cuteguy]

if ur wife is chio...mayb ur bro in law has sth in mind...and since she so keen to go over..i think maybe sth is happening between them...hehehehehe...

[mvhomme]

Not tryiing to be funny or wat.....but have you considered if your wife and BIL may end up doing the unforgivable deed

[Niceman]

Reasons tons and tons...

Lonely and the girls there too sweet.....