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Old 18-10-2009, 11:52 PM
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Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

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Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

18 Oct 2009

SOURCE: The New Paper

He gets custody of children, maintenance from ex-wife in unusual divorce


THEIR roles were reversed.

The well-qualified man stayed at home caring for the kids while his wife worked as an IT manager, earning $12,000 a month.

When they got divorced, the court made the woman support her ex-husband and kids.

The ex-husband, was also given 40 per cent of the matrimonial assets (valued at about $700,000) as recognition for his sacrifices, though he had contributed only about 20 per cent.

The court also granted the husband’s application to be entitled to 50 per cent of the value of the wife’s unit trusts, valued at $115,000.

His sacrifice was in giving up his $3,000-a-month job as a manager to look after their three sons and handle the household chores since 1991.

He holds a master’s degree in business administration.

The Singaporean couple decided early on that the man, now 52, should be a house husband.

They were married in 1987 and their eldest boy, 17, is followed by twins, 11.

The wife filed for divorce in 2006.

Last month, District Judge Sowaran Singh at the Family Court ordered the wife to pay the man $1,750 a month as he would be caring for their children.

The amount is to be halved after six months as the judge asked the husband to look for a job.

Unusual arrangement

The wife, now 45, was earning four times as much as the husband when the couple worked out their family roles.

She did not want to stay at home to be a housewife. Hiring maids was not feasible as she did not get along with them.

So he became the homemaker, and for 15 years, she was fine with the arrangement.

But marital bliss did not last.

The wife filed for divorce, citing the husband’s unreasonable behaviour.

She also stopped maintaining the family.

The husband cross-petitioned for divorce citing her unreasonable behaviour.

Details of the spouses’ claims of unreasonable behaviour were not mentioned in court papers.

Their divorce was finalised in January this year, with the husband having care and control of the children.

After interviewing the children, the court decided it would be in the boys’ best interest to stay with their dad.

The wife quit her job as an IT manager in the same month she filed for divorce.

In November 2007, the Family Court issued an interim order for the wife to pay $1,750 a month as maintenance for the husband and their children.

The wife, who had been paying the monthly mortgage payments for the couple’s jointly-owned condominium unit, stopped doing so after the marriage floundered.

On 16 Jan this year, the bank foreclosed the apartment, which was the family’s home, and divided the proceeds between the couple after the sale.

By then, the wife had moved out and the husband had to stay elsewhere with the children.

Despite the interim maintenance order and having more than $210,000 from selling another apartment in the same condominium, the wife refused to support the family financially.

Desperate, the husband resorted to borrowing money from friends and relatives to keep the family going.

By August 2008, he had borrowed about $33,000 from his family, but details of how the money was used were not in court papers.

The husband said he had monthly expenses of $1,056. He spent $493 for the eldest boy and $400 for the twins.

He said he had trimmed these expenses as much as he could because he was living on “monies borrowed from his family”.

Because of his situation, the husband asked the court to increase the monthly maintenance to $3,000.

The wife countered, saying she had no income after quitting her job.

The husband disputed this, saying the wife had moved to Florida in the US, and was working as a realtor there.

She also planned to remarry there, he claimed.

The wife claimed it was the husband who had preferred to be a stay-at-home dad instead of seeking employment.

Judge Singh said that since both parties claimed to be unemployed, they should look for jobs.

He ordered the wife to continue with the monthly maintenance of $1,750 for six months, to give the husband time to return to work.

After that, the maintenance would be halved.

Citing the husband’s non-monetary contributions to the family, Judge Singh wrote: “He didn’t work for many years and instead stayed at home quite obviously to take care of the three children for a period of over 15 years.”

Judge Singh said he was satisfied that the husband had been the main caregiver.

He wrote: “As he (the husband) termed it, he was the veritable ‘house husband’.

“The fact that the three children in their interviews chose to continue staying with him, spoke volumes for his singular efforts.”

Makes sense for wife to pay

Lawyers who have handled divorces told The New Paper on Sunday that while it was rare for a wife to maintain her husband, it depended on the circumstances.

Mr Michael Low of Crossbows LLP said: “In this case, it makes sense for the woman to pay the ex-husband, since their children are with him, especially when the wife has a higher earning capacity.”

Asked for her comment, Ms Lelia Loges, chairman of the work-life balance sub-committee at women’s group Aware, said: “I don’t see why she shouldn’t pay...

“He had to sacrifice his job for her to succeed, and lost 18 years of a chance at a career and seniority in the work place. It will be hard to find employment now since he is past 50.

“She is successful because he stayed home and took care of the children, and he should be recognised for that support.”

“The fact that the three children in their interviews chose to continue staying with him, spoke volumes for his singular efforts.”

– Judge Singh, who said in his written judgement that he was satisfied that
the husband had been the main caregiver.
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Old 19-10-2009, 01:09 AM
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

The roles have interchanged. Men nowadays have become more responsible, knows how to do household chores, looks after kids while women on the contrary.
Have met many living examples of women who did not want their kids after divorce while the husband takes the custody of the kids. What are the women thinking about nowadays? After all, they are her flesh and blood.
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

I'm lost for words..........Salute him for giving up his job to be house husband. And it was job well done as the sons choose to stay with him.
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

And "The wife quit her job as an IT manager in the same month she filed for divorce.".......hhmmm.....to reduce the maintenance fees, I think.... shrewd.

It will be very difficult for the house husband to look for a job after so many years and at age 50+. If he works then, who look after the kids???

Half year to look for a job and maintenance fees halved after that....tough.

Is this same for house wives under the same situation?
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

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Half year to look for a job and maintenance fees halved after that....tough.

Is this same for house wives under the same situation?
Of course not. If I am not wrong, the man has to continue giving the woman maintenance fees as long as she remains as "divorced" status. I think can only stop if she decides to re-marry. Singapore law protects females. Correct me if I am wrong.
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

the husband sounds poor thing and maybe the wife is just not satisfied with having a hubby who cld not match up to her in terms of money.. ?
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

If your understanding is correct.......then where is equality???

Females fighting to be equals...does the law supports that?

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Of course not. If I am not wrong, the man has to continue giving the woman maintenance fees as long as she remains as "divorced" status. I think can only stop if she decides to re-marry. Singapore law protects females. Correct me if I am wrong.
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

woman now day wake up make up go out .................money not enoght for bag shoes make up finger nails spa facial.
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

wow.. I'm speechless after reading the article. I won't/never give up my career just because my wife is successful. Really must meet him and give him a salute sia.
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

it is under the Women’s Charter
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Of course not. If I am not wrong, the man has to continue giving the woman maintenance fees as long as she remains as "divorced" status. I think can only stop if she decides to re-marry. Singapore law protects females. Correct me if I am wrong.
its the "Women's Charter" that is the problematic one......
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

well the govt n the court have recognised tat the women charter is flawed in today's context but they are unwilling to openly admit or change...

so its up to the court discretion to bypass the women charter n award the husband adv....there will be more n more such cases lar..
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

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it is under the Women’s Charter
read this sticky to know more
http://sbfsg.agency/adult-d...er-sg-law.html
Thanks bro for the link. It is very enlightening with the information - several of my friends are going thru' divorce currently.

I remember some bros was mentioning about Protection and Empowerment for the women in Singapore - its the total package, leaving the men in heap of a financial mess. Its about time the law changes with the times.

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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

HAHAHA!!!
I know a few women who are much more succeesful than their husbands who must be calling their bankers and lawyers now.
It is good that the judicial system is moving to meet current social demographics.
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Re: Court to successful woman: Support house husband, kids

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Of course not. If I am not wrong, the man has to continue giving the woman maintenance fees as long as she remains as "divorced" status. I think can only stop if she decides to re-marry. Singapore law protects females. Correct me if I am wrong.
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