The one you marry, is not the one you loved most? - Page 81

Xdecepticon · #**1201** 30-08-2007, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by OceanEleven

That is when love become a habit, becomes a routine. Living with it, we take it for granted, living without we feel empty.

Honestly until recently then I realize what i really need is companionship. If I could turn the clock back, I would rather marry for the sake of companionship and not to start a family.

OceanEleven · #**1202** 31-08-2007, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Honestly until recently then I realize what i really need is companionship. If I could turn the clock back, I would rather marry for the sake of companionship and not to start a family.

Indeed, we do like attention as well, we like people to fuss over us, take care of us, meet our needs, especially the sexual ones but also to know when to say what we like to hear, leave us alone when we want, shut up when we tell them to……but honestly, when to find such gals??

suteerak1099 · #**1203** 31-08-2007, 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by OceanEleven

Indeed, we do like attention as well, we like people to fuss over us, take care of us, meet our needs, especially the sexual ones but also to know when to say what we like to hear, leave us alone when we want, shut up when we tell them to……but honestly, when to find such gals??

maybe when the day comes where science can enable us to customize cyborgs that we can program settings that meets our individual requirements....

Thai Rak Thai · #**1204** 31-08-2007, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

If I could turn the clock back, I would rather marry for the sake of companionship and not to start a family.

so u marry the wrong for sake of family?

OceanEleven · #**1205** 31-08-2007, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Honestly until recently then I realize what i really need is companionship. If I could turn the clock back, I would rather marry for the sake of companionship and not to start a family.

On second thoughts, you may not turn the clock back but you may change your mindset. Think of treating her as a companion rather than a child bearing machine.

suteerak1099 · #**1206** 31-08-2007, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Honestly until recently then I realize what i really need is companionship. If I could turn the clock back, I would rather marry for the sake of companionship and not to start a family.

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Originally Posted by OceanEleven

On second thoughts, you may not turn the clock back but you may change your mindset. Think of treating her as a companion rather than a child bearing machine.

yup, its still not too late to make some adjustments. put it this way, 1 doesnt need marriage to procreate, neither does it take marriage to be involved with a significant other.

but since u already made the choice, the journey thereon forth has plenty to offer. how good or bad the journey will be.... 看你们自己的造化

Xdecepticon · #**1207** 31-08-2007, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Thai Rak Thai

so u marry the wrong for sake of family?

For the sake of having a family, I marry. Kia hou mah. Filiar child. Listen to parent advice.

no_faith · #**1208** 02-09-2007, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

For the sake of having a family, I marry. Kia hou mah. Filiar child. Listen to parent advice.

u cant have the both world.
to me, sumtimes one party has to be sacrifice to make another party happy.
in this case, u make your parents happy and u have been a filial child.

love? when there are so much doubts in love. nothing beats to be a filial child.

0.0214

Xdecepticon · #**1209** 03-09-2007, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by no_faith

sumtimes one party has to be sacrifice to make another party happy.
in this case, u make your parents happy and u have been a filial child.

love? when there are so much doubts in love. nothing beats to be a filial child.

Mother's love is eternal. Wife's love is ?????

asdfghjkl · #**1210** 04-09-2007, 12:50 AM

bopian.. mutual love beri hard to come about one ler..

pulchritudinous · #**1211** 04-09-2007, 01:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Mother's love is eternal. Wife's love is ?????

Do you think we should offer unconditional love to our partners? yes I do but only to an extent as we should odder our love and romance without REALLY expecting anything in return at the beginning of a relationship. However, there has to be a limit. If our partner just keeps on taking and taking without ever reciprocating, then it's time to review our stance. We HAVE to learn to draw boundaries and protect yourself from pure exploitation or eventually we going to be tangled up in a big mess. For example if OC has a bad case of depression try to offer her support for a few months. But if she only gets worse and worse because she refuses to take care of herself and your words just aren't getting to her, then there has to be a point when you say enough is enough and move on with your life especially if her problem (whatever it is) is due to her own actions and attitude. Loving someone blindly is extremely dangerous. If you just keep on supporting your partner unconditionally, then the person has no reason too
change

poorman4sex · #**1212** 04-09-2007, 11:59 AM

Wife : you nowdays no more sweet tok to me, never sayang me like last time liao.
me : then what should be done ?(hinting her to treat me better also lah)
Wife : you cannot change meh ??
me: why dun you change and treat me better also
wife : you marry me that time you already know i like dat one mah....

conclusion...
you give they take... you give and give... they take for granted....
everything they expect you to change... even if it was their fault....

red-perrier · #**1213** 04-09-2007, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by poorman4sex

Wife : you nowdays no more sweet tok to me, never sayang me like last time liao.
me : then what should be done ?(hinting her to treat me better also lah)
Wife : you cannot change meh ??
me: why dun you change and treat me better also
wife : you marry me that time you already know i like dat one mah....

conclusion...
you give they take... you give and give... they take for granted....
everything they expect you to change... even if it was their fault....

bobian, even from religious context, its already written that when woman (Eve) was created, not only was she a companion for man (Adam), she also become a problem for mankind...... or should i say, "kind man"

adwhitworth · #**1214** 04-09-2007, 01:52 PM

The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

got to give and take loh, mai hiam loh, at least she's willing to spent a life with you. gao in need a lot of sacrifices, so lim peh still not ready.

Deep Blue · #**1215** 05-09-2007, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by poorman4sex

conclusion...
you give they take... you give and give... they take for granted....
everything they expect you to change... even if it was their fault....

Like a vicious cycle that goes round and round. Man are simple animals with simple needs, rub them at the right spot at they will be yours to keep. Then many girls have long forgotten the simple rules of give and take, when you want something, you have to give something. Be it big or small, all we want is to feel that we are appreciated, not overlook, neglected or taken for granted. Hence, give us something and we see to want you want then.