The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[happybonkie]

Originally Posted by jemz

yeah it's very very important to listen to your partner...

don't take it as bullshit.. even when words turn into daggers, he/she is revealing the inner emotions what what they really want... go sit on it and see if there's something you can do...

i never liked guessing games and to me, most men are clueless about what their ladies want. so i always take the initiative to point out simply what i want and like. whether it be a present or how i'd like to be treated.

doesn't sound like a woman

[GhostRay]

Originally Posted by happybonkie

dumb when time to make herself understood)

I understand that. Sometime I explain till I myself flared up. No amount of explaining can make her understand.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Cunnilingus.

yes bro, that too (very important)... and its takes alota skills to be a certified cunning-linguist... hahah

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by Derelict

I cant believe that I read every post in this thread.

well done!

Originally Posted by Derelict

Know your partner better. Which means communication is the essential ingredient in a given relationship other than carnal activities. I guess learning to talk and listening on the onset will help to clear most surprises like who they are (character) and what they are (livelihood). If it click than lucky you. If it doesnt you know what to do

not bad bro... you actually had a review/reflection after the read up. and indeed u managed to capture a glimpse of the key ingredient! good job!

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by GhostRay

I understand that. Sometime I explain till I myself flared up. No amount of explaining can make her understand.

no offence to any sistas around here, but in general i reckon sg ladies live up to the gold 90.5 fm advert -only listen to the gd stuff.

the guy could be listing out a whole long list of rationale & reasoning, so as to facilitate her understanding, yet, she could plainly turn a deaf ear to everything. but to get the attention of a sg woman... its been tried and tested.

guy: [fed up by the gf's deaf ear, heaves a big sigh & turn his head frowning in silence]
gal: [still blur, unaware that the music stopped]

moments later

guy: hey look! sale!
gal: [at full alert]... where? where?

[High till Dry]

Originally Posted by JWNY

You may have married

- a one night stand
- a fling
- a wife or girlfriend of a buddy / best friend
- childhood sweetheart
- your boss / colleague
- a cousin
- matchmaked
- etc, etc

.....but is that person the one you loved most?

who cares to share their thoughts? married / divorced / singles can participate.

JWNY

Likely that's the case cos the one u love the most is usually out of reach.

The more u pursue, the more she will be run away.

Bro, dun say i never participate in your thread ok. Look, wat's the time now.....5am

Wait for u to help me in my thread I oredi die liao...

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by High till Dry

Likely that's the case cos the one u love the most is usually out of reach.

The more u pursue, the more she will be run away.

mayb love is the sand in ur hand..the tighter u hold it..the faster it flow out from ur hand

[jintulan]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

mayb love is the sand in ur hand..the tighter u hold it..the faster it flow out from ur hand

it isn't possible to hold on to love in any way. it can be given and received. but i doubt if it can ever be held on to. like a beautiful wild animal that cannot be tamed, it dies quickly in captivity.

[SiberianTiger]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

mayb love is the sand in ur hand..the tighter u hold it..the faster it flow out from ur hand

so the saying "if u love that person, u shd let it go free" is proven??

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by jintulan

it isn't possible to hold on to love in any way. it can be given and received. but i doubt if it can ever be held on to. like a beautiful wild animal that cannot be tamed, it dies quickly in captivity.

Not to mentioned, once caged, the full potential of that love never blossoms.

[Derelict]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Not to mentioned, once caged, the full potential of that love never blossoms.

If you're saying whence married that will spells the end of love or at lease the stagnation of love than I beg to differ. Infact, if one is prepared for marriage it will blossom into something more profound. Therefore to make it last one have to work in understanding the needs of each other. If on the onset it was only lust in disguise as love than that person is in for a rude awakening.

Just make sure one enter marriage for the right reasons. Learn to differentiate and understand what love is and not because the fragrance that she put on smell nice. So long as its not some conquest, lust or whatever. Its not a game where you can restart if things dont work out. There is so much at stakes

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Derelict

If you're saying whence married that will spells the end of love or at lease the stagnation of love than I beg to differ. Infact, if one is prepared for marriage it will blossom into something more profound. Therefore to make it last one have to work in understanding the needs of each other. If on the onset it was only lust in disguise as love than that person is in for a rude awakening.

Just make sure one enter marriage for the right reasons. Learn to differentiate and understand what love is and not because the fragrance that she put on smell nice. So long as its not some conquest, lust or whatever. Its not a game where you can restart if things dont work out. There is so much at stakes

Marriage is not necessarily a cage. It depends on how healthy the marriage is. There are many cases where people are free in a marriage. Cages can be imposed on non-matrimonial relationships as well.

As what you mentioned, marriage has to be entered for the right reasons... else it will just be a piece of paper.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

mayb love is the sand in ur hand..the tighter u hold it..the faster it flow out from ur hand

hold too tight fear it will go off soon,dont hold tight she will end up landing on other person's hand.haiz..

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by SiberianTiger

so the saying "if u love that person, u shd let it go free" is proven??

if u love her, let her go. If she comes back to you, you noes she is urs forever

if she doesnt come back to you, kill her!

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

hold too tight fear it will go off soon,dont hold tight she will end up landing on other person's hand.haiz..

for me..i always feel tat we shld give it our best shot..its like flyin a kite..u hv to noe when to let go and when to hold tight..do everythin u can while u still can so that there is no regrets when everythin is over

i told my ex tat i love her every day..bcoz i noe mayb 1 day..i really hv no chance to tell it to her..in the end turn out tat it really happen and now i got no more chance to tell tat to her