How many is here because you are sexually frustrated?

[tissue]

Originally Posted by primalhunter

This is bordering on paranoia, I know, but is my flabby appearance now, the reason for her to be so put off by sex with me???

This happens to both guys and gals. Gals may find it hard to return to their size XS clothing after a baby or two. Do you think your hubby is put off by your appearance?

Some gals here might have some input to this argument. Sigh.... I may open another bigger wound here.. but again, curiosity...

Hi primalhunter,

May I add my few cents worth? I'm also a lady from XS to XL after 2 kids.

My husband also put on more than 10 kg after our marriage. I guessed it because we stopped smoking together and food never tasted so much better.

Everyone who knew us from before will say that we have put on lots of weight. The reason for my weight gain is obvious, for my husband it's not very good for his health as he's not very tall and he has double chins and a big belly (he loves beer, by the way).

I had asked a few brothers around here and they have said that guys generally do not mind if their wives became fat..My husband has told me that he still love screwing me even though I'm fat..In fact, he says the feel is better during doggy as there are more meat to play with!

I do tease him sometimes about his additional weight and the extra chins but I never once rejected sex because of it..We, working mothers, reject sex purely because we are very tired. Nothing else.

I have HSD but I also reject him sometimes as I am really tired after a hard day's work, reached home entertained the kids blah blah blah...I always doze off on the kids bed after putting the kids to bed..He will normally wake me up and ask me to sleep on our bed..So when he sometimes initiate, I get angry because I feel that he is disturbing my beauty sleep..That's all..

A normal gal, taking all factors in consideration, will not leave or not make love to the husband because he is fat or plump or has several chins.. IMO, guys are more often the ones who finds appearances important and they prefer a tighter body for visual effects.

We aim for sex about twice a week, but most of the time, it will be done only once a week, normally weekends..

So, does that answer your question?

Cheers / Tissue

[weixiang]

Originally Posted by primalhunter

GEEZ... just realise u are writing from England... damn. I knew there couldn't be a chick that watches EPL and love to suck dicks a the same time in sillipore!

hahahahahahaha...gd point bro..

[weixiang]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Bro I understand where you are coming from, when i first met my wife, i was a fitness freak pounding 5 clicks every other day and doing the gym on alternate days but then when i was diagnosed with a back injury that made it pratically impossible for me to do what i love most, i have been piling on the kilos...well nowadays she kept referring back to those days and how I look like a pig etc etc...to us guys we got our egos too..of cos likewise such comments really turns me off especially when we are in the midst of trying to make love, correction have sex, yup there is a difference, we don;t make love anymore, just fuck and forget type....honestly i get a better deal fucking a pros then my wife....

same here bro...haves sinced stopped due to long-term injury and the muscles all have turned to fats...

abdominen is now 8 in 1 pack..

[Archduke]

It is said that when a woman marries she expects the man to change while when a man marries he expects the woman not to change. However in reality the man never changes while the woman changes for the worst.

Still always remember that it is not the physical that you marry but the person within. If the person within turns out to be too ugly... well drinking helps.

[tissue]

Originally Posted by Archduke

It is said that when a woman marries she expects the man to change while when a man marries he expects the woman not to change. However in reality the man never changes while the woman changes for the worst.

Hi Archduke,

Have you been married long? Well, I asked because I have only been married for 3 years and everyone around me (including my husband's parents & my parents) says that he has changed..I called it revealing his true colours..

Originally Posted by Archduke

Still always remember that it is not the physical that you marry but the person within. If the person within turns out to be too ugly... well drinking helps.

Well, the thrill of bonking of pretty face can only last so long...And I totally agree with you about marrying the person for their inner beauty...(which may be non existent...)

Cheers / Tissue

[Archduke]

Been married for 15 wonderful years, with 3 lovely children. People tend to forget that it takes 2 to make a marriage work. A little give and take now and then works wonders.

Cheers

[tissue]

Originally Posted by Archduke

Been married for 15 wonderful years, with 3 lovely children. People tend to forget that it takes 2 to make a marriage work. A little give and take now and then works wonders.

Cheers

Hi,

Bless your lovely kids..

I especially agree with your last statement...

Cheers / Tissue

[primalhunter]

great to read your comment sis tissue. gives me a more balanced perspective on the situation.

Something happened yesterday that got me really confused... happy, but confused. after more than 2 years, my wife gave me a BJ out of the blue!!!

I won't think too much into the matter though.... gonna enjoy it while she willing... hehehe....

[primalhunter]

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[ilurbu]

Congrats Primalhunter.

If I may remind everybody here. LOVE-MAKING will never replace common sex for it's sheer intimacy, complete and UTTER satisfaction.

LOVE-MAKING is NOT an obligation but a responsibility to upkeep a healthy and blissful marriage. It is indeed both ways if guys can put in full effort with the housework and the kids, wives should be able to tear themselves away from that nightly ritual of TV, newspaper reading, surfing, yakking with her buddies, yakking with her cousins, shopping ENOUGH for just 2 times a week???

Women, ask yourself, if you are so tired, how come you still have strength to watch TV for 2 hours with CSI, Desperate Housewives, Numbers, Gray's Anatomy, LOST, similanjiaos.. instead of finding one hour of unadulterated pleasure that WILL solve your headaches, tiredness, lethargy, depression(most women has this) with all the oxytocin and endorphins released?

Women, you're just as intellectual as us if not sometimes more, if you'd like to admit. BUT why can't you see the light that couplehood therapy IS the ultimate medicine, NOT David Letterman, George Clooney, Seinfeld or Bruckheimer. Think about it. This is not an offensive; this is pure effort in constructive suggestions.

Thank you again primalhunter, this thread is Godsend.

[evo3]

The longer you are married the lesser love making you will have with your wife. Maybe is because the couple have too many sex before their married and once they have children the wife tender to put more attention to their kids rather than to the husband. Like me I only have sex last year less than 12 times for the whole year and for this year till now is only 6 times. Before married we always do it everyday and night at least 3 shot everytime. So is a total different game after married. Well, this is facts we have to face it. For me I will go for out source if I need to relieve myself.

[ilurbu]

dear EVO3,

I am truly sorry for your situation and my heart pours out to those brudders with sad stories. Some are in slightly better situations while others, pure tragedy.

What I realised after 6years plus of marriage is that familiarity does breed contempt and this happens to both husband and wife. It is both parties fault for not trying hard enough to keep the fire alive. This is due to the lack of mutually enjoyable activities, sex aside. cos I realise that most hobbies if mutually enjoyed are foreplay-like; such as sports, arts appreciation, etc.. For lack of a better way to say it, we (husband & wife) do not enjoy each others company as much as before. Mutual Reactions to all our opinions on daily matters are pre-programmed from many years of conditioning(living together). This further frustrates us both parties as we no longer find each other "refreshing". This, still is not as much a fault as when both parties stop wanting to know more about each other.

Remember when you're still courting, both sides are so driven to know and understand about each other that you spend every waking moment talking, communicating and truly absorbing the essence of what each other is like?

I think certain elements of ourselves are transposed onto the other party and it does require mutual self-reflection to want to make changes for the better. I hope there are opportunities for us to convince our wives that we do need to keep the fire burning not because of merely giving a "proper" family nucleus for the children but for the original reason of falling in love. In retrospect, a proper family nucleus does call for a pair of LOVING parents and not their mere existence as this cold relationship mentality of post marriage will be inherited by our children.

Now, we do want our kids to have a happy sex and love life ahead right?

I have both a son and girl, so I am looking at both sides of the coin.

Cheers and peace people.

[Archduke]

Originally Posted by tissue

Hi,

Bless your lovely kids..

I especially agree with your last statement...

Cheers / Tissue

Well it was wonderful making them. Nice to meet you. Been having trouble posting here of late.

Cheers

[shaunting77]

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