I am Going insane - Page 5

yanki1 · #61 06-10-2005, 09:04 AM

bro i know its hard . better to let her go and give yourself another chance. there are someone out that that trully deserved you . this issue will be deep in your heart even if you patch you. so better to let go and move on.

happen to my friend, but to him, he was eating outside, even brought the girl home to bonk. wife found out, cos she read hes msg. call that girl out to talk things over. finally the wife forgive him. cos he got 2 sons. but now everytime they guarral. the same old topics came up..... whats broken is hard to mend...

take time to think things over. you nev know that she might do it again in the future when both of you are married and there are times when you will quarral. or worse, she might even like the idea of being bonk by strangers.

you got the make the decision. we can only advice you.....

take care. one last word. there are someone out there that trully deserved u....

#62 06-10-2005, 09:21 AM

Old one no go...
New one no come.....

Sometimes the new one ends up better then the old...

Lancer81 · #63 08-10-2005, 02:13 AM

Thanks for all the concern bros here.
Sigh....

druid · #64 09-10-2005, 05:55 AM

hey threadstarter,

patch back ONLY IF

1: you can be sure and she can be sure that such incident will NEVER happen again

2: you can be sure that you will NEVER bring this issue out during quarrels ie Forgive, FORGET & ACCEPT.

forgiving is not enough....forgetting and accepting is what will really heal the "mirror crack" and ensure that it will not crack again.....

think things thru carefully, logically and HONESTLY with yourself. i believe there are lotsa samsters here who would be willing to console u one way or the other.

take care and rem to be honest with urself

(your gf must be honest with u too la

) before deciding ya?

ballack99 · #65 09-10-2005, 11:05 AM

Bro Lancer, it is easy to forgive but difficult to forget. Don't go insane over this matter, time and other bonking will erase everything.

Men always have short memory, especially after few rounds of fresh meat.

Cheers dude.

#66 09-10-2005, 12:49 PM

Hi Bro Lancer,

My advice for you would be to break up with her. Because:

1. You will not be able to tolerate giving her full freedom in sex
Hot-wife/cuckolding scene is not for everyone. It takes a different kind of character to let go of the one you love to the extent that you allow her to have sex with others. I am 35 yrs old, brought up in the very liberal society of Germany, consider myself a "hardcore" in all matters related to sex - but I don't think I can handle that kind of thing either, if I'm in love with the gal.

2. You will not be able to forget her "transgression"
The fact that her revelation hurt you so much, shows that this will now leave a scar in your mind. You may forgive, but you will never forget. You will always view her with suspicion, even if she never looks at another guy ever in her life. This will ultimately lead to the two of you breaking up.

3. You will be restricting her freedom
She has tried free love (ONS, swing, whatever), and she seems to like it. That is why she complains that you restrict her. She has the right to live her life as she chooses. Your value system is not compatible with that lifestyle. So, even if you two patch up, it's not gonna last long.

This is the hard truth, brother. My heart goes out to you, but I don't think there is any hope left for the two of you.

There are no guilty parties here. Don't blame her. She did nothing wrong. Neither did you. But sometimes in our lives, we take foolish decisions that close doors behind us. She took one such foolish decision. The door is now firmly shut.

This will hurt for a while, bro. Then you'll get over it.

All I can offer you is - to take you cheonging with me to the devils, hook you up with a fabulous Russkiy chick (or aussie chick - they are awesome too), and let her fuck your brains out - if that would help you.

SassySammy · #67 09-10-2005, 02:25 PM

jus put yrself in her shoes in whatever u do.. It always takes 2 hands to clap.

It seems tt she's quite a reliant person, who needs lots of attention, which i think u cant really give. Look far, not jus now. If u really cant afford to give her attention, tlc, then i think u shud give it up and look for someone more independent and who will not look 4 attention elsewhere if her bf cant provide.
Then she can go look for a guy who can accompany her everyday, give her lots of attention etc.

biker_man · #68 10-10-2005, 05:26 PM

hey bro lancer81,

I hate to tell you this, but I think that your girl, has tasted the "forbidden fruit", and that the chances that both of you maintaining a serious relationship is slim.

like what bro "thefirstname" said, you both have incompatible vaule/belief systems. it will be hard for both to carry on.

sorry for u.

but no worries. fish in the ocean got so many. get yourself a babe, and you will be amazed at how fast the pain of heartache can fade away.

Coz thats what happening to me right now. got dumped and hurt by a good looking girl. But now I am with an absolute stunner (truly drop dead gorgeous)

jeronimo · #69 10-10-2005, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by biker_man

hey bro lancer81,

I hate to tell you this, but I think that your girl, has tasted the "forbidden fruit", and that the chances that both of you maintaining a serious relationship is slim.

like what bro "thefirstname" said, you both have incompatible vaule/belief systems. it will be hard for both to carry on.

sorry for u.

but no worries. fish in the ocean got so many. get yourself a babe, and you will be amazed at how fast the pain of heartache can fade away.

Coz thats what happening to me right now. got dumped and hurt by a good looking girl. But now I am with an absolute stunner (truly drop dead gorgeous)

Sr NG Biker_Man,

I am inclined to your thoughts on the fishes in the ocean theory.
But I rather NG Lancer take a look around and not to jump into yet another new venture again immediately. Because people who just got out of love may not be able to see and think logically and thus another love may be out of spite, revenge or just to soother the lonely soul?

It would be good if he can set himself free and look around, because like you had mentioned, there are plentiful of fishes in the ocean!

biker_man · #70 10-10-2005, 05:53 PM

i concur with you that if he (bro Lancer81) is looking for serious love, he should take things slowly. Bcos the chance of a rebound relationship is high and getting hurt again is higher.

however, expanding his social circle is not a bad idea

And having a few flings (mindless sex with babes), will clear the system and put things in perspective

The above is just a recommendation. (something I have done several times on separate occasions)

For other people, there will be different ways to deal with a broken relationship

1) mope around with a long face
2) drugs
3) alcohol
4) whoring
5) become a hermit
6) take up an interesting activity (kindly refer to points 1 to 4)

cheers

.

jeronimo · #71 10-10-2005, 06:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by biker_man

i concur with you that if he (bro Lancer81) is looking for serious love, he should take things slowly. Bcos the chance of a rebound relationship is high and getting hurt again is higher.

however, expanding his social circle is not a bad idea

And having a few flings (mindless sex with babes), will clear the system and put things in perspective

The above is just a recommendation. (something I have done several times on separate occasions)

For other people, there will be different ways to deal with a broken relationship

1) mope around with a long face
2) drugs
3) alcohol
4) whoring
5) become a hermit
6) take up an interesting activity (kindly refer to points 1 to 4)

cheers.

True, very true indeed.
The is an old Chinese saying - Even a hero may not be able to pass the ordeal with a pretty woman.
At the end, it will be himself to come to terms with himself with the help of peers and friends and select the path he prefers.

It is easier said then done because I had seen good friends de-moralised and taking up "interesting" activities except point 2

Cheers too

ahpaul25 · #72 10-10-2005, 06:11 PM

GIVE THAT MAN A TIGER!

snakehead · #73 13-10-2005, 06:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by biker_man

The above is just a recommendation. (something I have done several times on separate occasions)
For other people, there will be different ways to deal with a broken relationship
1) mope around with a long face
2) drugs
3) alcohol
4) whoring
5) become a hermit
6) take up an interesting activity (kindly refer to points 1 to 4)

bro biker_man.....wat u recommend for gal tat kenna dumped ?

Spent last night lending shoulder & listening ear to female friend tat kenna dumped. My frend is a very chiobu altho 30 liao but still got many suitors. She met this guy abt 6 mths ago and attracted to him but initially he show no interest in my frend. So she attended his class (he teach some activity) even tho she got no interest in the activity and used her skills to "attract" him... even went to BKK to pray at temple for him to be interested in her.

Then abt 3 mths ago... he started to show interest in her liao and when she is sure he kenna obsessed by her ..... she play "hard to get"..... but her planning soon backfire. When the guy cannot reach her..... he kept contacting her until she buay tahan feel like being harassed. She tell him to back off and he really did ! Now she regret liao coz he totally ignore her unless necessary in class..... Last night after class he sms her some advice even tho she was still there.....he could have told her face to face mah but choose to sms instead.... She got so upset she said she left the place as quickly as possible. Then she call me to tell this story n my shirt became wet from her tears. I damn jialat dun noe how to console her leh......so bro biker_man.....wat recommendation u got for her?

bro snakehead