The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[GhostRay]

Gal, Never try to understand them cos it will be MI part 4 for just even try.
I give up try to understand or know them. Everytime I think I understand them or know them, my plan will backfired straight back at my face. Making me back to square one. So now I follow instruction. What they want me to do, i follow. Seem shitty but at least there is peace & quiet for me as I grow older.

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by mantikore

A scenario for you guys to ponder and gimme some solutions :
If you are a gal, you are pregnant with your bf's baby; unplanned pregnancy. You've decided to keep the baby and go through the customary rites BUT not registering the marriage. What could be the possible reasons?? Would be good if the ladies in this forum give their views too.
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First thing first, it is against the law to have customary without filing the marriage.

[mantikore]

Originally Posted by Deep Blue

First thing first, it is against the law to have customary without filing the marriage.

even in m'sia?? she's a m'sian working here.

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by mantikore

This was told to me by a gal I liked and cared for a lot. She seems not too keen to proceed with the customary rites too but no choice.....

Dun assume that the gal likes you, and do not take such miscalculated risk. You do not benefit a single bit from it, and don't think she will appreciate your efforts.

She's a work permit holder in here, either she get ROM in here or back in her hometown. What's the point of going thru' customary ceremony, but no marital status given?

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by jintulan

Those two seems totally disconnected, aren't they?

I guess they were always meant to be opposing. If both agree, the world would be too nice a place.

Originally Posted by jintulan

you gonna miss him?

Nah... I'm more into Todd Macfarlane, Mikhael Silverstre, Jim Lee...

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

i understand how u feel..sometimes love make us do funny things..instead of protectin ourselves as we wld usually will..we keep letting pple hurt us..mayb all of us hv a hope tat the rainbow wld come after the rain tats why we keep goin back for more punishment

Sometimes I wonder if the heartbreak is what draws us back... Masochistic.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

waa...like tat also can lar? i guess if u believe in fate and destiny..tat mean u n her fate are not over yet..either mayb u owe her alot in previous life or tat someone up there has somethin in store for the 2 of u in future

I sure do hope it's the latter... but I don't see how that can happen. Anyway, life can be very unpredictable... you can plan for everything but not guarantee anything.

I was just telling her that maybe we'll be together at 80 yrs old... never know. It'll still be sweet but I warned her that sex may be out of the question then.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

bro..i seriously think tat ur story with the ger is like a love movie..even as outsiders readin ur story..i can feel ur sadness and hopelessness..i cant imagine how u can go thru all these

Yeah... my friends were saying that the script is still ongoing. I'm still trying to convince myself that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I guess I did bring this on to myself in a way. Afterall, I did choose not to marry her but someone else.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by surfer888

....... A few years later, she disappeared completely again and I located her in the States... then last week I caught sight of her twice crossing the streets in SG while I was driving....

... and her mum thought I was the crazy one.

i dont know if there's a better word to describe it, bt seems pretty apt that its more like a fling than anything else. if it was really love... then something's preculiar about her hoodini disappearance act.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Its a complicated affair (aren't all of them?) made worse with cultural and language differences, financial concerns, sex, drugs and violence (nah.. no drugs & violence)... with a dash of soju for that heady feeling.

.... now it sounds like a synopsis for something Sidney Sheldon wrote.

hahaha... perhaps even to the point where it'd make a good sequel to miami (mummy) vice... hehehe

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by mantikore

A scenario for you guys to ponder and gimme some solutions :
If you are a gal, you are pregnant with your bf's baby; unplanned pregnancy. You've decided to keep the baby and go through the customary rites BUT not registering the marriage. What could be the possible reasons?? Would be good if the ladies in this forum give their views too.

This was told to me by a gal I liked and cared for a lot. She seems not too keen to proceed with the customary rites too but no choice..... Asked her why and she gave me a shitty load of excuses. I really can't fathom her reasons for doing so... Is it because her feelings for the husband-to-be has gone with the wind or is it because of me? I hope it's not second reason because although I really like her a lot and she knows it but I would want her to give the marriage a try before giving it up. Is it crazy/weird of me to think this way??? I know she likes me too but currently I can't promise her anything until I settled my side of things.
Losing sleep over this now

sorry to hear about your scenario, but if i may... she's gonna be a the losing end if she's not going thru to legalize the marriage. cos the child will be deemed ilegitimate, and she'd be in for more troubles of financial, putting the kid thru education, getting subsidies...etc.

food for thought, if the husband-to-be decides to go on a disappearing act, would you shoulder the responsibility...?

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

i dont know if there's a better word to describe it, bt seems pretty apt that its more like a fling than anything else. if it was really love... then something's preculiar about her hoodini disappearance act.

That's what I think as well. She treats me as the regular fling she has when she wants it... just me being a dumbass to keep falling head over heels.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by surfer888

That's what I think as well. She treats me as the regular fling she has when she wants it... just me being a dumbass to keep falling head over heels.

sigh.... maybe its time u learn to take it easy.... reciprocate in a manner befitting of the situation.

[GhostRay]

Originally Posted by surfer888

That's what I think as well. She treats me as the regular fling she has when she wants it... just me being a dumbass to keep falling head over heels.

I can understand that. I keep telling myself to keep away from my ex-gf. Keep telling myself no matter what they do like call me or sms or email me, I die die dun wanna go out with her. She keep using the excuse of the last date (I forget how many LAST date we went out already). Every time we went out, we behave like long lost lover. After the date end, I went home & keep regreting it.

Now I wish to really have a clean break before really getting out of control.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by GhostRay

I can understand that. I keep telling myself to keep away from my ex-gf. Keep telling myself no matter what they do like call me or sms or email me, I die die dun wanna go out with her. She keep using the excuse of the last date (I forget how many LAST date we went out already). Every time we went out, we behave like long lost lover. After the date end, I went home & keep regreting it.

Now I wish to really have a clean break before really getting out of control.

Similar situation, just that she is not an ex and has not mentioned last date. Anyway, I always look forward to going out with her even though I know it does not last... enjoy while the sun shines. After umpteen times of heartbreak, the only thing I've learnt is not to take it too hard and enjoy my moments with her whenever available.