Life Story to Share - Difficult Times

[Chanelfingers]

DEAR TS,
Has She given birth?
You mentioned "Human milk"
Have you done a paternity test?

Dun hurt your family for the woman outside.
It is not worth it.
She may be a good lover and a good colleague.
As a wife, she may fail and you will lose the all.
Eat Out dun tabao home!!

As a Woman, I'll let you know what she is thinking...
She feels miserable and lonely when she knows you are with your family, your wife.
She wish someone else who shower her with love, making her feel wanted at same time while you are with family.
That is her Part time lover/BF.

She doesnt have the marital status, only passion from you.
Everyone wished to have a complete family. You have one, She has none.

She doesnt have wealth, Maybe that's why she is hinting you to give her money.
Money isnt everything but in events of bad health , bad times...Money is very Important.
With Money you have Choices, without Money Bo Bianz...

She has to raise a child .
Money will certainly Bring up the child Easier

I am not sure how old is the child.
But He/She will soon learn mom is a mistress.
The Child may be accustomed and choose to bury the fact.
0r grow to lose respect for the mother.
Maybe that is on her mind, maybe i think too much...
what adults are able to comprehend, Kids can too...

Her age is increasing.
As a woman, She will feel insecure, Unspoken but definitely their concerns.
How many years can she be your mistress?
Not long later, a Younger, Prettier and sexier gal joins your conpany?

She will age and grow wrinkles, she will lose her role as a mistress.
Will you be there caring for her when she is sick and old?
Who will be the one who would grow old with her and by her side?
You would have your wife...she has no husband.
SHe has a child, but you should know Love from a soulmate is different from one of a child.

She needs the money cus end of day, she will not have the man.

Just sharing some thoughts...

[AudiKoupA5]

Originally Posted by Chanelfingers

DEAR TS,
Has She given birth?
You mentioned "Human milk"
Have you done a paternity test?

Dun hurt your family for the woman outside.
It is not worth it.
She may be a good lover and a good colleague.
As a wife, she may fail and you will lose the all.
Eat Out dun tabao home!!

As a Woman, I'll let you know what she is thinking...
She feels miserable and lonely when she knows you are with your family, your wife.
She wish someone else who shower her with love, making her feel wanted at same time while you are with family.
That is her Part time lover/BF.

She doesnt have the marital status, only passion from you.
Everyone wished to have a complete family. You have one, She has none.

She doesnt have wealth, Maybe that's why she is hinting you to give her money.
Money isnt everything but in events of bad health , bad times...Money is very Important.
With Money you have Choices, without Money Bo Bianz...

She has to raise a child .
Money will certainly Bring up the child Easier

I am not sure how old is the child.
But He/She will soon learn mom is a mistress.
The Child may be accustomed and choose to bury the fact.
0r grow to lose respect for the mother.
Maybe that is on her mind, maybe i think too much...
what adults are able to comprehend, Kids can too...

Her age is increasing.
As a woman, She will feel insecure, Unspoken but definitely their concerns.
How many years can she be your mistress?
Not long later, a Younger, Prettier and sexier gal joins your conpany?

She will age and grow wrinkles, she will lose her role as a mistress.
Will you be there caring for her when she is sick and old?
Who will be the one who would grow old with her and by her side?
You would have your wife...she has no husband.
SHe has a child, but you should know Love from a soulmate is different from one of a child.

She needs the money cus end of day, she will not have the man.
Just sharing some thoughts...

Dear Chanel,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. True enough, wat you had mention n pointed out was wat she had told me before. Ultimately, she just need someone who can give her a definate future, take care of her, love n dote her. I did mention to her, if she found someone, she can just go with a peace of mind. I wish her well. But she told me this is not wat she WAN. Like wat you mention, she hope to finda Bf (pt or ft), but she will not give up on me. It's gng to be more complicated, more ppl will get hurt. Wat will happened when her bf discovered our discreet relationship? Dun think anybody can take it.
Dear Chanel, tell me wat you do n how to move on. We know eventually, we will part.

[maulsg]

Originally Posted by AudiKoupA5

Dear Chanel,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. True enough, wat you had mention n pointed out was wat she had told me before. Ultimately, she just need someone who can give her a definate future, take care of her, love n dote her. I did mention to her, if she found someone, she can just go with a peace of mind. I wish her well. But she told me this is not wat she WAN. Like wat you mention, she hope to finda Bf (pt or ft), but she will not give up on me. It's gng to be more complicated, more ppl will get hurt. Wat will happened when her bf discovered our discreet relationship? Dun think anybody can take it.
Dear Chanel, tell me wat you do n how to move on. We know eventually, we will part.

u r supporting her current financial situation leh, of cos she will tell u she dun wanna leave u lah.. cut off the financial support n see how she will react.
she is just being a greedy bitch lah, having a fish in the net while waiting for other bigger fish to come by only. (hmm.. aint we all like tat too?)

[Chanelfingers]

Originally Posted by AudiKoupA5

Dear Chanel,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. True enough, wat you had mention n pointed out was wat she had told me before. Ultimately, she just need someone who can give her a definate future, take care of her, love n dote her. I did mention to her, if she found someone, she can just go with a peace of mind. I wish her well. But she told me this is not wat she WAN. Like wat you mention, she hope to finda Bf (pt or ft), but she will not give up on me. It's gng to be more complicated, more ppl will get hurt. Wat will happened when her bf discovered our discreet relationship? Dun think anybody can take it.
Dear Chanel, tell me wat you do n how to move on. We know eventually, we will part.

Tell her getting a divorce and marrying her is impossible cus the alimony and hassle will make u half as Rich...
And you dun wish to see your child grow up with another man(stepdad)
End up twisted like Chanel...
You mentioned u wish her well but truth is u will have emotional attachments and u will not bear to see her leave. Similarly for her, she will not be able to find a gd man and marry.
If u want to be responsible to your family... Leave this mistress once u r done...or when u found next gal...
The money u give her is all she had when u leave her... Cus looks like she will lose her job with ur company too( that is the clean way to break)
So dun complain about $$$...
If u feel too expensive, then use FL / WL etc...
I'm always siding family cus I understand there is wife and children.

[DapHn33333]

Dear TS, actually you sound like a fresh crab.

Seller bought some fresh crabs and keep them in the tank. they are fresh with fat meat and it sell highest price. However if u keep them too long they will be less meat or shall i say nothing to eat for the crabs. once the seller notice there is some crabs left in the tank for 2 weeks or more, they sell at the low price which so call promotion once u have a bite u know.

what i trying to tell you that is, u give her all the financial support. she use u or shall i say she "NEED" you. once u stop giving her money. she will let u go like selling u away in a low price. She can find others BIG MEAT to provide her.

hope u tell her and settle all the issue and just stop giving her money.

[jjtiew]

Bro u really not steady n very stupid... Having fb, fling, ons, pros all normal... Look at yourself u happily married with kids... Do u have the right to angry with her when she is meeting guy outside? R u too selfish? U only think of yourself only...she still a human need love n family....can u marry her...let me tell u NO WAY... Let me tell u a short story... I done that with my ex colleague, but before everything started I make it very clear ,
1- she can go out with any guy n need not report to me...
2-make clear I will not divorce because of her
3-I never say I love u to another women other than my own wife
4-can't disturb me after office hr
5- can't ask for money or gift
6-we do it just because both have a need
7-if unlucky get caught...died died never sabo each...never never admit we have sex before


Before started she say
1- I don't mine to be 3rd party - I scolded her n say stupid
2- always wan to be my mistress - as above
3-she love me - as above

I am a straight forward guy, can't meet my require don't cum out n play..I rather visit pros...paid n go ...


Bros u going too far Liao, just let her go, trust me someday u will suffer more than her n hurt your own family...

Look " she really got nothing to lose but u will lose everything......

[blohsg]

C/F : not twisted ... maybe scarred ... but still good

well ... you're neither here nor there ... so make it clear so that it's not so grey.

Hope you can move on from here.

[Chanelfingers]

Originally Posted by blohsg

Chanel : not twisted ... maybe scarred ...

Twarted concepts of relationships
Fear of marriage commitments
Adnormally Unfazed by bad situations
Tactless, blatant, stubborn, impatience
Still a flawed character

[AudiKoupA5]

Originally Posted by Chanelfingers

Twarted concepts of relationships
Fear of marriage commitments
Adnormally Unfazed by bad situations
Tactless, blatant, stubborn, impatience
Still a flawed character

CF, tank you for the advise, not forgetting all bros who have shared their personal view., thanks to chinchiahoe n boinking for the concern n also up my pts. Greatly appreciated. I will return favour, if I had the opportunity , someday ; )Like u mention, once emotional attachment is involved, things are not tat simple anymore. It is difficult to fuck n forget
t - we hve been doing regularly for a peroid of time. And also all the stuffs we hve done n sacrifices for each other, no doubts, there is some hiccup. It's really complicated n stressful.She also understand my position, as a father n husband, she will never break up my family.She dun want my child to gone through wat her son is facing now. She just keep n suffer in silently, like u say, someday, she can't tahan anymore n she will decided to give up on me. In summary, it's a mistaken n wrong for us to start this relationship. I will relook at everything n hope for a amicable ending, if possible.

[toilet]

No money no talk

[LoveAngel]

Originally Posted by AudiKoupA5

..... Like u mention, once emotional attachment is involved, things are not tat simple anymore. It is difficult to fuck n forget ..... it's a mistaken n wrong for us to start this relationship. I will relook at everything n hope for a amicable ending, if possible.

Yes, it's not easy to forget once emotional attachments are involved, unless both parties are strong & 'sensible' enough to know where the line is & stick to your side of the game.

I always believe, never start what you cannot finish. But since it has started, be careful how you end it. Have a good talk & find an amicable solution for both parties to abide by.

Whatever it is, just never be a 'bastard' in how you handle the breakup ... if you know what I mean.
Remember, hell knows no fury like a woman's scorned ......
Do it slowly if you must
Ease it gently if possible
Let it die off if it can
But if it has to be a quick death, then please be as humane as possible, & not be a 'bastard' about it.


“It’s not where you start – it’s where & how you finish that counts.”

[Yardstick]

Bro, what you need to know, you already know. And that is to understand that your relationship with her can never outlast the one you have with your wife, unless you choose to end it.

As for her part, i think it is time for you stop contacting her that much. Yes, you are both in the same company. But you can still minimise contact with her in the company and outside. Stop having sex with her. Stop meeting her one-to-one. Let her realise that she has to learn to let go and move on if she finds a man suitable for her. Not someone like you who can only give her momentary love and money to fill her physical and material needs.

As you have mentioned, she comes from a divorced family, not just herself but also her parents. There is a strong possibility that she also looks to you as a fatherly character at the same time who can take care of her.

You two really should sit down and talk it out calmly instead of always ending up with her in tears and you relenting. It is going to be a neverending cycle. You may want to consider bringing her to a psychiatrist or counsellor to help her walk out of your relationship and start anew. You end even want to consider a close friend, if there is any who knows what is going on between you two.

At the end of the day, remember that sometimes, we do things we regret for life. But while you still have a chance to change the ending or lessen the impact, do it.

Good luck, Bro.

[AudiKoupA5]

One year later........

In life, changes are the only constant. Just want to update you guys who have been giving me your utmost sincere suggestion.

Finally, we parted. Everything ended amicably. Life goes on for us. She's in a relationship now, with someone junior then her (regular in the SAF, not earning much though) . But i hope she is happy now, as she found someone who love her son and can take care of her and give her a proper family life.

We only see each other in facebook, dun sms or contact each other now.

As for me, i am back to myself, spending most of my time with my beautiful daughter and cheekie son, not to forget, my wife. Career is stable. Life is now peaceful and less stressful. Though, less excitement and outdoor sex. HA...

Specially Thanks - Bro Yardstick & Chanel. Cheers.

[BoinKING]

Alls well that ends well.

I think given the ordeal, you can be cheeky with wifey and fire up the romance..

[z123z]

Originally Posted by AudiKoupA5

One year later........

In life, changes are the only constant. Just want to update you guys who have been giving me your utmost sincere suggestion.

Finally, we parted. Everything ended amicably. Life goes on for us. She's in a relationship now, with someone junior then her (regular in the SAF, not earning much though) . But i hope she is happy now, as she found someone who love her son and can take care of her and give her a proper family life.

We only see each other in facebook, dun sms or contact each other now.

As for me, i am back to myself, spending most of my time with my beautiful daughter and cheekie son, not to forget, my wife. Career is stable. Life is now peaceful and less stressful. Though, less excitement and outdoor sex. HA...

Specially Thanks - Bro Yardstick & Chanel. Cheers.

Alot of people are in your shoes. Surprised that the comments you received are the right ones. When you are into "it", you don't see as well. Not easy but eventually you managed it well. Next step, A6?