How many is here because you are sexually frustrated?

[big dick]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Married men with wives and children are banned from this site.

This forum is for unmarried/unattached cheongsters only.

Originally Posted by obelisk

boss woke up on wrong side of bed this morning....
if boss banned all the rest, sbf would lose more than half of its population...

boss.. like that i cant surf sammyboy.com any more le since u banning Married men with wives and children..


bd

[beingunknown200]

Originally Posted by scasi

Dunno what wrong with me?? Sometimes spend a lot of time wandering, is it that i have finish my desire in life in early days???? Where i fuck every day??Or is it because i have a daughter and scared of retribution??!!

What an interesting way to put things!Maybe you might have too much time to think about unnecessary things..but you might be right to say that you are scared of retribution. Actually sometimes when I see some bros flaming or insulting some FL/WL or their gfs/wives..or the way they treat them, 我的心里一寒. For all that they may know, some bro may be having a fling with their gfs/wives (hopefully not with their daughters!) and treating them like shit or just a sex object.

But then I respect those bros who are in hotwife/swinging lifestyle and have rules set out to have fun together with their wives/gfs. Think for those I can still accept if they dont lead the typical marriage lifestyle.

Guess not all the bros here can have a good match with a good sex partner and a good wife/mother. Haha hence need to come here to find that "prefect match". Anyway there is another thread that has a similar topic to this thread...except its "how long did you not have sex with your...". From there can understand the frustration of our bros and surprisingly our (horny) sis as well

[bunny]

Well my sharing:

Whiel studying
1 time a week - cos' I am holed up all the way in Jurong (u can guess where) so she visit me once a week there.

Then when start working and not yet married .. maybe 1-2 times a week when we get to see each other.

After married ... still about 1 time week.

Then kids come ... somehow it stretch to 2time s a mth or even 1 time a mth
cos' sway sway kena period then cannot.

Anyway mostly same routine of making love etc.

At one pt in time making love was important ... not getting can change my mood seriously ... and also expectign and hoping for it and then not getting it really got me frustrated.

At the end of the day ... i still love her ... and she gae me many beautiful kids ... so the only thing was the love making (I call sex since shorter ... but actually it is more than sex).

So how to get over it ... not easy.
No matter how I try ... not easy ... PCC etc... go to geylang etc.

BUt i think the important part is not to let the "mood" drag me down. WHen that happens ... I call the freindly OKT, my regulars or go shopping in GL ... hahahaha. If I am unfortunate ... then I will look forward to the alternatives.

From the lady's persepctive (not taking sides), but all that I read ... I also got about the same feedback. SO the reality I believe is that it is indeed true. Except that our urge so strong that we get "blinded" by our own needs. So the advice is to spare some thot for the poor wife. It is indeed tough for her ... cos after work somehow she will still think of the cooking, the washign up , the kids, the supermarket shopping, when need to go to the wet market. Got enuf food left inthe cupboard or fridge .. got bread or not ...etc. etc... so her mind is so busy that she is tired.

Well one trick about it ... through out the week ... give her simpe hugs and kisses, send an occassional SMS to say the u love her ot think about her etc. Spend time to just listen and put your arms aorund her (without attacking her breast ... hahahahah ... that happen to me too) ... when you do enuf of this ...then she will be more likely to be inthe mood. It is no guarantee that it will improve but the chances are there that the frequency will be better.

So now from 1-2 times a mth.. it is abot 3-4 times a mth ... hahahaha. On some unfortunate mths it is 2 times.

Just sharing. In the end those who are stuck inthe situation ... maybe this may help. So just summarising:
- don't "expect" to have sex each time you get close
- if the urge is so strong and you still dun get it from wife ... then go look for alternatives.
- sedn nice SMS to her
- give her nice hugs ...and kisses without the "follow-up" hahaha
- listen to her "complaisn" at work
- be more helpful around the house

I dun intend to leave my wife ... so I have to find a postivei way around it. The above is my own way of resolving the problem. Hope the sharign will be of some use to those reading.
Cheers

[primalhunter]

Hi bros and sis, something came to my mind and I think that this would provide a good spin to the title of this thread. Has the level of sex gone down as the years go by be more to do with the reducing sex appeal of your spouse over the years? And that being tired, frustrated from work and all that jazz just a cover?

Again let me start off by relating my own story. Before I was married, I was this strongly built, athletic guy. Very active in sports and games. OK in the looks department. But a few years back, I had this football injury that, well to put it simply, retired me permanent from most games. And with age, some of us tend to put on some weight. I did. Almost 15kilos, actually. Now, my wife, on the other hand, who has always been the slim type, after giving birth to our son, quickly got back her figure.

This is bordering on paranoia, I know, but is my flabby appearance now, the reason for her to be so put off by sex with me???

This happens to both guys and gals. Gals may find it hard to return to their size XS clothing after a baby or two. Do you think your hubby is put off by your appearance?

Some gals here might have some input to this argument. Sigh.... I may open another bigger wound here.. but again, curiosity...

[bunny]

Bro Primal,
Ithink u raised a good request.... we need to know where the wound is before we can treat it. We dun like the pain ... but no pain no gain I guess.
Hahahaha... this response is best from our lady members here. But dun know if they will be reading. Cheers :-)

Oh ... my input ... I dun think that it is the looks ... but it is the whole thing that matters ... at this pt in time it is making love to her mind I think that drives her rather than the looks .... but this can only be verified by our lady members.

[SexFreak]

Originally Posted by bunny

Just sharing. In the end those who are stuck inthe situation ... maybe this may help. So just summarising:
- don't "expect" to have sex each time you get close
- if the urge is so strong and you still dun get it from wife ... then go look for alternatives.
- sedn nice SMS to her
- give her nice hugs ...and kisses without the "follow-up" hahaha
- listen to her "complaisn" at work
- be more helpful around the house

Absolutely Positive !!! I am sure it works .........


Cheers !!!

[durex]

sexually frustrated? gusess every thing have its way in life,its part of living,just need to extend family life to another level i gusess
i'm here because this is the only and most exciting local sex site around,so many good bros around sure can find one or two friends to click

[asdfghjkl]

Hope brothers can help me on this one:

- send nice SMS to her

She keeps her HP off unless she wants to use it. Wants to save battery.

- give her nice hugs ...and kisses without the "follow-up" hahaha

She do not like being hugged. Already like this during courtship.

- listen to her "complaisn" at work

She is the quiet type, even to me. Like to bottle everything up and one day explode.

- be more helpful around the house

I am the one doing all the housework. She comes home just to sleep.

[primalhunter]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

Hope brothers can help me on this one:

- send nice SMS to her

She keeps her HP off unless she wants to use it. Wants to save battery.

- give her nice hugs ...and kisses without the "follow-up" hahaha

She do not like being hugged. Already like this during courtship.

- listen to her "complaisn" at work

She is the quiet type, even to me. Like to bottle everything up and one day explode.

- be more helpful around the house

I am the one doing all the housework. She comes home just to sleep.

Wow Bro, raw deal this one! I think you need to think about your own well being more now. Looks like this seriously is one way traffic. She has really taken you for granted! My suggestion maybe a little extreme but I think she needs to be reminded that you are not always there, get wat i mean. Go out more, don't be the one home waiting for her to come back. If she calls and ask where you are, say you are busy, with someone( don't specify who that someone unless you need to) and STOP cleaning the house!

Basically, give her a taste of her own medicine. Switch of your phone too. See if she reacts in a panick. If she does, you are half way there. In other words, act like BO CHAP!!

Word of caution though. Before you do this, you need to evaluate your position in the relationship. Like, does she really care for you anymore? If she does not, sigh.... sorry bro, you can't take this route unless you wanna break with her.

I have done this b4. Worked well but for short term only because i can't bear to see her hurt.

Lastly, love is not fair, bro. In some relationships, the bro is in control, in others, the bor!

Good luck.

[bunny]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

Hope brothers can help me on this one:

- send nice SMS to her

She keeps her HP off unless she wants to use it. Wants to save battery.

- give her nice hugs ...and kisses without the "follow-up" hahaha

She do not like being hugged. Already like this during courtship.

- listen to her "complaisn" at work

She is the quiet type, even to me. Like to bottle everything up and one day explode.

- be more helpful around the house

I am the one doing all the housework. She comes home just to sleep.

Bro asdfghjkl (never realised your nick so easy to type hahaha :-) ),
I think a way to appraoch your case is really the communications. My theory is as follows:
Comms is about the feelings. If dun +++ then got problem knowing what the person realy feels and so sooner or later sure hit the trip falre and activate the claymore mine ...kapooow ... argue etc. So the first part is realy how to +++ and share feelings. If somehow cannot then one good way is to write to her how you feel. Remember write your feelings and dun accuse her of anything else the letter go into the lap-sup-tong. I can go like .."when you came home yesterday and were upset, I felt lost and alone and did nto know how to appraoch you to talk ..."

So this way you can let her know what and how you feel. You can at the end suggest that if she has difficulty talking about it, then she can write her feelings.

Theroy is that when both understand each other better, then you can decide what you want to do about it ... if you respond caringly, then you will begin to build the trust. However if you dun respond to it positively then the other person may take it as "see I share and then nothing happens" and then the trust breaks down. Ussualy this sort fo "training" is done by both, but now only 1 person (YOU), so you have to be patient and "teach" your partner a little about this theory so that he/she responds correctly. Be patient. Good things will be rewarded, but must be patient and TONG! ahahaha.

Well the theory works ... for me at least. Almost divorced or at least live separate lives as married couple. But after we practice this the relationship gets better. Almost no quarrel after a few years of practice ... hahahah :-) yah a few years ... it takes time for the trust to be rebuilt. It has made life better, love making more ... but not as much as I would like ... but better than before lah.

Well Love is about giving and not taking or expecting something in return.
That of course is my own personal view and it has helped me change my mindset and able to accept the situation. I look to enjoy the cup half-full rather than agonise voer the cup half-empty.

Cheers hope the sharing will be of some help.

[bonkers17]

Originally Posted by primalhunter

Hi guys and gals,
Been around for many years now but never really started a thread of my own. The reason for this thread is purely out of curiosity. I have seen threads asking about whether bros and sis here belief in true love to whether u married the person u love most. I have a theory that most of us here, are here because of sexual frustrations. Its either you are not getting any from the gf or wifes, or that it is a one way traffic thing. Or it is not as good as it used to be.

These and other sex related reasons may be the force that drives us here to FANTASY LAND aka sammyboyforum.

My confession. I am one such person. My grouse is that sex with my wife is, well, boring after the birth of our son. Married for 4 years now. Her concept is that, we are now parents, so must behave. I can't remember the last time she initiate sex anymore. Now when i ask, she will give all sorts of excuses. When she gives in, its usually because she felt obliged to service me, spread her legs and say do it quickly. No variations. straight missionary. worse still, while u are at it, she will ask, why so long, not yet finish har?

This is the same woman who loved blowjob when we first started. Now, dirty laa.... Also forbids me to go down on her... same reason, dirty laaa...

So, here i m frustrated, but thanks to sammyboy, i can relieve myself with the good stuff here.

Any bros and sis here care to support my theory or tear it down, please feel free to do so.

Bro by opening this thread u really opening my wound man pal!!!! Same situation like you. B4 married fucking good sex life. BJ, HJ, wild sex......as long we meet sure at least 1 time, go holiday 4 times a day. Now married have kid sex life from once a month to zero kosong time a month. Reasons given tired looking after baby and work. Like your case she like oblige to me. Dont enjoy doing it. Worst still i also never ask anymore fact that i know the answer is a straight big NO..... now hiaz.....want to let go is either ask Miss Righty or pay money to release...wish we can go back to the good old erotic days...make love in the shower and such.....i dont ask for more once a week 3 times month( 1 week for period) . thats all i ask for really....

[primalhunter]

Happy to see that bros here really have good intentions to help out fellow bro. Now, bro asdfghjk got 2 suggestions to try. good luck.

[Deltaboy55]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

Hope brothers can help me on this one:

- send nice SMS to her

She keeps her HP off unless she wants to use it. Wants to save battery.

- give her nice hugs ...and kisses without the "follow-up" hahaha

She do not like being hugged. Already like this during courtship.

- listen to her "complaisn" at work

She is the quiet type, even to me. Like to bottle everything up and one day explode.

- be more helpful around the house

I am the one doing all the housework. She comes home just to sleep.

Just passed by and I spotted your posting. Can you elaborate further on how you actually want to be helped? Looks to me that you are the one who is giving more in this relationship. Are you happy with the status quo? Cos, if you are, there is really nothing more you can possibly do short of doing even her laundry. If you are not happy, then you really have a problem on your hands trying to undo all the things you have been doing to please her.

[dna_gene]

Originally Posted by whitegals

So one day i said to her straight, if we're not gonna fuck, then dun complain or get in the way should i go out and fuck someone else. She didn't believe me, so I did and she moved out. Now I'm living with a gal who loves sex and football.... brilliant!

Now this is truly what we men called... "LUCKY BASTARD!" ^_^

[shaunting77]

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