Need Help! My bf's secret fetish on women's undies.....

[Xgenre]

I think he's sick to steal panties. Will he steal panties from the neighbouring granny? I doubt so right? Of cos he's interested in the neighbours. If the lady isn't attractive to him, i don't think he will steal her stuff.

It's right that you decide to take a step back and re-look the entire relationship. There are better guys out there who aren't sickos. Imagine him being the father of your sons. Your sons will probably learn from him and be sickos too.

[tanhockgin]

Hi Jazz,

Dun be alarmed. The phenomena is natural among men. If you believe in evolution. Then you realized that we are not far from out four legged friends. They sniff each others' butt and hole all the time. The reason they do that is the scent from the opp sex and the area involve contain a lot of pheromones. This attracts one another.

Second, the sense of smell is the most powerful tool. Its stronger than vision and auditory. Till date, you sense of smell can trigger encounters and incidents that happen when you are a child. And in your mind recreate the environment, e.g. When you are ill , you are fed chicken soup. Hence, the smell of chicken soup brings comfort to you. Same as a pair of panties. The musky odour triggers pleasure and fantasies for your bf.

Lastly, dun panic if you do not like him stealing others. He probably doesnt want you to be suspicious of all that missing lingerie. Instead talk to him. You dun seem to mind his fetish with your undergarments. He is lucky. Tell him that you dun mind and make it fun. Let him sniff your undies in front of you and encourage him. Make him high. This reassures him. Then tell him you dun want him stealing others. He will respect you for it. Then go spend his money with him choosing for more adventurous lingerie. You make it fun and everyone is happy. You snap and he retreats and now the deed goes undergound and you have a pervert on your hands. The choice is yours.

Cheers,
THG

[Johnston]

Originally Posted by jaz99

I am living together with him and he has full access to my collection of g-strings and panties.
Some which I have already stopped wearing, he could have taken it and I wouldn't have noticed it.

I think he doesn't want to use mine in the 1st place.
I also had the thought that he secretly admired our neighbour but he denied and he kept asking me to forgive him. I'm really confused. I need to know what he is thinking but he wouldn't tell me. .

Full access to anything is really fun for a time, but it gets stale after a while.

You'll need to do a few steps.
Talk to him nicely and ask him WHY her and not YOU.
Do that self smell test i mentioned, as it could be your scent that isn't appealing to him. (its not a joke and im not trying to be funny)
If it is your scent that isnt nice you have to fix it. Wash, douche, and maybe see a doctor.
Try to incorporate underwear into your sex life more, if you aren't already.

[superchevy]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

I think he's sick to steal panties. Will he steal panties from the neighbouring granny? I doubt so right? Of cos he's interested in the neighbours. If the lady isn't attractive to him, i don't think he will steal her stuff.

It's right that you decide to take a step back and re-look the entire relationship. There are better guys out there who aren't sickos. Imagine him being the father of your sons. Your sons will probably learn from him and be sickos too.

you are right bro ups u.....

[jaz99]

Originally Posted by Johnston

Full access to anything is really fun for a time, but it gets stale after a while.

You'll need to do a few steps.
Talk to him nicely and ask him WHY her and not YOU.
Do that self smell test i mentioned, as it could be your scent that isn't appealing to him. (its not a joke and im not trying to be funny)
If it is your scent that isnt nice you have to fix it. Wash, douche, and maybe see a doctor.
Try to incorporate underwear into your sex life more, if you aren't already.

Yes, he has full access but he just doesn't want to use mine. I am very particular about the hygiene down there and I'm sure I do not smell bad. And I dun think he stole it because of the smell though I don't cross out this point, coz the panties are all washed. Washed panties still got smell meh? Then y he dun take my washed panties? I think either he like the neighbour or he got something wrong in the head and jus like to wear girl's undies. But no matter how I asked he still say no, but still won't tell me what he is thinking while wearing it to PCC. This is sickening.

[jaz99]

Originally Posted by sex crusader

PCC???U sure learn fast in the man's world!

Ya, I've been an avid reader of the sammy boy forum for quite sometime even though I am a girl. I am chinese ma, PCC is the dialect of mastubate "Pak Chew Cheng". Now you know girls do read sammyboy forum too so dun let your gf caught you writing about her.

[jaz99]

I hate him. I hate him for doing all these and ruining the trust I had for him. This is not the 1st time I found out already. I know he will not change. I hate him for causing hurt to me and make me try very hard to let go of this relationship and also make me have phobia to go into another relationship again.

[yang punk]

Dear Jaz

Don't over react lah...sometimes we men have all kinds weird fetishes and do all kinds of crazy things (to women at least) to satisfy our sexual cravings...

Very often it's just an experimental phase in our life and we grow out of it after a while.

Surely whilst living with him you do have a better opportunity to know whether he has been fucking around. If he has not and if this is just his panty fetish... then why not humour him and play along with him? Have abit of kinky sex with him to spice up your and his sex lives. Offer your panties and g-strings to him...let him wear YOUR gs to work and at the end of the day bet you he'll be so horny he'll fuck you crazy!

Don't be so serious lah... loosen up abit and life will be more fun!

[CCLL]

Hi jaz.

Need to note that, action of steal get person in the excitement.on top of the G-string.
heart bits pump faster.not getting catch. even bring the excitement further.
the enjoyment is difference.i taking stand in the shoe of that person. think about it.Once a while,doing that will not made the life bore. but back fire are not good. Is a crime.

That why some event of affair is happen. Happen secretly. The feel of guilt are good. Too many samter story been read.

If your lingery can be access easy.that missing out the excitement he need to felt on.

Do made a clear cut,sit down with him.
Ask him for a frank talk for a while what in his mind of this habits.

If not, you may join along the act. Get one of the undie for him in surprise.
speacially for him or ask him watch you carry out the act for him. Please bare in mind is a crime to do that , if catch will has jail term.

[bochapsing]

Originally Posted by jaz99

I hate him. I hate him for doing all these and ruining the trust I had for him. This is not the 1st time I found out already. I know he will not change. I hate him for causing hurt to me and make me try very hard to let go of this relationship and also make me have phobia to go into another relationship again.

Originally Posted by Xgenre

There are better guys out there who aren't sickos.

ts, since u reach this stage of "hate him"... then there's nothing we can advise u except to dump him and look for a new guy..

as bro xgene said, there're plenty of "normal" and better guys around...

[Sangrawi]

"I hate him. I hate him for doing all these and ruining the trust I had for him. This is not the 1st time I found out already. I know he will not change. I hate him for causing hurt to me and make me try very hard to let go of this relationship and also make me have phobia to go into another relationship again."

I think you are way over-reacting la...

Have you every wonder why there are so many lingerie shops nowadays. In fact, at every shopping centre, you can see Eros, E2, Mimos, Triumph, La Senze etc.

Most women buy sexy lingerie to feed the fantasies of men.

I think you bf just have some unrealised fantasies that he is trying to fulfill and not getting it from you. You shoudl try final out what they are and help realised it with and for him. That is the best way to steer him out of trouble.

Please remember that not all fetish lovers are perverts. In fact, many of us who have fetishes (my is also lingerie) are also responsible and caring bfs, husbands, fathers, sons etc

You should not just blame your bf but also look at yourself if you have any failing too. If you think it is solely his fault, then break up with him lor but don't use that as an excuse for relationbship phobia.

That is so pathetic.

[77guy]

Originally Posted by jaz99

Yes, he has full access but he just doesn't want to use mine. I am very particular about the hygiene down there and I'm sure I do not smell bad. And I dun think he stole it because of the smell though I don't cross out this point, coz the panties are all washed. Washed panties still got smell meh? Then y he dun take my washed panties? I think either he like the neighbour or he got something wrong in the head and jus like to wear girl's undies. But no matter how I asked he still say no, but still won't tell me what he is thinking while wearing it to PCC. This is sickening.

I think reason why he choose others panties and not urs is simple, all men are alike, what they can get easily does not give the 'kick' or exciment compare to what they cant have...so since he's ur bf, he's able to do the real
deed wif you like lickin you and get all ur smell from the actual source, he wont want ur panties, whereas for other gals which dun belong to him, he get 'high' by doing to their panties. Just my two cents worth...

[iluvhandjobs]

Wah Lao, I need to get in on this discussion!

Basically, jaz99' boyfriend is a guy who is into Transvestic fetishism. That sounds damn cheem, but actually, it just means he likes to wear feminine, intimate clothing. According to wikipedia.

Some male transvestic fetishists collect women's clothing, e.g. nightgowns, babydolls, slips, and other types of nightwear, lingerie, stockings and pantyhose, items of a distinct feminine look and feel. They may dress in these feminine garments and take photographs of themselves while living out their secret fantasies.
According to the DSM-IV, this fetishism has been described only in men and, more specifically, only in men sexually attracted to women (i.e., otherwise straight or bisexual men)

So no worries. Your bf is NOT gay. However, he is a certifiable, 100% perv. Just stop him from stealing other women's underwear. Just go buy from over the internet or get from your sister/mother/aunt/girlfriend. Mmmmm...

[sequence79]

Fetish for women's panties new, or worn, is very COMMON. I can't say if it is normal or abnormal, but it is definitely common among many men.

[d'Artagnan]

Originally Posted by jaz99

I hate him. I hate him for doing all these and ruining the trust I had for him. This is not the 1st time I found out already. I know he will not change. I hate him for causing hurt to me and make me try very hard to let go of this relationship and also make me have phobia to go into another relationship again.

can understand you feel betrayed but blaming him of having a phobia to go into a new relationship is a little too far?