Safe to travel alone with PRC GF back to China?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Practical as in? Or force myself to do what?

Can't really visualize what you are advising me bro...

Got acute case of impaired seeing & hearing due to tunnel vision...

Basically it's very simple as long as you can take a neutral step back & look at everything.
I am sure u do not trust her 110% and from your confusion, can sense that there's an internal battle goin on within u......logic and circumstances tell you (A) but your heart tell you to look the otherway or give a benefit of doubt(B).....

End of the day, u gotta be very objective and practical like our other bro mentioned....

Ok you had your fun....you had the pussy....she prolly drank you....now honeymoon period is over.....wake up......is this the path you wanna walk????
Dunno.....think about this recommendation:

1) When someone wants to be wif you (FOR REAL) they'll discuss future plans and how to consolidate both lives to be 1(Also one of their tactics)
2) Luving someone is not suppose to lead to your current state
3) Do you have the time & resources to continue this relationship! Ya u wish to be luvy duvy wif her 24/7 but dont forget, EAT WAT? Love cannot fill tummies
4) Now that you've practically dumped everything you can into it, what do you hope to get back?
5) When the walls start crumbling, guess who will lend you a shoulder to cry on and an ear......only people who really cares and loves you

So, practical means, cut your losses, you've got what every cheongster wants in the 1st place......

Trust me, its hard but its far less painful than to follow thru n see the actual end that will be filled with riddles and questions that can nvr be answered that'll be terrible.
Ever watched a movie or read a book with no ending and so many riddles it make your a complete blurr sotong?
Well, the feeling is a million times worse!

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Basically it's very simple as long as you can take a neutral step back & look at everything.
I am sure u do not trust her 110% and from your confusion, can sense that there's an internal battle goin on within u......logic and circumstances tell you (A) but your heart tell you to look the otherway or give a benefit of doubt(B).....

End of the day, u gotta be very objective and practical like our other bro mentioned....

Ok you had your fun....you had the pussy....she prolly drank you....now honeymoon period is over.....wake up......is this the path you wanna walk????
Dunno.....think about this recommendation:

1) When someone wants to be wif you (FOR REAL) they'll discuss future plans and how to consolidate both lives to be 1(Also one of their tactics)
2) Luving someone is not suppose to lead to your current state
3) Do you have the time & resources to continue this relationship! Ya u wish to be luvy duvy wif her 24/7 but dont forget, EAT WAT? Love cannot fill tummies
4) Now that you've practically dumped everything you can into it, what do you hope to get back?
5) When the walls start crumbling, guess who will lend you a shoulder to cry on and an ear......only people who really cares and loves you

So, practical means, cut your losses, you've got what every cheongster wants in the 1st place......

Trust me, its hard but its far less painful than to follow thru n see the actual end that will be filled with riddles and questions that can nvr be answered that'll be terrible.
Ever watched a movie or read a book with no ending and so many riddles it make your a complete blurr sotong?
Well, the feeling is a million times worse!

Yes bro the trust I had for her is not strong enough that y I had this internal conflict between (A) logic and circumstances and (B) heart tell you to look the otherway or give a benefit of doubt. Most of the time (B) would win.

Yes now the honeymoon period is sort of over and honestly to based on the points you raised point 1 she has discuss throughly with me how we going to spend out life together as in marriage & financial wise.

For point 3 what do I want in the end? Well for now I want her to come over to Singapore & live with me taking care of each other plus lokk after my family which in turn comes to point 2 which I am planning to save on my resources to continue this relationship on the long run.

For now I hope to get myself out of this limbo, I do appericate the advices given by bros & my friends. Just that I need constant reminder if not I fall back in the limbo again.

Hope I mentally strong enough to pull myself out of this hole which I dug myself into.

[aczeta76]

Btw, wat's your age gap with her?

For me, one of the biggest issue is that I am 12 years older and she is too young for me to trust how she feels about us now.

In fact, after 3 months away from each other, I am starting to think seriously about whether we can work out. Sure, I can get a job in HK (Already got an offer that is paying me 1.5X what I am getting here) but can I leave my family e.g. mum and go there permanently.

Perhaps if she can come over after 3 years then we can start afresh. Because I love her, I dun want to hold her back with our long distance r/s so I think I will break up with her after I go over to ZH to see her one last time in Sep or Oct.

For now, back to cheonging with the lovely MMs here, juz bonk (+ KC) BUT no commitment... Time to close my heart.

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Btw, wat's your age gap with her?

For me, one of the biggest issue is that I am 12 years older and she is too young for me to trust how she feels about us now.

In fact, after 3 months away from each other, I am starting to think seriously about whether we can work out. Sure, I can get a job in HK (Already got an offer that is paying me 1.5X what I am getting here) but can I leave my family e.g. mum and go there permanently.

Perhaps if she can come over after 3 years then we can start afresh. Because I love her, I dun want to hold her back with our long distance r/s so I think I will break up with her after I go over to ZH to see her one last time in Sep or Oct.

For now, back to cheonging with the lovely MMs here, juz bonk (+ KC) BUT no commitment... Time to close my heart.

There is only 1 year difference between us. She is 1 yr older than me. Verified it when I see her passport.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

There is only 1 year difference between us. She is 1 yr older than me. Verified it when I see her passport.

Arhh... then maybe she want to settle down. Age catching up loh...

Good luck to you lah.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

A phrase I learnt when I was watching Kung Fu Panda wif my kid.......hahaha
A confused mind makes rash decisions.
Wait for it to settle then make your decision.
Since the trust factor has surfaced now which shouldnt in REAL LOVE situations, do this.
Do not go into anything more than what it is now.
Yes, do the usual shit u hv been doing.....she wanna chat about settleing down, play along and chat with an open mind....remember, talk is free, no signing of contract and dont make unecessary committments.
Since she's of age, she would not want to loose the opportunity to jump on to any potential ship that sails by.

Time is yours & our friend.....and can also be our enemy.
Let time be your friend & her enemy for it will reveal all........the best is to totally act blurr to everything and then piece them up together yourself as they slowly but surely will surface.....you'll see what you PRAY u nvr see.

I'll bang my last buck on this.....your last post is the missing link that told me the outcome already.....

Steady...ai zhai.....control the situation....dun let it control you......if you need someone to talk to...you can PM me your number & I am more than willing to meet you and tell you wat to do step by step......but u must be cool.....there will be tear jerking sessions but dun let it affect you in any way......just remember, all conclusions r on the palm of your hand!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

I hv received some points deductions and some even comment that they dun like my posting. That's what FLs are for, they tell you u handsome even if u look like crap! Not reality!
Sorry its not pleasing to your ears........i'm not hear to earn points....cant do shit with it.
I've been in this forum for YEARS and they dun mean crap to me.
Well, this episode deals with reality, if you cant deal with it, then its ok, just continue to stay in your lala land....fine with me too.
But for all who upped me, thanks but not necessary in future.

Just doing my part to save someone from falling into a very sad pit, a place that several here, me included, have fallen before.

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Arhh... then maybe she want to settle down. Age catching up loh...

Good luck to you lah.

Thanks bro think me need all the luck I can get.

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Good luck for your trip, which part PRC you going.

Dalian, sir.

Just found out about the 1st July VISA thing after my 1st Q. Anyway, I didn't want to risk it so wasted few hours over 2 days getting it done. S$60 for 60days single entry I believe. I think u guys can also get a tour agency to do it as well.

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

I hv received some points deductions and some even comment that they dun like my posting. That's what FLs are for, they tell you u handsome even if u look like crap! Not reality!
Sorry its not pleasing to your ears........i'm not hear to earn points....cant do shit with it.
I've been in this forum for YEARS and they dun mean crap to me.
Well, this episode deals with reality, if you cant deal with it, then its ok, just continue to stay in your lala land....fine with me too.
But for all who upped me, thanks but not necessary in future.

Just doing my part to save someone from falling into a very sad pit, a place that several here, me included, have fallen before.

Thanks bro for your advice, I must agree that your comments doesn't sound nice but at least in knock a bit of sense into me before I fall back into limbo again. Sorry about this.

So thus what I can do now is keep reading & reading comments again which may be good or bad to remind myself the situation I am in now.

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Hope I mentally strong enough to pull myself out of this hole which I dug myself into.

Hey hey hey! I didn't check in for a day & look @ the posts!

Bro, u are indeed confused. A little lost lamb. I can only say one thing. Your relationship IS NOT STRONG. You are in doubt of your feelings & hers.... you also do not trust her 100%.

FYI, I trust mine 80% only & I'm prepared that if she fools around, I'll cut it & life's back to usual, happy cheonging again. Otherwise, don't think too much since we fool around as well. (well, I haven't yet!) There's more gals out there than we need.

IMO now, if you still have doubts & so confused after this trip. Time to let go. CHOP!

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Just doing my part to save someone from falling into a very sad pit, a place that several here, me included, have fallen before.

Bro, u made some very good posts. Some which we must listen. Sometimes, I check back to read just to face reality too instead of living in dreamland.

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Bro, u made some very good posts. Some which we must listen. Sometimes, I check back to read just to face reality too instead of living in dreamland.

Yes I do find myself coming back to read up on posts just to remind myself to wake up.

This past week been coming here very often to read up on past posts...

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Hey hey hey! I didn't check in for a day & look @ the posts!

Bro, u are indeed confused. A little lost lamb. I can only say one thing. Your relationship IS NOT STRONG. You are in doubt of your feelings & hers.... you also do not trust her 100%.

FYI, I trust mine 80% only & I'm prepared that if she fools around, I'll cut it & life's back to usual, happy cheonging again. Otherwise, don't think too much since we fool around as well. (well, I haven't yet!) There's more gals out there than we need.

IMO now, if you still have doubts & so confused after this trip. Time to let go. CHOP!

Good for you to take things more openly... hope your trip ends up well

[White Lion]

White Lion says when in doubt always look to your wallet and keep your eye on the $$ level at all times.