Long Distance relationship.......

[desk13]

I'll never ever believe in such stuff as I had been biten once liao

[professional]

Originally Posted by desk13

I'll never ever believe in such stuff as I had been biten once liao

If you looking for a quick exit to your marriage, encourage her to go!

[ahpaul25]

Originally Posted by hotdick69

Be supportive of her let her try it out, but remember to sit down and have a good talk to her. I hope this helps, it not the distance but the bond u have with her.

just my 2 cents

What hotdick69 bro mention is TRUE, I myself also invloved in long distance relationship, and here I'm in PRC liao...haha....just be supportive to her lah, that what a guy really need to understand....since her character is strong, the more u bend, the more it will repel.

Originally Posted by desk13

I'll never ever believe in such stuff as I had been biten once liao

Share yr experience here bro....

[SeAHuM]

Originally Posted by DegenerationX

Bros, do u think long distance relationship will affect a married couple alot? Just recently my bro-in-law has asked my wife to go over to Shanghai to help out with his business. My wife is quite eager to go over. I kinda quite reluctant about this but on the other hand, it is a good thing that she goes over as she has been indulging in mahjong (i have posted this on another thread). She has promised and even my bro-in-law has assured me that she can spend one month in Shanghai and one month in Singapore, meaning she has to travel between 2 places. Any advice on whether she should go?

I solved this problem with my gf via phone sex, it works like wonders....

[DegenerationX]

Originally Posted by singexpat

TS, hw come ur BIL can ask ur wife to go suddenly??

well, its not suddenly. my BIL has been asking her to go over for a very long time already, but that time she was too indulge in mahjong, so dun wanna go over. and in fact, i was the one that suggested her to go over in the first place. but i'm worried that the long distance will affect us too much.

[asean]

I suppose you can use this as a test of your relationship. SDince it is your BIL, you can anytime ask her back ... btw this BIL, how is it related, your OC's brother?

[B-ice]

Originally Posted by mvhomme

Not tryiing to be funny or wat.....but have you considered if your wife and BIL may end up doing the unforgivable deed

Frankly, depends on what kinda worry u are in ... worry abt her safety ? worry she might elope ? worry she be unfaithful ? But, i feel worrying abt incest with yr B-i-L is groundless la..... there are so many shanghai girl ard to screw.

Come to think of it... if she is on & off in singapore....arnt u more free from nags and can do yr own stuff?

[Taoist]

Your brother-in law (i figure its your wife's brother) is asking your wife to go over and help in the business.

I think its good. Just that it will be difficult for you to be apart from your wife.

Once she is settled there, you should go over and see what job you can do too. My 2 cents

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by DegenerationX

Bros, do u think long distance relationship will affect a married couple alot?

If the period of time is too long then this will cause problem.

Originally Posted by DegenerationX

She has promised and even my bro-in-law has assured me that she can spend one month in Shanghai and one month in Singapore, meaning she has to travel between 2 places. Any advice on whether she should go?

Shouldn't be a problem. It is better than doing nothing.

[ahpaul25]

Originally Posted by DegenerationX

well, its not suddenly. my BIL has been asking her to go over for a very long time already, but that time she was too indulge in mahjong, so dun wanna go over. and in fact, i was the one that suggested her to go over in the first place. but i'm worried that the long distance will affect us too much.

Just ask her go over to shanghai now, it getting cold nowsadays, later she will regret and come back singapore...hahaha... can preserve our sperms in this period of time, damn cold...., Anyway, it u who started it 1st....

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by DegenerationX

She has promised and even my bro-in-law has assured me that she can spend one month in Shanghai and one month in Singapore, meaning she has to travel between 2 places. Any advice on whether she should go?

Since you had raise this concern, we can assume that you do still love your wife a lot and care for this relationship, remember being apart make the hearts fonder but likewise all relationships require one to put in efforts and nurture it consistently. Being apart for sometime do bring sparks and breathe a new life in a relationship because changes brings in new elements. With her in China working may make her to appreciate you more and also treasures what she has now. Vice versa, it may just grew your desire for her as well.

Look at it on the bright side, there are many couples being away for a long time and yet managed to stay together and be happy too, it all boils down to efforts and commitments. If you are worry about Shanghai guys wooing your wife, I think you may quit worrying. Given the strong character of your wife and the general overall standard of Shanghai guys, I guess they are still no match for you.

Originally Posted by cuteguy

if ur wife is chio...mayb ur bro in law has sth in mind...and since she so keen to go over..i think maybe sth is happening between them...hehehehehe...

Are you hinting incest if they are siblings? Guess bros here would appreciate if you keep yourself to yourself if you have nothing constructive to contribute.

[Steadyman1]

Originally Posted by DegenerationX

Bros, do u think long distance relationship will affect a married couple alot? ..

Ask yourself these questions
1. Issue with Relationship?
2. Issue with long distance?
3. Issue with Mahjong?

Any combination with issue 1 mean better not unless you want to let go.
Any issue with Mahjong is not a valid reason.
So if good relationship then you may let her try but she must get herself prepare. Likewise for you.

[DegenerationX]

thanks to all the bros for your advice. i guess i would just have to be supportive of her and let her try out in shanghai.

[Derelict]

I have been sitting on the fence regarding this topic but after reading some of the replies I felt I should at lease say my piece since there are too many questions unanswered.

First of all does your brother in law know that she has a habit of playing mahjong and is that the reason he is asking her to join him? Was there a fight with you and your wife that he knows about? Is it a talking point? How is his relationship with you, do you go fishing together?

If it is none of the above than I think there is definately funny about your brother in law. Who in their right mind would want to split a couple in all seriousness. Put yourself in his shoes, would you want to split any of your married relatives apart? If your answer is yes than go for it. I think long distance might just work for you.

If no than I suggest you make a point to find out more. For example the lodging facilities where she will be staying. The working environment, are they all females. Her job scope does it require to be in grp or solo. The working hours like will there be shifts, etc. All of the above are just a few questions that might make or break a relationship if it is duly tested.

Dont get me wrong I personally think a long distance relationship CAN work but it requires commitment and most importantly trust. So long as you are able to accept certain changes in yourself and most importantly her than I think it will work. Just to eleborate, her work might require her to attend to phone calls at any time even while she is in Singapore it could be work related or friends, so long as you are not suspicious than I guess its all cool. She could start wearing cloth that might be a lil 'different' from her usual. Character change due to fatigue or maybe her newly acquired confidence. From housewife to a working lass can really change a person. If you can accept those minor or major changes like i pointed out above than you are good to go.

Long distance relationship between courting couple before marriage and after marriage are not the same.

My two cents worth

[singexpat]

Originally Posted by DegenerationX

well, its not suddenly. my BIL has been asking her to go over for a very long time already, but that time she was too indulge in mahjong, so dun wanna go over. and in fact, i was the one that suggested her to go over in the first place. but i'm worried that the long distance will affect us too much.

i c..

well, if u had suggested her to go in e first place, its kinda weird for u to back out nw..

MJ veri subjective, she can play here.. n i tink in shanghai oso hav..
but exchange rate favourable to u rite?

nwadays communication veri easy, can use skype, webcam etc..

i was in long distance relationship few yrs back wif my then gf, nw OC...
n i was in Laos, even worse situation due to high internet fees wif 256k dialup, bad n ex phone lines..
onli come back evry 3-4 mths for 1 week..

so ur situation is rather managable, time to try webcam sex perhaps?

n oso, absence makes e heart fonder..

cheers!