Can men be happily married and still have affair?

[desperateman123]

Originally Posted by maxsee

This applies only to the TIKO PEhs lah....Not everyone is desperate for sex...there are a lots of things out there in the world that is better than sex...

Haha... I agree... but I think sex with the right person is also as good as many things out there... haha

[curious11]

Originally Posted by lawry

Why is there a men thing?
Go google. The latest report by straits times- 50% of strays are caused by women aka adultery.

Why women can have an affair even they're happily married?
For women here who had or having An affair is that true?

http://www.straitstimes.com/singapor...t-just-the-men

Voluptuousvenus, stop men bashing please

Wait.. unless the men are gay to cheat, surely it will be 50% down to woman no?

[voluptuousvenus]

Originally Posted by lawry

Why is there a men thing?
Go google. The latest report by straits times- 50% of strays are caused by women aka adultery.

Why women can have an affair even they're happily married?
For women here who had or having An affair is that true?

http://www.straitstimes.com/singapor...t-just-the-men

Voluptuousvenus, stop men bashing please

Oh Lawry, I'm not bashing men. I want to understand men. But I realized we should not overthink because it is the same for both men and women. We don't want to lose the important people in our lives for the sake of our need of attention and appreciation. So we end up seeking attention outside of our marriage - may it be emotional or physical.

Sure having someone to chat with daily and say sweet nothings excite all of us. Virtual relationship could be fake but the feelings are so damn real. Haaaay we are all emotional people after all...

[Bullshitlar]

Originally Posted by Slurpy123

I am married with 2 primary school kids. My wife is a good person, she try to be a good mother and wife but unfortunately her temper is red hot - many people and not just me find that difficult to handle. the key issue here is she is not a bad person but difficult person and I am not the only one saying that.

I lost interest with her honestly - having to exercise patience and be very careful when I communicate with her so as not to trigger her. I also have to give in m any a times because there are issues which is just her way or the high way.

So I am not exactly happily married, but it is a make do relationship. give and take . Now I confess I am now into relationship with other girls - Vietnamese to be exact - yes I have an affair but I still provide for my family - everything.

as for the Vietnamese, my take is they are all economic. I don't think any one like us Singaporean (maybe not 100% but the bulk of them) because we are handsome or anything but it is an outlet to a better life. I compensate them , their time b allowances, thought I did not tell them I am married.

I am not sure where it will lead me to eventually, I will be careful but I hope a short fling here and here don't do too much damage and ends in divorce .

I pray.

Not to offend you but seriously it will never be a short fling. It will always resurface once in awhile until u finally get caught.

I suggest u talk to ur wife to save your marriage. Not easy to talk to somebody who never respect you and scold you up side down over small things, i know. I been there. Tell her how u feel, she doesn't want to change then just leave her. Eventually if she really love u, she will drop her ego and pride for you. If not then maybe its over.

U can still be a gd father in your kids eye if u end it without the shitstorm. When u end it in peace, u can see anyone you like. Be a gd father and still be friendly with ur ex wife instead of war.

[happywoody]

Sometimes, it's not any fault of the wife's.

She may be doing a good job keeping house, or even working to contribute to the household. Of course, with most things in life, the novelty wears off with time. It takes a lot of work and will to make a marriage work. Routine sets in, and it's not easy raising kids and making ends meet.

Sometimes we have something outside and blame ourselves. It's our groin leading the way. We are just horny. Truth is, we can do without the affair. But it's easier to give in and say, "Now I can take more shit at home." Sort of our own compensation. The guilt balancing the hardship. But deep in our heart of hearts; we know we are cheating ourselves. it takes a stronger man to say no.

So, no it's not the wife's fault.
It's ours.

[freezetheDB]

Originally Posted by happywoody

Sometimes, it's not any fault of the wife's.

She may be doing a good job keeping house, or even working to contribute to the household. Of course, with most things in life, the novelty wears off with time. It takes a lot of work and will to make a marriage work. Routine sets in, and it's not easy raising kids and making ends meet.

Sometimes we have something outside and blame ourselves. It's our groin leading the way. We are just horny. Truth is, we can do without the affair. But it's easier to give in and say, "Now I can take more shit at home." Sort of our own compensation. The guilt balancing the hardship. But deep in our heart of hearts; we know we are cheating ourselves. it takes a stronger man to say no.

So, no it's not the wife's fault.
It's ours.

thats very true. If the wife puts in effort for the family and husband, remain faithful, if the guy still eats out, its just an excuse not getting that BJ+CIM at home

[happywoody]

the sex at home needn't necessarily be bad.

it's more the opportunity that presents itself - and of course having the resources (time, money and will) to turn the opportunity to reality.

[voluptuousvenus]

Originally Posted by happywoody

the sex at home needn't necessarily be bad.

it's more the opportunity that presents itself - and of course having the resources (time, money and will) to turn the opportunity to reality.

Especially if there is someone willing enough to risk their marriage with u... Takes 2 to clap.

[Atomants]

Originally Posted by voluptuousvenus

I have read somewhere that men can have an affair even if they are happily married. For married men here who had or having affair, is that true?

Looking back I think having an affair is NOT all about Sex, It is something more than sex itself, Why do people stray in the first place? It has to do alot with the relationship and or other issues in their lives , perhaps their relationship is one that is not so fulfilling and perhaps they are seeking "love" where they couldn't get from their spouse or family and there is this inner needs to look for it somewhere else.

It is a contribution of many different factors.

So the thing is IF they are happily married they probably won't stray wouldn't they.

Affairs are not only not sex but they are "feeling" filled with emotion of love, sex and jealousy and that's where the danger comes in. These are the hardest part to deal with .

As a spouse YOU will NOT get 100% of attention and most likely below 50% because i believed it is difficult to split one attention when you are in an affair and most probably the one that got showered more is unlike the spouse.

Having said that then it goes back to the question If someone is happily married would they even stray and have affair in the first place? Maybe not.

Just Sharing.

[happywoody]

Originally Posted by voluptuousvenus

Especially if there is someone willing enough to risk their marriage with u... Takes 2 to clap.

yes after all it's between two consenting adults.

at the very basic level, it's biological - the perpetuation of the species.
it used to be accepted that men sow their wild oats. but it's becoming very clear that women like their choices and options too.

in my opinion, the woman is the more powerful half. she actually decides whether the affair can happen. the man can woo, lavish and charm but she holds the final key

[Xyberduke]

ANSWER IS NO.

You are talking about an affair here.
While our dicks poke around, our heart remains inside us.

[huatonglai]

if sex life not enough sure will find affair outside.

[seaman6969]

Sometimes a marriage can stay happy because of the affair.

Anyway all women are the same. A nice mistress will turn into a tiger if one marries her.

[undergroundtree]

Originally Posted by seaman6969

Sometimes a marriage can stay happy because of the affair.

r.

Seriously? How...........

[SehGod]

stupid question. if a woman got affair and tells u she is actually happy to be with u will u believe?