Problem .... how you will solve it

[masterbed]

Originally Posted by chenggh

Ask her why she do it with the collegue, she tell me she is not the 1st time doing it already as she love him. Ask her how abt her husband she say the same..

I stopped reading at there

if it were me I'll find her husband, spill all the beans, & encourage him to file for divorce

Wait...you want to help HER? I suggest you ask her to look up in the dictionary for the word 'MARRIAGE'

[viewsonic]

[Worse scenario, child belongs to colleague, get a divorce, and get married to the colleague? the child will still have a intact family... not too bad right?

Better scenario, child belongs to husband, wife begs for forgiveness for committing adultery again. i'm sure the husband will forgive her. I mean, hey, we will be celebrating the arrival of a new life soon, get over it already!

I believe in the latter scenario, as courage and honesty will always be rewarded...[/QUOTE]
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Worst scenario, Husband divorce her and her colleague decided not to bear the responsibility and aviod her......She is all alone to face the music.

Worse scenario, child belongs to colleague, get a divorce, and get married to the colleague?

Not too bad?

Migrate to America and was treated as a second class resident.....Her new amercian husband go cheong again and found a new girlfriend.....
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If she want to have fun outside, she should be prepared for things like these to happen.

Every of us here for sure want our beloved partner to be faithful to u. I felt that it will be too hard to "swallow" if my wife was in her position and i believe most of u guys will feel the same.

As what Bros masterbed said, "look up in the dictionary for the word 'MARRIAGE'".

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[Mightaswell]

My view is that she should divorce her husband as she obviously doesn't love him anymore. She will forever carry the guilt in her but c'est la vie.

Advise the colleague that he could be the father.

Carry the pregnancy to full term and then obtain paternity support from the responsible party.

Lots of women have successfully brought up children as a single parent and is not taboo.

[GoForIt]

I will advice her to approach the new found luv & confess tis incident to him.

(1) If he can accept the situation she is having now & bear responsibility,than count herself lucky.Divorce her hubby & move to States.

the unlucky one will be her wear 'green hat' hubby,kena play out by her selfish action.

(2) If her new found luv try to give excuses & 'siam'.Good at least know he is jus fooling around with her & wake up her fcuking idea.

*I don't think the new found luv will take up the responsibility,maybe it's known to been a no string fcuk around relationship afterall*

(3) Abort the baby (which i hate to recommand) & get her prepare to face bad karma.I'm sure tis incident will haunt her forever.Try to find excuses to face her husband about the abortion if he already known it but I doubt so.

(4) Tell her hubby about her unacceptable action pack story & face the music.If hubby accept,count herself lucky if the baby hair is black or otherwise blond,than it will be than problematic liao.


really sad case to see marry women fooling around & kena pregnant
but if she is still having a healthy relationship with her hubby,which i believe cos still can bonk before flying off.than is her own loose moral that damage her life than i don't think she deserve any help or advice cos the one kena & need care is her innocent hubby

[yohooo]

bros... no offence, but how many married bros actually still come out to cheong? not trying to mean anything but when temptations are too strong to resist... how can we resist?

the thing has happened... no point pointing fingers at the lady la, i guess she's feeling shameful that's why she's worrying now... i guess bros here will be able to provide some good suggestions...

personally i think it's better that she goes for the abortion...
firstly... if the child turn out to be the ang moh one, being in a pure chinese family will bring the child alot of finger-pointings even when the child is still young, the child will not be able to grow up normally... plus the parents will be under alot of stress and may just vent their frustrations on the child, or may even call the child a jinx... that's if the husband is willing to forgive the wife and accept the unborn child now...

secondly... if the child turn out to be the husband's, then if she brought out this issue to the husband, then this child will somehow become a 'weapon' that affects the family... even if the child is the husband's, what would he think of this child that while the child is inside the mother's womb, another man just bonk the mother and shoot the sperm inside the womb that the unformed child is growing in? in scientific view, it does not matter... but mentality wise, the father may think that this child is 'fility' and thus treat this child badly?

thirdly... what if the wife decide to keep the child, and then husband divorce her, and ang moh just run... she'll be a single parent to the child... same thing, the child will still suffer finger-pointing... the child may just have to suffer mentally... and emotionally...

thinking about alot of possibilities... does keeping the child good for the child? as in even if the child can take the finger pointing, but can we be sure that the child can take it when he/she knows that his/her mom was divorced cos she did something wrong? the child may just feel more terrible... precisely it's the mistake by the adult, all the more should not let the young one suffer... no matter how 'open-minded' the society is, adultery is still unaccepted by the bulk... once a person is discovered of committing an adultery, he/she will be 'condemned' by the society... and the 'product' of the adultery is all the more 'despised'... it's the harshness of the society that i think abortion is the best option(i personally hate to see people going for abortion unless the mother's life is endangered) i guess the root is still... if she can cover up this time, if she still dont behave... i guess it's better that she just confess to her husband and file for divorce... it's not fair to the husband at all(that's if husband behaves himself la)...

no offence to anyone, just providing some suggestions...

[plain]

Originally Posted by whoelse1000

It is not right to push the wrongdoings of the adults to the unborn child. She should just be truthful abt it and if her husband really love her, they can work it out.

easier said then done. what if it backfires ? husband may be nice, but EVERYONE has a limit. whats his ?

[wirelessdick]

hello bros,
every guy has his own limit. But how can anybody accept the fact that his wife has been fucking with her colleague? and worst of all, dont even know whose child in her womb!!! walau man... i might be old fashioned but this is too much ....

One thing i notice is that a lot of asian girls are willing to do silly things for ang moh. Correct me if i am wrong...

[BustLover]

The best way to move forward is:-

Confront the American colleague. Tell him that she is pregnant with his child and see how he intend to solve it. If he loves her, he will want to marry her.

She can then keep the child.

But if he treats her like a sex toy, he will suggest that she abort the chid.
By now, she should learn her lesson. Go for the abortion and be faithful to her husband.

That is my advice for your colleague.
Cheers.

[chenggh]

Read all the reply.... thk for all the brother here.

TCSS with her. Here are some of the further information gather.

Ask her whether the ang mo (American) is truely love her. She say don ready know.Her relationship with her belong to those just happy together type.

Base on her expression, I think the ang mo belong to those play play type. She having decided any thing yet so far. She intend to go for abotion, however she is worry that the child belong to her husband.

Never influence her on anything, just be a good friend by listening.

Went straight home after that read all the reply given by brother out here.

[see see only]

i hate to suggest tis.
1= if 1 month odd not more than 1 half month, go to a GP tel him auntie alway visit irregularly, tis time auntie late again i need a injection to invite her now as 1 week later go a important trip. Ur auntie will wash away everything (but very very heavy and many cramp), 2/2 positive cases alr.
2= after 1 half month, kk will settle, every1 knows.

[viewsonic]

Originally Posted by chenggh

Read all the reply.... thk for all the brother here.
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Went straight home after that read all the reply given by brother out here.

Bro chenggh,
I was told by my wife that the week after their period end, was also the best time the eggs were being release in the viginal.

So those couples who normally make love at these time will hv a veri good chance to hv a baby.

Maybe u can check with her......

[see see only]

Originally Posted by viewsonic

Bro chenggh,
I was told by my wife that the week after their period end, was also the best time the eggs were being release in the viginal.

So those couples who normally make love at these time will hv a veri good chance to hv a baby.

Maybe u can check with her......

Bro no hard feeling, In most cases, 1st week (we called it the safe safe timing to do it raw) the factory still producing la, mus after ard min 3-4 days or 2nd - 3rd week +, oni this period the eggs r fully rready to be fertilised. (me 2 shot 2 kill, somemore got check timing for getting boyboy wan ok)(now dont ask me lor, years liao but can check)
And at 3rd week ++ even eggs kana fertilised auntie will wash them away.
BUT pls take note, accident or cock up do happens!!!!

Alamah getafe last min goal, lose $ liao. GO SLEEEP LIAO

[jackylee]

Originally Posted by masterbed

I stopped reading at there

if it were me I'll find her husband, spill all the beans, & encourage him to file for divorce

Wait...you want to help HER? I suggest you ask her to look up in the dictionary for the word 'MARRIAGE'

Ya bro i agree with you.

It's her fault at first for playing punk outside while she's married. What i'm more concerned about this matter is adultery. Since she played against her husband, she should be ready to carry any responsiblity including abortion or divorce!

[viewsonic]

Originally Posted by see see only

Bro no hard feeling, In most cases, 1st week (we

Alamah getafe last min goal, lose $ liao. GO SLEEEP LIAO

Ooooh.... noted.

[Mahalapa]

to the treadstarter,

just lend her a hearing ear will do,pls dont advice anything cos any result fr ur advice will be link to u & share the bad karma