Trouble with a capital T...

[Stud00]

Ts,

I nearly died laughing after reading your post..

oh oh... her daddy might be a SBF-rian too..

nah.. just kidding..

i can feel you.. this is quite a nasty situation u r in..

[asdfghjkl]

starting fire.. sounds good, continue!

[1nottiboy]

This is some scary shit!

Anyway if I were you I would just tell her truthfully, see her reaction then decide what to do next.

[Wizrd]

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Thanks to all the bros and campers setting up fire place and all...make sure BYO plenty of drinks and snacks ok? I suspect this saga may become quite drawn out...any bros want to set up food stands are welcome to help themselves..


Before I get into part 2 which will complicate the hell out of the situation...let me quickly go through what I did and what happened after I found out...

So...there I was in the toilet...sitting in the bathtub and had a smoke...my head started to throb from the memories...and I also knew I couldn't hide in there until morning...

I made my way back to the bedroom...she was already half asleep...

She asked me quietly if I was ok...I bullshitted her that something is wrong with my stomach...but will be ok...just go to sleep, I told her...

She reached her arms out for a hug...I got into bed and gave her a hug and we kissed for a minute or two...then she rolled over...and was soon asleep...

The next day...I made all the arrangement to leave one day earlier...She couldn't come see me that night...so I didn't say anything to her about the new plan...we talked on the phone for a bit then she went to bed...I went to the 24 hour Vietnamese cafe for coffee...

It was quite cold...I think 13-15 degrees outside and I was only in shorts and tee shirt...but the cold felt good...kinda numbed the pain I felt inside...

I actually already finished my work there the day before and thought staying 2 extra days would give me time to check out the city...she was not in my original plan and now I had to skip town one day early because of her...


The next morning...the day of the dinner...and also the day I changed my ticket for to leave...I called her around mid morning to tell her that something came up and I had to leave early...sorry but no choice...etc blah blah....

She sounded surprised and worried...is everything ok? What's wrong...

No don't worry...it's work...they need me back in the office...so sorry...

What time is your flight?

Oh, it's 1545...

What time you going to the airport?

I'll be there around 1400...

ok, she said...I'll see you there...

My heart nearly exploded...You coming alone? I asked her...

Of course..she said...who else am I bringing??

Oh...nothing...forget I asked...as I sighed a big relief...

I packed and had lunch with an old friend living in Perth..then he sent me to the airport...

She came at 1415...and ran into my arms...we hugged...she kissed me and there were tears in her eyes...

We sat down for coffee...I told her I will visit her as soon as I can make plans for it...she said she will miss me...all the 'life leave death depart' type of drama lines...

She told me her plans...she had taken leave the next day (my original day of departure)...after dinner, she was going to come over and stay with me...then the next morning, we can have a leisurely breakfast outside...take a stroll along Swan river in the morning...have a picnic lunch in Kings park...then she was going to send me to the airport...our day, she said...

My heart broke...what a girl...

I told her to remember the plan...we will do all of that when I come visit her next...she laughed and nodded...

Too soon...my flight was boarding and I had to go...she held on to my hands but she smiled for me...said she wanted me to remember her smiling and not crying...

But...time wouldn't stop for us...so I had to go...

When I was inside...my phone beeped...she sent me a text with her photo...and asked me to think of her...I replied...of course...

That was 12 days ago...we have been texting each other everyday since...and she has been asking me to send her my photo...I keep acting blur because I know who will get to see my photo and I don't want that to happen yet...

I can't act blur forever...so I thought maybe some bros here will have a good idea on what I should do next...

Oh..yeah...the part 2...let me post that tomorrow evening...please let me know what any of you can come up with from what you know so far...

Thanks for reading...


Cheers.



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[Tazzymercs]

BRO....lol i really wanted to say AI SEH man..but on the other hand i really hate you sia hahaha

ok la..one thing...i tot your motto was not to let the girl send you away or pick you up from the airport..you breaking your rules liao..

another thing..i think you KC the girl ah till i got a nagging little feeling that you are toying the line in between playing with feelings and otherwise lo

beside..i too, following a gut feeling..maybe she will surprise you by coming to SG then really ho seh liao...

girls ah they say one thing, like just casual friends only..but they think other wise lo...abit like you Indo surgeon gf..

but anyway...its either you stick to your motto, cut her loose or really have to consider lo you playboy hahaha...

anyway you teh gong lo..if you use fake names in courting her...please dun send photos la if not father see liao sure tio liao lo..unless you plan to you know fuck that lo lol anyway not in contact with papa bear also ma

if you use real name..send only...then let papa bear be surprise..who knows what maybe in store for you...

but you know yourself la if you really wan the girl for sex or for love lo...if for sex dun care liao lo..if for love..bro..i urge you to reconsider lo..although you may have juicy details..well..still got your indo cuisine to consider ba..i dun think got this thing call best of both worlds de..sometimes have to make minor concessions de..if make minor adjustments..can it still be consider best of both worlds? if not according to your original plans? no free lunch in this world bro hope you understand where i come from lol

i dun condone eating out lol just i dun really enjoy playing with food hahaha coz who knows what will come to bite me back

[henabi]

Oh man... Wiz... That's what I call a "SMALL WORLD"....
I totally understand your feelings right now. Fucking your camp mates daughter...
But I guess theres only two things to do:
1) go MIA. Which may cause even more repercussion if you HAPPEN to bump into them again in Perth or SIN
2) come clean. Tell her the truth and drop the whole relatiOnship and hopefully it ends on a good note. At least even if you bump into her and your camp mate next time, the awkwardness is there but at least only slightly...

[iFuck]

Indeed is a small world . Who would expect this far away from home ?

One thing for sure , you are in deep shit.
Is "between a rock and a hard place".

Telling her the truth...she will be deeply hurt. Might take very long to recover.
Just disappear...I guess not much difference.

Keen to know the outcome. Any spectacular escape ?
Another case study.

[piasen]

Given this situation, come out clean Bro!! there is an honor to maintain with your camp buddy!! everything else is fair and you have not done anything wrong. you have been a gentleman and stay that way. but do mention to her that you freaked out .. and Here is the Truth.

you may not be in bf/gf domain.. but it has not been transactional fxxx either; there is a silent code of being fair and honest here. She is doing that and you need to do your best from that front.

that would be my two cents!!

[acidicavex]

Ppl always like to say "Singapore is very small mai guai. LAN sure can meet one" but for your case TS he can now tell everyone "the world is very small blab blab blab" no such experience and confirm I don't want to be in such a scene. I would really try to avoid see her or keep in touch even u have feeling for her. U wouldn't want her father aka your platoon mate to track u down. And the 1st thing that happen after u open the door is a fist punching your face.

[pakalolo]

Bro, the thing you can do is to come clean with her, after all she was expecting to have a relationship and not just ONS.
She will be hurt for sure but girls get over fail relationship better than guy.
And she will not tell her daddy about you,no girls will tell their daddy she got screwed by his mate.
At most she will tell her daddy that she met someone that used to carried her many years ago.

[Wizrd]

Originally Posted by Tazzymercs

BRO....lol i really wanted to say AI SEH man..but on the other hand i really hate you sia hahaha

ok la..one thing...i tot your motto was not to let the girl send you away or pick you up from the airport..you breaking your rules liao..

another thing..i think you KC the girl ah till i got a nagging little feeling that you are toying the line in between playing with feelings and otherwise lo

beside..i too, following a gut feeling..maybe she will surprise you by coming to SG then really ho seh liao...

girls ah they say one thing, like just casual friends only..but they think other wise lo...abit like you Indo surgeon gf..

but anyway...its either you stick to your motto, cut her loose or really have to consider lo you playboy hahaha...

anyway you teh gong lo..if you use fake names in courting her...please dun send photos la if not father see liao sure tio liao lo..unless you plan to you know fuck that lo lol anyway not in contact with papa bear also ma

if you use real name..send only...then let papa bear be surprise..who knows what maybe in store for you...

but you know yourself la if you really wan the girl for sex or for love lo...if for sex dun care liao lo..if for love..bro..i urge you to reconsider lo..although you may have juicy details..well..still got your indo cuisine to consider ba..i dun think got this thing call best of both worlds de..sometimes have to make minor concessions de..if make minor adjustments..can it still be consider best of both worlds? if not according to your original plans? no free lunch in this world bro hope you understand where i come from lol

i dun condone eating out lol just i dun really enjoy playing with food hahaha coz who knows what will come to bite me back

Hahahaha...bro....


Don't hate me lah bro...we all tan jiak based on our own talents and circumstances...Chinese saying: 'person in river lake, body not up to self'...is very true..
For someone like me...I never eat in...so if eating out is the only option...no point always eating the same dish, right??


Yes...I agree with you that I broke my own rule...but please understand...at that time, my 'square inch big mess' already...at least I covered my tracks...I hope...

My cover story is that I am originally from Malaysia and am P.R. and living in the U.S...so unless picha lobang...unlikely she will find me...also one of the reasons I cannot meet the parents...because they know me...sure way to give up the plot...most bros reading won't know my operating style so I didn't add that to my story here...

I understand that women can say one thing and mean another thing...but my conscience is clear as long as I remain upgront and do not make promises that I never intended to keep...we cannot help it when others make all kinds of assumptions...nor should we be held accountable for that....but we can be upright and at least be honest with what we want from others...that way...the ball is not in my court should they feel hurt...

I think you are right...cutting her loose may be the only option...


Cheers bro...


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[Wizrd]

Originally Posted by henabi

Oh man... Wiz... That's what I call a "SMALL WORLD"....
I totally understand your feelings right now. Fucking your camp mates daughter...
But I guess theres only two things to do:
1) go MIA. Which may cause even more repercussion if you HAPPEN to bump into them again in Perth or SIN
2) come clean. Tell her the truth and drop the whole relatiOnship and hopefully it ends on a good note. At least even if you bump into her and your camp mate next time, the awkwardness is there but at least only slightly...

Originally Posted by iFuck

Indeed is a small world . Who would expect this far away from home ?

One thing for sure , you are in deep shit.
Is "between a rock and a hard place".

Telling her the truth...she will be deeply hurt. Might take very long to recover.
Just disappear...I guess not much difference.

Keen to know the outcome. Any spectacular escape ?
Another case study.

Thanks bros..

You idea is good...MIA seems the only sensible option left...

Since I have not bumped into them in 20 odds years...chance of that happening is very slim...

Cheers bros....


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[Wizrd]

Originally Posted by piasen

Given this situation, come out clean Bro!! there is an honor to maintain with your camp buddy!! everything else is fair and you have not done anything wrong. you have been a gentleman and stay that way. but do mention to her that you freaked out .. and Here is the Truth.

you may not be in bf/gf domain.. but it has not been transactional fxxx either; there is a silent code of being fair and honest here. She is doing that and you need to do your best from that front.

that would be my two cents!!

Originally Posted by pakalolo

Bro, the thing you can do is to come clean with her, after all she was expecting to have a relationship and not just ONS.
She will be hurt for sure but girls get over fail relationship better than guy.
And she will not tell her daddy about you,no girls will tell their daddy she got screwed by his mate.
At most she will tell her daddy that she met someone that used to carried her many years ago.

Thanks bros...but cannot...

There are more at stake here...I do like her a lot but this involves too many people...the web of lies is so difficult to untangle that I am not sure I even dare to try...

When I tell you the part two...you may understand why I rather hurt her than hurt her father...

Cheeers bros...


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[Wizrd]

Originally Posted by acidicavex

Ppl always like to say "Singapore is very small mai guai. LAN sure can meet one" but for your case TS he can now tell everyone "the world is very small blab blab blab" no such experience and confirm I don't want to be in such a scene. I would really try to avoid see her or keep in touch even u have feeling for her. U wouldn't want her father aka your platoon mate to track u down. And the 1st thing that happen after u open the door is a fist punching your face.

Thanks bro...agree with you...

Time to cut the ties I think...


Cheers bro...

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[AlexV]

Wow.

What happened is every fathers worst nightmare. So don't meet him, and don't tell him, UNLESS you are serious about a long term relationship with the girl.

if not, and you know it cannot work (i.e you aren't going to relocate to Perth) then you have to MIA.

Or make up some story so her heart won't be so broken - like spending time with her made you realise that the age difference is too great.