Lets be frank...

[mseveninch]

I use to despised people of going to commercial sex. Why was it so?
Because - at a young aged - I use to see my parents quarrel over women. I don't understand it and made a promised and side my mom.

When I get married - I was like a saint and very faithful to my OC. 3 yrs down the road - my OC have a terrible accident that end her with wheelchair bound for the rest of her life. These take a toll on me sexually. I was deprived from sex because of her condition. I love her very much. At times - my temper flare for no reason.

My OC tolerated with my behavior and help me release it by HJ as a consolation. The best is with BBBJ but not always. In return - me too help her to release her own sexual needs.

One day while giving me the needed release - she suggested that I go for a proper release - I reluctant to do so until I came to know SBF.

Here I read and learn to explore. KS is my first place. Slowly graduate to MP. And soon - during oversea attachment where I have FB ( a local PRC ) till I left the country for my next posting - Malaysia - Indonesia - Philippines and so on.

My OC on the other hand - knows. She always advise me to be careful and helmet must be on. Although I indulge in commercial & FL - it's never be an obsession to me. I go for it once or twice a month for the purpose of releasing / disposing my unused bullet from getting rusty.

As for SBF - me come in here with my OC - reading all bro's comments and contribution. We enjoyed it so much. It's a blessing that I had a understanding OC. Till now - we still do in taking care each other needs - both physical & emotionally.

Those bro's who feel like zap me - goes ahead if you don't like it. The points does not matter to me. I just share a bit of my indulgence here in SBF.

[maestro7]

dats insightful...

thx for sharing

[naturegreen]

Originally Posted by mseveninch

When I get married - I was like a saint and very faithful to my OC. 3 yrs down the road - my OC have a terrible accident that end her with wheelchair bound for the rest of her life. These take a toll on me sexually. I was deprived from sex because of her condition. I love her very much. At times - my temper flare for no reason.

My OC tolerated with my behavior and help me release it by HJ as a consolation. The best is with BBBJ but not always. In return - me too help her to release her own sexual needs.

One day while giving me the needed release - she suggested that I go for a proper release - I reluctant to do so until I came to know SBF.

*Salute* After reading what you have written, you made me feel sex isn't everything but it is just something one needs. And your wife's selflessness to ask you to go for a proper release.... not every woman can tolerate and do that. 3 cheers for your wife.

[orneryjoe]

Is being unfaithful to your partner immoral?

Here's the opinion of a clever fellow: http://richarddawkins.net/articles/1926 .

[jlim6233]

thanks everyone for your frank comments.
i guess for me, the guilt is not about religion or morality per se... but its a more complex mix of
1) betraying the OC's expectations... expectations which i may not agree with but nevertheless the very act of betrayal confers guilt if you get what i mean; and
2) a fear of bringing upon health risks to the OC which she is not entitled in any circumstance.

these are honestly the feelings i have.
wondering if you folks share that too.

cheers.

[geckoSG]

Let's be frank?

OK... from now on, you can call me FRANK... FRANKIE also can...

[orneryjoe]

Originally Posted by jlim6233

thanks everyone for your frank comments.
i guess for me, the guilt is not about religion or morality per se... but its a more complex mix of
1) betraying the OC's expectations... expectations which i may not agree with but nevertheless the very act of betrayal confers guilt if you get what i mean; and
2) a fear of bringing upon health risks to the OC which she is not entitled in any circumstance.

these are honestly the feelings i have.
wondering if you folks share that too.

cheers.

Truth be told, I have exactly the same concerns. We have to learn to deal with it over time, I guess -- there's no easy solution that would ease the conscience. One could stop all the extra-marital activities of course -- but that's very difficult too.

The best one can do is to be discreet (if she doesn't find out, she can't be hurt) and to take precautions (just don't do it raw -- most working ladies know enough about sexual health to insist on condoms anyway).

If anyone has better solutions to share, I would sure like to hear them.

[Sex4Love]

you know sometimes your wife is very tired after a hard day of work and all she needs is not to be disturbed at the end of the day, and here comes the purpose of commercial sex !

commercial sex is something like outsourcing of sex duties

your wife or your gf cannot cope with your high needs, so this commercial sex helps to lighten your wife/gf's burden

I think those wives/girlfriends should be thankful of those hardworking sex workers for helping them to lighten their burden, it is just the same like getting a maid to help to relieve her household load.

look, even if you're a vegetarian, this doesn't mean a pig's life will be spared

so, if you want to 'release' and if your wife cannot satisfy you, just do it

life is short, why think so much ?!

Make love more, don't make more enemies

[Joe_Black_Star]

Originally Posted by mseveninch

I use to despised people of going to commercial sex. Why was it so?
Because - at a young aged - I use to see my parents quarrel over women. I don't understand it and made a promised and side my mom.

When I get married - I was like a saint and very faithful to my OC. 3 yrs down the road - my OC have a terrible accident that end her with wheelchair bound for the rest of her life. These take a toll on me sexually. I was deprived from sex because of her condition. I love her very much. At times - my temper flare for no reason.

My OC tolerated with my behavior and help me release it by HJ as a consolation. The best is with BBBJ but not always. In return - me too help her to release her own sexual needs.

One day while giving me the needed release - she suggested that I go for a proper release - I reluctant to do so until I came to know SBF.

Here I read and learn to explore. KS is my first place. Slowly graduate to MP. And soon - during oversea attachment where I have FB ( a local PRC ) till I left the country for my next posting - Malaysia - Indonesia - Philippines and so on.

My OC on the other hand - knows. She always advise me to be careful and helmet must be on. Although I indulge in commercial & FL - it's never be an obsession to me. I go for it once or twice a month for the purpose of releasing / disposing my unused bullet from getting rusty.

As for SBF - me come in here with my OC - reading all bro's comments and contribution. We enjoyed it so much. It's a blessing that I had a understanding OC. Till now - we still do in taking care each other needs - both physical & emotionally.

Those bro's who feel like zap me - goes ahead if you don't like it. The points does not matter to me. I just share a bit of my indulgence here in SBF.

Sorry to hear about your OC plight. Everyone has their needs. You are a good soul. I've heard abt guys leaving their OCs when faced by certain circumstances. You looked after her well and started looking for other release after her approval. I salute you Bro. Look after yourself well and be careful out there. Play safe.

[DannyBoy4]

Originally Posted by mseveninch

I use to despised people of going to commercial sex. Why was it so?
Because - at a young aged - I use to see my parents quarrel over women. I don't understand it and made a promised and side my mom.

When I get married - I was like a saint and very faithful to my OC. 3 yrs down the road - my OC have a terrible accident that end her with wheelchair bound for the rest of her life. These take a toll on me sexually. I was deprived from sex because of her condition. I love her very much. At times - my temper flare for no reason.

My OC tolerated with my behavior and help me release it by HJ as a consolation. The best is with BBBJ but not always. In return - me too help her to release her own sexual needs.

One day while giving me the needed release - she suggested that I go for a proper release - I reluctant to do so until I came to know SBF.

Here I read and learn to explore. KS is my first place. Slowly graduate to MP. And soon - during oversea attachment where I have FB ( a local PRC ) till I left the country for my next posting - Malaysia - Indonesia - Philippines and so on.

My OC on the other hand - knows. She always advise me to be careful and helmet must be on. Although I indulge in commercial & FL - it's never be an obsession to me. I go for it once or twice a month for the purpose of releasing / disposing my unused bullet from getting rusty.

As for SBF - me come in here with my OC - reading all bro's comments and contribution. We enjoyed it so much. It's a blessing that I had a understanding OC. Till now - we still do in taking care each other needs - both physical & emotionally.

Those bro's who feel like zap me - goes ahead if you don't like it. The points does not matter to me. I just share a bit of my indulgence here in SBF.

I too salute you bro. Take care and be careful when cheonging outside.
Your OC has a strong courage. I salute her too.

[DannyBoy4]

Originally Posted by jlim6233

how many of you guys are married/steadily attached, yet still pay for commercial sex? its a terribly guilty obsession which i really feel conflicted with...
anyway just want to hear what do you guys think.

I too have this dilemma, maybe other bros can help.
I have two options: FB or commercial

Used to have FB, but FB gone back home. When having FB, sex is good, because there is feeling. At that time, no commercial sex. When with FB, I was thinking commercial sex is better (but did not try), because I thought that with comm, no need for feeling, no worries for getting caught, and just pay and release.

No no FB, try comm. But no feeling. After shot, feeling empty (also worry kena STD all time). Almost everytime after comm, there is an empty feeling and regret, why I did it. I now thought FB is much better. Now trying to get FB. But I know later, FB will bring headache.

That's the dilemma. Is outside yard always greener. That's what I am afraid of.

[mseveninch]

Originally Posted by Joe_Black_Star

Sorry to hear about your OC plight. Everyone has their needs. You are a good soul. I've heard abt guys leaving their OCs when faced by certain circumstances. You looked after her well and started looking for other release after her approval. I salute you Bro. Look after yourself well and be careful out there. Play safe.

Hi bro's. thanks for your comments & advised.

Sure.......be safe...

[mseveninch]

Originally Posted by DannyBoy4

I too salute you bro. Take care and be careful when cheonging outside.
Your OC has a strong courage. I salute her too.

Hi bro's....thanks for the comments...

[muscle]

Recently ended ties with my 2 fb.. Felt a slight relieved n the phobia of getting caught by OC is off my shoulders now... Bt i still eat out whenever OC is away bt its thru commercial sex, fuck, pay n fuck off....

[muscle]

Originally Posted by DannyBoy4

I too have this dilemma, maybe other bros can help.
I have two options: FB or commercial

Used to have FB, but FB gone back home. When having FB, sex is good, because there is feeling. At that time, no commercial sex. When with FB, I was thinking commercial sex is better (but did not try), because I thought that with comm, no need for feeling, no worries for getting caught, and just pay and release.

No no FB, try comm. But no feeling. After shot, feeling empty (also worry kena STD all time). Almost everytime after comm, there is an empty feeling and regret, why I did it. I now thought FB is much better. Now trying to get FB. But I know later, FB will bring headache.

That's the dilemma. Is outside yard always greener. That's what I am afraid of.

True bro fb is better coz its more like luv making than juz pure sex but when they start to get touchy n when d feeling start to build up thats when d migraine start to pick up... Wats worst when OC began to suspect.. Happened to me before n dun wish to be in dat state anymre...