The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[Klein76]

Bro, i understand your situation,Be Strong & take care...

Cheers

[howck001]

bro HEYE,

i really don't know.... i strongly believe on you...

now a days...women also want cheat and eat outside... they claim they want to enjoy the life...
bloddy shit...is that a enjoyment ?


Howck

[heye]

tks bro ,

i just wish everyone can tink twice before goin into marriage.
It is not about 2 people , if kids are involve tings are pretty much complicated.

[cutecuteboy]

Originally Posted by heye

We went into relationship because of love. She gave me great memories.
I was proud of her as my wife as she is really very charming and beautiful.
But she was nv there for me when i was down.

Was that the reason why you married her?

I believe all men love to have a trophy wife but end of the day, character compatability and common goal is far more lasting.

Sorry to hear about ur predicament but she is still young and I am absolutely sure she will have many more heartaches for you till she matures.

Perhaps you should think harder about the path in front and not just for the sake of the child, though I can understand he is the main focus in your life now.

Last of all, please start moving your assets, cash to your parents name park it under their bank acct or smthing, not a joint acct mind you.
Should a divorce case arise, you will be glad you heed this advise when she asked for 50% of your assets.

Good luck bro.

[pocketrocket]

I guess you learned to get used and comfy with your partner eventually and hope for the best.

[WRX_STI]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Truly, if you find right one, also need to maintain one. If not, the right one can also turn into wrong one. People change and you can't do much about it.

Sounds like home run bro

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by WRX_STI

Sounds like home run bro

I went through a lot of shit before. Used to post in this thread under my other old nick. But, after so many years, everyone still facing same problem. TS disappeared though. lol.

Lessons are learnt and to be shared, so that everyone can be better and avoid making same mistakes.

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by cutecuteboy

Last of all, please start moving your assets, cash to your parents name park it under their bank acct or smthing, not a joint acct mind you.
Should a divorce case arise, you will be glad you heed this advise when she asked for 50% of your assets.

Good luck bro.

Which is why I strongly believe in marriage is no longer as holy as before. People are no longer selfless. You can be the greatest guy on earth, but the gal may not be worth a single cent. Vice versa.

A friend advised me to consider a pre-nuptial agreement to avoid such haggles with the splitting of assets later. Then, I asked him.... whats the point of getting married then? Might as well dun even marry.

If anyone is reading this, remember that end of the day your gf or wife can become a stranger. Thats the worse that can happen. You can do everything to make her happy, but what she believes in is not within your control. A woman is.... after all a woman. There is no logic or flow in how they think. I'm not being chauvinistic, but it seems to be the case (from what I heard, read and experienced).

To quote an old friend, women marry up, they don't marry down. When they song, they go. When they no song, they still go. But, a woman who is worth keeping and striving for is one that stands by you, when your car breaks down. When all falls apart and the woman still there, you know she is the one. When she has no money and she die die won't want you to know, she is lagi worth keeping. If she every now and then say no money, you know she not so straight forward. When you know she bothers to intro you to the important people in her life, you know she is at least marriage material. For your sake, she can just say dun go out with friends, lagi best.

But, if she only come when you have money, then she can go f spider liao...... My honest two cents.

I admit I am not a saint, but I expect the gal to be a proper gal, if I want to commit my life to her. Otherwise, might as well go find social escorts. Friend says..... sometimes free more expensive than paid. -_-

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by howck001

bro HEYE,

i really don't know.... i strongly believe on you...

now a days...women also want cheat and eat outside... they claim they want to enjoy the life...
bloddy shit...is that a enjoyment ?


Howck

You eat or don't eat, still you lose.

They don't eat, not so bad. But, you die anyway, except later.

If they eat, you still die.

Wtf.... so whats what. No justice.

[Speedbird]

I also would agree that we should married the person who love us mostly. ANd next to the feeling is the SEXLIFE also important.

My budy told me this "If she loves you she would do everything for you"

[heye]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Which is why I strongly believe in marriage is no longer as holy as before. People are no longer selfless. You can be the greatest guy on earth, but the gal may not be worth a single cent. Vice versa.

A friend advised me to consider a pre-nuptial agreement to avoid such haggles with the splitting of assets later. Then, I asked him.... whats the point of getting married then? Might as well dun even marry.

If anyone is reading this, remember that end of the day your gf or wife can become a stranger. Thats the worse that can happen. You can do everything to make her happy, but what she believes in is not within your control. A woman is.... after all a woman. There is no logic or flow in how they think. I'm not being chauvinistic, but it seems to be the case (from what I heard, read and experienced).

To quote an old friend, women marry up, they don't marry down. When they song, they go. When they no song, they still go. But, a woman who is worth keeping and striving for is one that stands by you, when your car breaks down. When all falls apart and the woman still there, you know she is the one. When she has no money and she die die won't want you to know, she is lagi worth keeping. If she every now and then say no money, you know she not so straight forward. When you know she bothers to intro you to the important people in her life, you know she is at least marriage material. For your sake, she can just say dun go out with friends, lagi best.

But, if she only come when you have money, then she can go f spider liao...... My honest two cents.

I admit I am not a saint, but I expect the gal to be a proper gal, if I want to commit my life to her. Otherwise, might as well go find social escorts. Friend says..... sometimes free more expensive than paid. -_-

Yes rich ppl cannt find true love unless both are rich in the 1st place.
Money is the key to all evil ba..... It is good to find somone simple.
Tinking back wat is the differences between PRC gal and our local gal.
Aint they simlimar just that the target group is different.
We guys are loser because we had spoil the woman in the 1st place.

[heye]

Originally Posted by cutecuteboy

Was that the reason why you married her?

I believe all men love to have a trophy wife but end of the day, character compatability and common goal is far more lasting.

Sorry to hear about ur predicament but she is still young and I am absolutely sure she will have many more heartaches for you till she matures.

Perhaps you should think harder about the path in front and not just for the sake of the child, though I can understand he is the main focus in your life now.

Last of all, please start moving your assets, cash to your parents name park it under their bank acct or smthing, not a joint acct mind you.
Should a divorce case arise, you will be glad you heed this advise when she asked for 50% of your assets.

Good luck bro.

Agree with you bro , but somtimes i just had to compromise as the kid is in her hand.
End of the day if she suffer the kid suffer too. I am trying to tie down some terms with her to minimise the damage to the child.

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by heye

Yes rich ppl cannt find true love unless both are rich in the 1st place.
Money is the key to all evil ba..... It is good to find somone simple.
Tinking back wat is the differences between PRC gal and our local gal.
Aint they simlimar just that the target group is different.
We guys are loser because we had spoil the woman in the 1st place.

You are absolutely right. Money is the root of evil. Gals are about the same, regardless of nationality. What also plays a part is the environment and upbringing.

If got money, also better not let other half know. Money corrupts. Chinese saying goes like huan nan jian zhen qing. Dunno how to spell the chinese characters. Lol

[foursquare]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Lessons are learnt and to be shared, so that everyone can be better and avoid making same mistakes.

seems a generation gap. new problems generate quicker than solutions. couples get impatient too easily?

[Fatboy39]

Sometimes it's not about the one you love most.
It's someone that shares a mutual love.
You can love someone like crazy but if she doesn't love you back as much then it has no meaning.
It's also about who is right for you.
If a person is not right for you, you can love each other everyday but may cause tension if the two of you always argue.
Even if you didn't marry the one you love most, if you can co-exist for a long time, I think that you will learn to love each other better that anyone you have loved before.
True love is about knowing the good and the bad and still accepting each other.
And that is what a happy marriage amounting to true love is all about.

I'm no marriage councilor so please don't zap me if you disagree with me or find my statements cheesy.
Well, What do I know?
I think with my wrong head sometimes too.
Hehehe ...!