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Wise word from bro sv.. Me unfortunately falls into what bro sv say, 20 something wan marry. Not a high earner, only mid range, able to support a family comfortably with a little saving each month. The only downside is not able to cheong anymore. All money is for my family. Me is upper range for 20 something. Marriage teach me nothing but responsibility. Now trying to adopt Vietnam child. Call me stupid, but dont know why I do that. God at work.
Calculate before, My monthly salary enough for a 3 child family as long as we live simple. Maybe an outing every Sunday or a all out outing spare no expenses once a month.
Reading through the post, pple may call me naive. So young wan adopt cfm cannot approve blah blah blah, marry so young blah blah blah. But really have affinity with the child. Already sent 500 plus to his grandma for English lesson and another 500 for living expenses. My bx told his grandma money for him, if anyhow use, can forget everything.
even if adopt no approve, at least know English, next time also not so jialiat.
Bros, am I dumb or not, give so much to child unrelated to me.
To some, I dumb, to myself, I find it worthwhile.
Whether its worthwhile or not, you know it the best. The VB, her family and her child, we don't know them, only you know. Open eyes wide and analyse .
Agree, as Chinese saying. Mary chicken follow chicken. Marry dog follow dog. (only applies for ladies.)
Sadly nowadays in a lot of marriages, roles reversed. Wife wear the pants, want anything, poor husband must do.
wife, we must respect.
Wife, we must also show them who wears the pant in the house.
Outside act beng, go home ganna henpecked. Phui.
Not say henpecked or not, but its mutual respect. But its tradition that the spouse follow the husband's family in terms of surname, ethic race and lifestyle. Not they marry us and we follow their surname, our kids become vietnamese and we stop being chinese and lifestyle become totally vietnamese. My family take vietnamese food sometimes, but mostly chinese food. I tell my kids they are chinese, not vietnamese. And I manage household expenditure, not my wife. I still remember till now the super guan lan MIL face when she tell my wife to tell me to let my wife handle my money and i told her NO. I told my wife i hold post graduate degrees in finance, i will manage finances better.
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i dun know what is ks.
all i know is that she request i give her money to build her family a brick house
i will refuse that request for the foreseeable future.
i dun know what is ks.
all i know is that she request i give her money to build her family a brick house
i will refuse that request for the foreseeable future.
KS=khach san = hotel.
Build brick house and then buy big LED TV and then air con and then washing machine and then motorbike and then a car ....... and then aeroplane even....if u cannot follow thru then dun even start... she ask, then just smile and nod knowingly and say nothing will do.... she ask again, smile bigger and brighter a bit more....
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English --> Viet
So far so good --> Cang xa cang tot
i dun know what is ks.
all i know is that she request i give her money to build her family a brick house
i will refuse that request for the foreseeable future.
a person that dun know KS better dun play play with VB...my own opinion...
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Build brick house and then buy big LED TV and then air con and then washing machine and then motorbike and then a car ....... and then aeroplane even....if u cannot follow thru then dun even start... she ask, then just smile and nod knowingly and say nothing will do.... she ask again, smile bigger and brighter a bit more....
i can already see it in my mind.first a brick house.than land.than more and more
things even i cannot imagine that they need.
thanks to reading this forum i know that their family is away first in their mind
25-09-2012, 09:41 AM
